Some questions based on a swinger story

yogee · 08-11-2008, 08:10 AM

I read "The Swap Meet by KK" . I think everyone knows that I am not married but reading his story made me think about my own wife, how she will get screwed by some other man, or many men at some Swingers party. Here is little of what made me scared to hell:

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I was about to asked her if we could go somewhere private when I saw Diane and Tom heading toward the stairs to the second floor where all of the bedrooms were. I was frozen. I couldnt take my eyes off them as they climbed the stairs.

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She looked like nothing had happened. I began to think she must not have done anything. But when she came into the living room I could see the redness around he lips and on her neck that showed she had been at least necking with Tom and then I noticed that one of the bottom buttons on her blouse was open.

I asked my self a question. In future some man will take my wife to his own bed and she will spread her legs for him. I was really angry at this moment.

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Diane seemed to enjoy sucking his cock which upset me because she never wanted to do that for me.

Well, It really did upset me. I have a very serious question. They were married for seven years and she never sucker his cock but on the very 1st day she sucks , i guess, 3 cocks. Why it happened ? If she likes to be satisfied by sucking then mean why she did not do it even once in 7 years of marriage.

I was upset and confused when I read the story but over all I decided it was good way to go and my desire to become a swinger has gone stronger. That story had huge impact on my thinking. The only 1 question that is still confusing me is What made her to suck the cocks, If the feelings were there then why the feelings never came out in 7 years of marriage but in just 2 hours of Swingers party ?

sexcupid · 08-11-2008, 09:22 AM

There are times that people do what they think they 'should'. As in there is a social expectation for them to behave in a certain way, regardless of what their desires are.

Now, I haven't read the story in question...but perhaps she felt that 'good girls don't do that' or that oral sex is inherently dirty and in behaving properly, because what huband would want someone that does disgusting things? Being put in a sexual atmosphere/party where oral sex is obviously going on and where many people seem to be enjoying it may have caused her to re-evaluate her stance on it in a short amount of time. Being in a different social environment people will give themselves permission to do things they desire or would like to try, but normally feel to inhibited to do so.

Again, not having read the story...but if in the aftermath of the experience, the husband turns on the wife and starts in with 'Well you never do this, this, or this with/for me...' I wouldn't expect the wife to want to continue swinging or be willing to be more sexually adventurous in the future, because now she's being put on a guilt trip by her husband. I can understand the husband being upset at seeing his wife doing something he has been 'denied'.

Who knows what her reasonings were for not going down on him earlier in the marriage...a 'good girl' complex, having a prior bad experience with oral sex, or perhaps she tried it and didn't like the taste/natural odor of her husband...I mean, there's really no polite way to say 'Honey, I love to suck cock...but I just can't get over the odor down there.' Some men do have a very musky scent and that may be hard to get past.

All of this is just pure speculation of course.

***JustAskJulie*** · 08-11-2008, 11:03 AM

From the quote you posted it said "she never wanted to do that for me", it did not say that she never in 7 years of marriage did do that for him.

It is not at all uncommon as SexCupid said for a person in a new situation to do/try things that they may not have been comfortable doing in other situations. There could be many reasons she didn't want to do it for him, perhaps he had a bad smell, or a bad taste, or perhaps he pushed her too much to do it and therefore the idea of it turned her off, perhaps he's just so hairy down there that it was difficult. Only she would know the why in this situation.

Once upon a time I had a boyfriend that I had no problem giving head to, he on the other hand could not stand the idea of going down on me (or any other woman for that matter). At the time I also had a pretty full bush (way back before I learned the joys of shaving). One time he finally decided he was going to give into my persistance (and yes I was persistant about the idea of why should I be giving him so much head and not getting any in return), and he tied me down and shaved (more like trimmed) my bush before going down on me. I don't think he really still enjoyed the idea all that much. But, years later when I met up with him again, he had no trouble going down on my now bald pussy. Things change.

What bothered me the most about your post and your reaction to this story was this part:

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Originally Posted by yogee

I asked my self a question. In future some man will take my wife to his own bed and she will spread her legs for him. I was really angry at this moment.

Why did it make you angry to think about a woman you love with someone else? You have said several times in your post that even though you have never had a sexual experience you believe you are a swinger. How can you believe you are a swinger if you get upset at the idea of one day sharing your wife? of your wife (a woman you probably haven't even met yet) having sex with someone else?

I've said many times in threads regarding single guys and swinging, that the difference between a single guy and a single male swinger is their attitude. It is this very attitude that makes all the difference. Just because you enjoy reading about swinging or watching group sex (whether video or real) does not make you a swinger. There is a big difference in fantasy and reality. Until you can wrap your mind around the reality of what swinging is you won't be a swinger.

slevin · 08-11-2008, 11:04 AM

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Originally Posted by sexcupid

Who knows what her reasonings were for not going down on him earlier in the marriage...a 'good girl' complex, having a prior bad experience with oral sex, or perhaps she tried it and didn't like the taste/natural odor of her husband...I mean, there's really no polite way to say 'Honey, I love to suck cock...but I just can't get over the odor down there.' Some men do have a very musky scent and that may be hard to get past.

All of this is just pure speculation of course.

I haven't read the story either, but just wanted to comment on this one thing. If she enjoyed sucking cock, or didn't mind sucking cock, but wouldn't because of taste/smell then the right thing to do is be honest about it. Tell him to go shower, cleanup and she'll do it. If he /knew/ that his odour was strong perhaps he would be more diligent about cleaning himself. It's not an easy conversation to have, but it's not as painful as one might think. I know I'd rather my wife was open about it so we can do something about it.

Not saying this is the case here, just making a comment on that bit.

slevin · 08-11-2008, 11:15 AM

Well, I just took a quick look at that story and it looks more like erotic fiction than a true swingers story.

deothenrp · 08-11-2008, 12:53 PM

I have a boyfriend I had no problem giving head I love to do it to him, and whatch other woman giving him head as they take his black rod into they mouth. watching this I get turn on and when I get him home he give me a good fucking and my pussy just run with my cream down my legs. I love to share Rue with other woman, who love black guys like I do, we both love to go to parties and clube but often I get Rue to go to swinging parties on his own and come home and tell me all about it and how many woman he fuck. I also get him to shave for me so we are both shaven, i love the joys of shaving.

realcplub2 · 08-11-2008, 03:02 PM

First off, the story you quote is a work of FICTION..

And while it does deal with real world senerios, How it affected you, and the deep thoughts it inspired are a real component.

Let me ask you a question to equal what you asked above, Since you have serious issues with a married woman, ENJOYING activities, that she again IN THE STORY never did with her husband, Why are you here?

What path led you to the wonderful wide world of this lifestyle? Was it the attraction of a single male and a married female? Or perhaps since we are a lifestyle where MOST of the activities, involve a bit more advanced form of sex, this is what drew you here..

Years ago, when working construction, I was delivering contcrete to a job site, and the site was owned, and contracted by a gentleman, who was "of another faith"..

Now, within this religon, they engaged in the act of sex, thru a sheet.. When a womans monthly cycle came, She became truly UNCLEAN, and until she washed in a church sanctioned "bath" remained unclean..

Why do I bring this up? Because of a twist of whatever you wanna call it, I had to DRIVE his vehicle, to pick up workers from another site and get them back to where we were to work.. and what should be under his seat, and again, under his console between the seats.. some of the DIRTIEST porn, I ever had the pleasure of seeing.. 6 magazines that went the full gammit from hetero, to group, to BD/SM.. And all HARDCORE..

So, that having been said.. If you are DRAWN to this "light" and it inspires "THOUGHTS", the issues these thoughts inspire are a PERSONAL ISSUE, that while we can offer suggestions to, Its up to you to WORK OUT

yogee · 08-11-2008, 11:53 PM

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Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Why did it make you angry to think about a woman you love with someone else? You have said several times in your post that even though you have never had a sexual experience you believe you are a swinger. How can you believe you are a swinger if you get upset at the idea of one day sharing your wife? of your wife (a woman you probably haven't even met yet) having sex with someone else?

I've said many times in threads regarding single guys and swinging, that the difference between a single guy and a single male swinger is their attitude. It is this very attitude that makes all the difference. Just because you enjoy reading about swinging or watching group sex (whether video or real) does not make you a swinger. There is a big difference in fantasy and reality. Until you can wrap your mind around the reality of what swinging is you won't be a swinger.

You are looking at that specific part of my post as a single part. I wrote the post as an organized collection, different parts related with each other, but you took that part as single, not related with my other sentences thats why you misunderstood (though a little only). It is like Science-Fiction, which is never reality and the way they explain the governments, Intelligence Agencies and Corporations work, are completely real. So in my post I just told you what I will feel at different stages of my first swinging experience. I wil feel confused, uneasy and little angry at the beginning but then slowly, things will become easy, understandable and as I said in the end, I will be ok and happy after all things have happened. I don't know buut I think it will happen like the silence inside the author's car was different before and after the party. I say I am sure I will go through this situation because I am from a society (Indian Culture) where word "sex" is a taboo, where "rights of women" is not the easy thing to talk about without getting into heavy social resistance, the traditions are held stronger than men and women and its the place where you wont find any legal swinger club. My thoughts have been attacked by my family, my friends and my relatives and in spite of no support, rather full opposition, I am still standing here willing to take the idea of swining into court, demanding the liberation of thought, women and life. No one can stop me from being a swinger (only my wife will, if she wants)

yogee · 08-12-2008, 12:16 AM

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