We agreed, now where to start?

[BrtnCpl]

My wife and I have always talked about swinging and doing really crazy things with others. That feeling always was hot during sex, but faded away right after. Well, we talked about it quite a bit last night, we had great sex, then talked about it in the morning! She is really excited as I am. She is bi-sexual and really missed being with another woman. I want to be with another woman too...but also want to see her fuck another man too. So we have no idea where to start. Are these personal ad sites a way to go? (adult friend finder, horneymatches.com etc) I see some of the ads and think its total BS. Please let us know where to go and how to meet like-minded people.

Thanks,
BC

[BiloxiCouple]

Got to a local (if any) swingers club that allows on-premise activities (sex) and go for it.

Keep
It
Simple
Silly

[BrtnCpl]

How do we find them, I can't really look in the yellow pages (least i don't think), are there any sites to find one?

[BiloxiCouple]

Just go to our club listings in the above tool bar and look under your home state or whatever area/city is closest to you and start looking at the websites listed. Michigan had several listed.

[two42lovers]

Swinglifestyle has a lot of cool couples within 50 miles of Ann Arbor - we travel there now and again and have searched the listings in your area. Look for well written profiles with certifications (from other well written profiles with their own certs.) Real couples have profiles you will come to recognize. Read the SB "Finding People Online" forum to learn the in's and out's. Good luck!

[slevin]

We've had good success with Adult Friend Finder and, as two42loves mentioned, you'll learn how to filter out the fake from the real ads. We have met, in person, a lot of great couples from AFF, so there are definitely a lot of real people on there (in our city at least).

[jjtrindc]

Both Swing Lifestyle and Swingersboard have good club listings. You may want to check out an off-premise type club first where nothing can happen at the club (though a lot have after hour parties if you ask the hosts). Good way to get your feet way in a no pressure atmosphere. On-premise clubs are great as you can watch and be watched. We've always found folks to be very respectful so that even if you get asked to play and aren't ready it's easy to decline. Put up an ad on Swing Lifestyle and correspond with locals. We have better luck over intimate dinners getting to know other couples and being able to ask questions and swap stories than trying to meet new friends at clubs. Everyone has a different take, so just do what's right for you.

Definitely read these boards and keep up the dialogue with your wife. Communication is the biggest key to avoiding lifestyle drama!

[willyoats]

I have a different kind of suggestion. Depending on how adventuresome you are, you might find a swing club a bit intimidating. If you are nervous about jumping into a swing club or uncertain about meeting strangers through AFF or Swing Lifestyle, there is no more anxiety-free way to start than going to a nudist club that has swingers. I like North Haven Resort in Brooklyn, MI, which is close to Ann Arbor. (Google it.) It is a "swinger friendly" nudist resort. It is very low key and completely safe. You get to see lots of naked people and can chat with them with no expectations that they are hitting on you or expecting anything from you. Then, if you meet somebody that you like, the odds are you can get some action at someone's cabin (which, by the way, are very nice summer homes) after dark.

The owners, Larry and Velma, will be happy to tell you whatever you might like to know.

Alternatively, I could meet you at Amers for lunch some day. Send me a private message and I will give you a number to call. My wife and I (both U of M grads) are no longer looking to meet new couples for sex, but we have a lot of experiences to share. I will be in Ann Arbor for a week in mid October and would be more than happy to share knowledge.

GO BLUE!

[WildMiCouple]

There aren't really any on premise clubs around southeast Michigan..... at least none I'd recommend. But you can check out any number of socials or dances on any given weekend. Some are set in hotel banquet rooms while other's are in bars that they close down for the parties. These are off-premise dances. You don't get to play, unless you head to a hotel room or someone's house. These dances are a great way to meet others. Much better than online sites. Swinglifestyle has all the listings for your area and you can join for free

As was previously mentioned, Northaven is a fun place. But you pretty much gotta commit to a weekend and enjoy hanging out nekkid It is a great time though But I'm thinking you may like testing the waters a bit more at one of the many dances.

Good luck on your new journey.

Brett

[jdavisauto]

I would find a local swingers club and visit them. Remember that true swingers will not put you in any pressure. If you attend a swingers club find your comfort zone and do what you feel comfortable with. Remember that No means No at all clubs and you have the right to say no to anything you don't want to do. Go, relax, have a few drinks and enjoy your self.

[slevin]

Actually, since someone mentioned there aren't a lot of onpremise clubs in SE michigan: I think one of the clubs in Toronto is starting to run trips from Michigan up to Toronto to go to the onpremise club here. If you're up for a bit of a trip, the club is a great spot: Club Wicked.

[realcplub2]

Feel free to browse my blog Getting Started

As far as how you proceed , its UP TO YOU.. some people arent into clubs..

Use the boards, and this site as a informational tool, and feel free to ask WHATEVER questions you might have, encourage your wife to look on here as well..

[JustAskJulie]

I would second the suggestion for Northaven, IF you think you would fee comfortable in a nudist resort... but the truth is even if you think you wouldn't be comfortable naked, you don't have to be naked, and soon after you get there you'll probably feel more out of place IN clothes. I haven't been there in many years but I'm pretty sure I wondered around my first day or two in short shorts and topless.