How to start with wife?

[nforcerx.x]

hi
I am 26y old man. I would like to swing with my wife.
Do you have any tips that would help me suggest this to her.

We have fantasies about swing and MFM sex.
But how to make that reality.


I know that she look at other guys.. And during sex we talk about having threesome or foursome.. She even has a fantasy abou gang bang with 5 guys.
We tend to look at other woman together. And we are not what you say insanely jealous.
I am constantly imagining her with other guys, kissing, licking, fondeling and even fucking her.
While she is on top, i would start talking that she is having sex with two men, and being dped.
She gets so turn on... it is incredible.
I have a lot of male friends. A lot of them would fuck her. But I do not want any of my friends fucking her. I would like to find a guy that will know this is just sex. My ideal thing is.. That we have 2-3 couples that we would swing with, and 1-2 male friends.
I do not think i would have a problem performing in front of other people. My wife to. We live in a small country. And we work sensitive jobs. We would be fired if people would find our pictures. And it is hard to be open about anything here. Not even gay people have all the rights.
I hope you can understand this.
I think she would be able to swing, because she is open about sex, and ready to experiment.
I know that she likes the idea about having sex with two men. But we have not openly talked about swinging.
I hope i could entice and get the idea closer to her, and get her to start having more fantasy about swinging.
but no pushing her.

I hope that you will advise me what to do next.
I hope my english in not to bad...

[midnightplayer]

Well If I were in your position I would consider taking her to a meet and greet, at least 50 miles from my home. Meet and greets are usually all couples and it is basically a cocktail party, except everyone there is looking to connect with another couple or member of a couple for naked play. The nice thing about a meet and greet, there is no pressure to perform right then, and if the group is not to your liking you can leave. She might love the interaction with "normal" people that just happen to want to have sex with others.
I would say getting away from town for a night away will lead to great sex that night between the two of you and maybe just maybe you will connect with a couple that night or for a future night. Give it a try

[Opportunists]

sounds like you already have started with your wife... fantasizing and role playing together is a common first step.

the good news is she seems really into it on a fantasy level.

keep in mind, reality is much much more intense than fantasy.

i would just continue to let her know the idea of her being with other men [and women] completely turns you ... and ensure she's comfortable with it.

knowing that, if she's comfortable with the idea of taking things to that next level, she'll probably let you know.

[2inSanDiego4u]

Since you're in Croatia, a lot of the conventional swinging techniques from the U.S. may not apply. Meet 'n Greets may not exist. We simply are not familiar enough with the country and culture to make a good recommendation for you. However, since your wife seems pretty open to the idea, maybe one way to proceed would be to visit regular clubs and try to befriend another couple or single male. A few drinks, some dancing, some flirting and maybe things will develop into what you both want. If this is very unconventional in Croatia, you may have to take charge and break the ice yourself.

[jjtrindc]

I think you'll find many couples started this way...I know we did. A bit of fantasy, etc. We watched a show that is on HBO called Real Sex (they still air replays if you can get HBO) that show regular people engaging in various sexual activities. It got us thinking and talking. Talking is key. We talked and talked and talked (and talked). LOL. I then found an "off-premise" club which was essentially a dance club for couples only. You could be "sexual" but not have sex at the club. It was a a bit nerve racking and imagined every possible scenario. In the end, it was a great night. We had fun, met new people, danced, experienced no pressure and went home and had great sex. We slowly progressed to on-premise clubs and only played with each other. Then off to Desire Cancun where we had our first soft swap experience. Through it all we just communicated our feelings - good and bad. Even after a few years I still feel like were "newbies" but the sex has been great and our marriage couldn't be stronger...

[fun4Ds]

Welcome to the Swingers Board

Are their swinger clubs in your area ?

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by nforcerx.x

I know that she likes the idea about having sex with two men. But we have not openly talked about swinging.

Start talking openly about swinging.

Pick a time, when you are alone with each other, and have some privacy. Then, ask her if the things you talk about during sex (multiple partners, etc), are something she would really be interested in.

Then, take it from there. If she says "Not in a million years, that's just sex talk", then let it go for a while. She may think about it and reconsider sometime later (sometimes it's much later).

If she expresses an interest, then continue the conversation. Don't rush things, but enjoy the journey together.



Oh, and your English is good.