How to find F/F fun without a male involved

[pearlgirl]

Hi all!

I have been looking to meet a single female for myself. My bf is totally cool with it. He'd like to be with us and watch......however he is completely okay with me going out on my own and find a friend/playmate.

I am having a hard time in that I don't really have the ability to go to clubs. I've been trying various personals online, but it always seems that there is a guy attached to every female.

What would you all suggest I try....or am I really asking for the impossible?

Thanks so much!

[ncmd_couple]

Pearlgirl,

I have no idea what sites you have been using. But I know that there are tons of single, or aledgidly single, guys on Swing Lifestyle. Good luck!

S

[tcphoenix]

Originally Posted by ncmd_couple

Pearlgirl,

I have no idea what sites you have been using. But I know that there are tons of single, or aledgidly single, guys on Swing Lifestyle. Good luck!

S

Yup, plenty of guys. The problem is pearlgirl is a... girl looking for a... girl. Lol... Dunno how hard it is to find a bi(female) or lesbian playmate.

T

[ncmd_couple]

Duh.... need more coffee!!!

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by pearlgirl

Hi all!

I have been looking to meet a single female for myself. My bf is totally cool with it. He'd like to be with us and watch......however he is completely okay with me going out on my own and find a friend/playmate.

I am having a hard time in that I don't really have the ability to go to clubs. I've been trying various personals on-line, but it always seems that there is a guy attached to every female.

What would you all suggest I try....or am I really asking for the impossible?

Thanks so much!

What do you have to offer a single female playmate ?

I know that sounds wrong, but seriously. We play with single females. For us we found there were many on line ads with that (boyfriend), somewhere in the background. Usually, its the real motive behind the profile. It would be helpful seeing your profile on one of the sites you are using.

If your wondering why we are successful. Its because we offer more than just a one night stand. That works for single males in a heart beat. Single females however are quite different. Well, let me take that back... We do know one wild woman that kind of lets us know she wants to hook up on a short notice. She and I have a closer connection. Even so, she contacted me, via the INTERNET(Our Swing Lifestyle profile) Honestly, she is a submissive female who was looking for a dominate male/couple. Who in truth, needed to know how I felt, about many things. It was very important to her. There again, she needed my trust long before sex. I answered many questions with complete honesty. Mrs.fun backed me up 100 %. After all, its not like I have much to hide, and there isn't to much I can't talk about openly with my wife at my side.

Other females we play with have a true connection with Mrs.fun more so than me. Either way I can tell you, the true single females we have played with put us under scrutiny. We had to answer many questions. Are you prepared to do that ?

Then there is one playmate that actually is a friend. We knew her, and her ex husband, many years ago. Then we separated, moving away from each other. Their divorce happened a few years later after we lost contact. She then got reacquainted one day by accident, as she stopped into Mrs.funs store. It's not like she was on the rebound. She had been single 10 years since we last saw each other.

We posted in our profile what we have to offer the elusive Bi female for a while. Looking back, I think we offered what we had for several months. Now take into consideration a few facts. We were looking for a single female to date. Or someone who wanted to enjoy our company.

With that we offer allot more than just sex. We looked at it just like anyone els we questioned in the single world. We go out sometimes, doing many different things. Concerts, jazz festivals, a day on the town shopping, movies, heck we have even gone to the Indy 500 with a friend, let alone we like our boat and fishing.... And we do kick back in the lawn chairs on a favorite Island...Been there done that also ... Pop up tent, a campfire and a few drinks... Sorry, thats one of my personal favorites Then there are times I am not with the girls at all. They do have their girls night out. All of the above we do without the pressure of sex in the beginning. Sure we hoped for that. But truth is, we like going out and just spending some time with new friends as well as the sex. I've said it before. We live the lifestyle, sex is the bonus.

Now back to your situation...... Just like the females we date and have as acquaintances. What do you have to offer ? Its really important. Other wise a single bi female for just sex is best found at clubs, house parties, or bi female groups on the INTERNET. We do that also, Bi the way .
One thing I have to question. You are both married to separate people. How do you answer to that with single bi females you are pursuing ? I mean, aren't you turning away females who have a boyfriend when in fact you have a husband and a boyfriend/ partner. I would think thats tough to explain.
The single females we know are very independent. It a big plus. I can honestly say, the females we know don't want drama of any sort. Thats why they chose us. We are pretty simple people really. Low drama, low maintenance.

[realcplub2]

Ok, first need to set the wayback machine to the 70's.. and read the following quote as if Marlon Perkins was saying it..

"Ahh yes, hunting unicorns.."

Searching for single women that either want to play with an audience, or solo with another female is prehaps on of the most dificult things to find within our lifestyle, It does happen, but only when they decide to contact you.

Most every site has single female profiles listed on them, but again, unless they read your profile and decide OK, lets give it a shot, more often than not, you end up wwriting and left wondering if they even open it.

The best we can do, is wish you luck, pray for patience, and then see what happens

[TravlParty]

Female, bi half responding here:

Don't limit yourself to just single females. They're in very high demand, and are called unicorns for a reason. There are many couples where the bi female half can play alone (like us for example).

Make sure you put in your emails that you are a bi-female looking to play alone with a bi-female. It's very similar to single males looking to play with the wife. Both parties will want to meet you, in many cases.

How do you feel about the male partner watching?

Just be firm about your wishes.

Good luck!

[sexcupid]

Originally Posted by pearlgirl

I am having a hard time in that I don't really have the ability to go to clubs. I've been trying various personals online, but it always seems that there is a guy attached to every female.

But you are exactly what you are describing. You have a boyfriend that doesn't mind you finding a chick to play with...that would like to join in if the opportunity presents itself.

Even if you look for profiles of single females, there are quite a few that present the scenario you are trying to be. ie: looking for a single bi-fem to play with, that also has a hubby or bf that is a. aware of what is going on and b. also looking to join in if possible.

Because let's face it....single female profiles probably draw more hits than a couples profile would, but it does seem to me at bit like false advertising to put up an ad as a single and then mention in the profile that you have a BF/hubby that would like to play with you and your newfound SBF playmate. Just put up a couples profile if that's the case. There are couples out there looking for only girl/girl play where the guys only watch and then you have intercourse with only your sweetie.

Good luck with your search.

[pearlgirl]

Thanks guys! You've all given me some great direction. It's why I keep coming back here for feedback. I'd love to find a woman who could go hit the shoe department with just as easily as a bed

I'm totally okay with someone having a bf and them wanting to watch (love putting a good show!!). My BF isn't as comfy with that though. Gotta work on that with him...because our opportunities would surely broaden if he was okay with it.

Onward xoxoxo

[JustAskJulie]

I'd probably focus on non-swinger ad sites if I were just looking for a female for ME without any male involvement, or hit up the local gay club.