threesome:FMF...when the second female is not single

[gasunshine]

What do you say about a FMF when the other F is married? Her husband is not a willing participant whether active or watching....

[arvcpl]

I'd say she is a cheating adulterous whore and the other people fucking her are so desparate for an extra pussy in their bed that they would screw anyone just so they could have a "single female" in their bed. But that's just me and my $.02, I'm kinda judgemental about cheaters I guess.

[mixtupcpl]

Id say that arvcpl needs to tell us how they really feel!

Seriously though... Its just a drama filled situation waiting to happen. Her motivations for being there aren't good. Maybe you can turn it off and just say "don't care" (or maybe you actually dont care - not everyone would), but the practical side of it should be considered seriously.

I mean break it down... Do you really want to insert yourself in the middle of a failing marriage? It isnt a good place to be.

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by gasunshine

What do you say about a FMF when the other F is married? Her husband is not a willing participant whether active or watching....

Hes not willing.... or he just has no idea?

Both I would not touch but one is a lot more drama potential than the other.

[realcplub2]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Hes not willing.... or he just has no idea?

Both I would not touch but one is a lot more drama potential than the other.

There is hitting the nail on the head...

If she is doing so with his CONSENT thats one thing.. But if not.. Sorry, could be Kathy Ireland circa 1988, and the answer still is a flat out NO

And, arvcpl... This didnt like I dunno, set you off did it?

[SecretAsianMan]

Originally Posted by gasunshine

What do you say about a FMF when the other F is married? Her husband is not a willing participant whether active or watching....

I was with a gal like this back in the day - in fact, the woman who brought me into the lifestyle was a married woman who swung with the full knowledge and consent of her husband. (Met the guy & verified this... in case y'all were wondering)

And as long as everyone involved knows the score - (including the husband who's not into the lifestyle) - I don't see a problem with it.

[jjtrindc]

Key is to meet with them as a couple first. If she has a "hall pass" then great. Otherwise, she is simply cheating and you are setting yourself up for a drama filled situation. I know I wouldn't want to answer the door to a pissed off husband!!

[JustMrsJ]

Depending on the the circumstances, I will say it is cheating.

[Curiosity0725]

Originally Posted by Chicup

Hes not willing.... or he just has no idea?

Both I would not touch but one is a lot more drama potential than the other.

that's what i was thinking.

it's certainly a different situation when she's going behind his back to get involved with another couple than it is when he gives her permission to go out and do it but stays home and doesn't participate.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by gasunshine

What do you say about a FMF when the other F is married? Her husband is not a willing participant whether active or watching....

You said he's not willing to watch or participate, but how does he feel about her participating?

[lurkergirl]

Hey, wait up! Some of ya'll are awfully quick to sling the cheating and drama labels here!

I frequently play by myself. I have my honeys permission, he doesn't care to participate, and we're fine with that. We're probably one of the most drama free couples anyone could ever hope to meet.

While I understand that many in the lifestyle have been lied to or misled and are dubious, I don't understand the automatic "well, if your honey isn't with you, you must be cheating" reaction. I personally am not going to phone home from the club everytime I'm there so that I can wake my honey up and let him talk to whomever I'm interested in playing with, and anyone who chose to put me in the position of having to "prove" that I was there with permission would be someone who instantly fell off of my "hot enough to f**k" meter.

To automatically assume that a married woman who plays alone is a "cheating adulterous whore" is a little like vanillas assuming that all swingers are depraved freaks who'll f**k anything with a heartbeat. Both show a small-minded and ignorant approach that I'm sure neither themselves or the people around them enjoy.

There. My $.02. Which, might I add, was given for free, and therefore has no more value than anyone elses $.02, so do with it what you will.

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by gasunshine

What do you say about a FMF when the other F is married? Her husband is not a willing participant whether active or watching....

I say, be sure to get his approval. It makes a big difference in the outcome.

[ncmd_couple]

Lurkergirl,

I agree with you. If I had seen this thread earlier, I would have started by asking some questions before assuming the worst.

S

[jdavisauto]

Originally Posted by gasunshine

What do you say about a FMF when the other F is married? Her husband is not a willing participant whether active or watching....

If the husband not willing to play with you guys but has given the ok for his wife to play then there is no problems. Sometimes I’m not in the mood but my wife is so I give her the ok and I will play pool while she is playing with the other couple. No problem with us doing that as long as we all knows what is going on and agree.

Now if the husband don't give the ok and his wife still wants to I would say No. There's a problem and you are being put in the middle of this couple’s problem. A place that You Do Not Want To Be.

[LikeMinds321]

Hi gasunshine! Welcome to the Board.

I read your thread Can't agree on rules which may shed more light on why you started this thread.

If Mrs gasunshine started this thread as well, I am wondering if your husband wants to bring in this other woman and you have doubts, since your other thread discusses your husband's interest in a FMF but you want to stick with couples.

I'd love to hear more from you, so please jump back into this thread to let us know what the situation is that you're dealing with. With more information we can probably offer more helpful advice specific to what you're dealing with.

LM