Do experienced swingers ever swing with new swingers?

[LICKADESPLIT]

I'm interested in the boards opinions about "soft swinging". If you "full swing" and meet a newbe couple that you clicked with would you be interested in "soft swinging" with them or would you move on?

Do experienced swingers shy away from couples who are new to the lifestyle or when it is their first experience? My boyfriend and I will be traveling within the next few months and plan on going to a club for our first experience and was wondering what you think about couples totally new to the lifestyle?

[Vjklander]

Newbies are good.

[realcplub2]

As a rule, newbie or no, we arent into the whole concept of soft swing.. We have the same arguement for it we always did.. If you are gonna get naked, play, and then jump back to your spouse for the finale, then why bother?

Now as far as the newbie question as written, Do expereinced swingers ever swing with new swingers?

Yes, Some do, We do.. We dont mind proceeding at the pace set by them, sure it can be a bit frustrating, but, then much like anything else in life, sometimes, Its often well worth the wait..

As I said, Some will, others, figure its not worth the time and effort and are looking for the "sure thing".. rather than grow the trust most newbies need to feel, before they can feel comfortable.

[Willing29]

We hope so.

[TravlParty]

We do, but we're a bit more cautious in making sure there's not going to be any jealousy issues. We'd spend more time talking to them, watching the eyes and facial expressions. If we get a hint of one or the other being uncomfortable, we back away.

As for soft swing, whatever works to everyone's satisfaction. Sometimes, just same room (staying with own partner) works too.

We're flexible.

[Brian and Jo]

Yes, we have played with new swingers several times while on vacation at nudist or clothing-optional resorts. When we have been in such a situation we have never tried to force things. It is our policy to encourage the newbies to enjoy themselves and not to lead them into doing anything they would be uncomfortable with. If that means restricting ourselves to soft swinging that is fine with us. Masturbating, watching and oral sex are all very pleaurable activities so far as we are concerned.

[socolais]

I think the question quickly becomes - what do experienced couples look for in newbie couples that would cause them to accept the risks of drama and complicated rules for the opportunity of an exciting playtime.

We haven't played with a newbie couple yet, we're still earning our experienced couple merit badge. I see a potential for a unique excitement in playing with a newbie couple, the freshness, the unpredictability, contributing toward and absorbing their sexual excitement and adventurous spirit.... The part about who's pussy invites who's cock, gets a lot of attention in the discussions, but the objective during the encounter is pure pleasure, tab A into slot B is just a trivial detail.

[bbarnsworth]

My wife and I do not like the idea of experienced swingers not playing with the inexperienced. I realize there can be potential problems with some newbies. But, from our perspective we both are happy to help people along in their self exploration. Maybe it means we play less and talk more. We're ok with that.

As another poster said, sometimes it is well worth the wait. There's one woman whom I soft swapped with who is not ready for full swap yet. Her husband is, but he isn't going to full swap until she's ready to full swap. Judging by various things she said and did, she's very close to being ready for full swap. She's never had another man but her husband. I'd love to be the second man. Patience will win the day, and all I have to do is wait

[Alura]

We have played with newbies and would again although "soft swap" has never been a part of our routine. We wouldn't rule it out but we prefer the full experience.

There are a lot more important aspects to consider in a Playcouple than the level of their experience.

Mr. Alura

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by LICKADESPLIT

I'm interested in the boards opinions about "soft swinging". If you "full swing" and meet a newbe couple that you clicked with would you be interested in "soft swinging" with them or would you move on?

Do experienced swingers shy away from couples who are new to the lifestyle or when it is their first experience? My boyfriend and I will be traveling within the next few months and plan on going to a club for our first experience and was wondering what you think about couples totally new to the lifestyle?

Are you hot?

Seriously.

There are reasons to 'vet' newbie swingers to see if they are really interested or not, but there is nothing about newbies which equals 'dont' touch'.

We were all newbies once.

[good times]

While we often play with newbies, as someone else said, we tend to spend more time trying to determine that they are ready for swinging than we would with an experienced couple.

That said, one of the things that usually would put us off to a newbie couple is if they stated that they were only willing to soft swing. In our experience that usually means they have issues that we just don't want to deal with. That is not always the case, but more often than not.

As far as would we do soft swap with someone at all goes. That depends, if the couple is really hot, we might, but we prefer full swap, and when we have done the soft swap thing it usually resulted in a mediocre experience at best for the above mentioned reasons. The fact is, most couples we have met that were only into soft swap, were just not ready for swinging and were more drama than fun.

[mixtupcpl]

I would think if you went to a meet and greet at a club, you could get whatever kind of experience you want pretty quickly since just being there would be a sign to most folks that you are probably pretty ready to do something

Mrs Mix and I would have no interest in soft swap personally (even though we're new to swinging), but I'm sure there are plenty of couples who don't mind that for some casual fun. Especially at a club where lots of stuff is going on and will continue to go on throughout the night

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by good times

The fact is, most couples we have met that were only into soft swap, were just not ready for swinging and were more drama than fun.

There's plenty of exceptions to that rule, our couple being one. Also, the esteemed founder and operator of this board is currently a soft swinger. Channeling Yoda again...

{yoda}
Judge her by her not full swapping do you?
{/yoda}

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by bbarnsworth

{yoda}
Judge her by her not full swapping do you?
{/yoda}

I'm not sure where thats judging though.

Mrs. Chicup calls softswap 'anti-climatic' so we try to avoid those couples if we have a choice. Softswap can be a lot of fun, but its a bit confining too.

All things being equal if we could meet a soft swap or a full swap couple on a given night we will meet the full swap couple, but since rarely all things are equal its just another factor.

[bbarnsworth]

Originally Posted by Chicup

I'm not sure where thats judging though.

Mrs. Chicup calls softswap 'anti-climatic' so we try to avoid those couples if we have a choice. Softswap can be a lot of fun, but its a bit confining too.

All things being equal if we could meet a soft swap or a full swap couple on a given night we will meet the full swap couple, but since rarely all things are equal its just another factor.

Oh sure! I'm just saying that concluding that a soft swap couple has problems, aren't real swingers, etc. is problematic. There's plenty of exceptions to that rule.

We're all in this for what we want for us/our spouses. If what we want is full swap, we're probably reluctant to soft swap. That applies to us too.

We were recently contact by a wonderful couple that is venturing into the lifestyle and at this point is only interested in being watched and having same room sex...not even touching others. Very tame. We told them straight up that we're interested in full swap, and that our time for play dates is very limited so it's unlikely that we'd 'play' with them, since we're wanting full swap on our play dates. But, we're still interested in meeting them and will soon. I'm quite certain they are genuine. They're just new, and nervous. We're relatively new to the lifestyle too. We weren't ready for full swap at first either. That doesn't mean we weren't genuine. That's all I'm saying.