How often should we swing?

[Curiosity0725]

ok, we just had our first experience this past weekend and we're already talking about the next one since the first one went so well.

my question is, how quickly should we do this? i'm sure i'll get alot of "it all depends on the two of you" answers so maybe i should ask how frequently do other people have experiences?

do you go from experience to exprience without even thinking much about it or is there a cool down time in between? are you comfortable to be with the same person/couple more than once so close together?

[slevin]

Hi

After our first experience Katrina and I were talking in the car on the way home, a bit of a private debrief on how we both felt afterwards etc. and after a short period of silence Katrina turned to me and asked if I thought the other couple was busy next weekend

We didn't end up playing with that couple again, but we were totally up for doing it again rather quickly. We caught the bug and it was new and exciting, it's only natural to be excited and want to have some more fun again sooner than later. If you had fun and are excited to do it again then go for it! Don't be surprised or offended if the other couple either doesn't want to meet so quickly or doesn't want to meet at all. Generally not a personal thing and there are lots of fun people out there to meet.

For us we have met a couple a few weekends in a row and had other couples we never met again (and a bunch we met for drinks and nothing more!). We just go by how we're feeling and the only times we've had problems its been when we didn't follow our gut feeling.

Have fun, meet people as often as you want to!

[jjtrindc]

Ok, we'll say it...yes, it all depends For us, we have two kids and two careers so while we love to have more experiences, we do have other priorities. Of course, it goes in spurts. We've been out this year more than in the past. We've also had an agonizingly tough time connecting with a couple that likes us and we like them but our schedules just can't click. Our goal is to have a few sets of friends that we can call on when our schedules do open up but understand our busy lives and don't take offense if we can't get together every weekend.

Go at your speed. As long as you are both on the same page then go for it! Have fun.

[realcplub2]

"it all depends on the two of you"

now you have your requested canned reply.. but seriously, it does depend on you, how it went, and how you both felt afterwards..

And one other factor, as SLEVIN pointed out.. We can be ready to turn the car around and go right back for more, right then and there, but unless THE OTHER PEOPLE/PERSON is into it..

Again depends on all these factors, Hell we were lucky early on to have met one couple, played on Saturday night.. Because it was wintertime, work was slow, and the other factors fell into place.. Wednesday night we were all back at it again..

The factors .. Time and Opportunity

[fun4Ds]

We are on a break at the time. But we liked to get out once a month or so when we were visiting the clubs. With close friends, either at their place our ours, it was a bit more .

[Brian and Jo]

We attend a house party about once a month with our regular group of six couples. In between parties we sometimes meet with one or other of the couples for a foursome. This may be pre-arranged at the house party but more often it is a spur of the moment thing. We (or they) call and ask if they/we are doing anything this evening or tomorrow. If we/they are free we meet for dinner and then go back to our/their place to play. So we usually play two or three times a month.

[JustMrJ]

My wife and I try to get to at least one party a month and one or two play dates as well... it was unusual for us to have two parties back to back as we did a weekend ago.

That being said, there are a lot of factors at work. Primarily how much play you want and how much play you can find.

Cheers!

[lost_j1]

With 3 kids and jobs we try to get out to the clubs at least once or twice a month. Just that now that school is back in the house parties slowed down a bit with the others in this area as well.

[todesireu]

Whenever the yen strikes us, but have been in a dry spell for too long.

[JustAskJulie]

It depends on our mood. We have a couple of couples we'd love to see every weekend if schedules and distance would allow it... but it's just not feasible. As far as how often we go out into a swinging environment, I'd say it's the bulk of our "going out" activity.. and just as any other going out activities it varies with what else is going on in life. At the height we were going out every weekend in some fashion or another. But, then we have barely been out to dinner in the last 2 months due to illness so swinging has been pretty low on our priority list. You'll probably find that life will treat you the same way. Sometimes you'll feel like getting out more than you will other times and sometimes life just won't let you get out at all.

One bit I will give you is this... if you find you are going out to swing more often than you are just spending time alone together, you are probably swinging too much.

[sweet_tna]

Our frequency varies. There have been times we've had a date one night and gone to a house party the next, and there are times when it's been a month between any swinging activity. In our case, the variation is due largely to our schedule and availability of playmates.

As far as playing with the same couple, it's usually not more than once a month.

=)

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

One bit I will give you is this... if you find you are going out to swing more often than you are just spending time alone together, you are probably swinging too much.

Woops, guilty as charged a few times.......