Newbie Couple Seeks Advice (moved from Introductions)

[newbiecpl2008]

We are a married couple of 18 years from Ohio. We are just starting to check out the swinging scene. We have talked about it and are up for the experience. I approached my husband about the idea of swinging. I have been listening to lots of podcasts about the swing life style. We have looked online at different clubs in our area. We haven't yet visited any clubs. He was the one to encourage me to go online and talk with other swingers. So here we are!

We hope to have our first experience by the end of the year. Not sure whether we should try a threesome with a trusted male friend of ours who is up for the experience but not a swinger. Or should we visit a club first. I am very nervous about going to a club without anyone whom we know and trust since we are newbies. I am very excited to have this experience yet very nervous that I will chicken out.

I hope that this online forum and reading some swinger books will help calm my nerves. I am scared that men won't find me attractive. I am a size 14 and don't have a tight body. Plus I have never had any experience with another female and that is very intimidating.

My husband and I enjoy riding our motorcycle. We like camping and outdoor activities. Our kids are almost adults and we are looking forward to getting to travel.

We look forward to hearing your swing advice, ideas and tips.

[2insandiego4u]

Be sure to read the posts in the sub-forum below, they're very useful for noobies!

Curious About Swinging? - The Swingers Board

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Originally Posted by newbiecpl2008

I hope that this online forum and reading some swinger books will help calm my nerves. I am scared that men won't find me attractive. I am a size 14 and don't have a tight body. Plus I have never had any experience with another female and that is very intimidating.

You should not worry about being a size 14 at all. That is not considered very large these days! You would be surprised how much in demand curvy women are! As far as new experiences, just take it slow and don't do anything you don't feel comfortable with. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do.

[newbiecpl2008]

Thanks for making me smile. Can you tell me that every day?

Mrs. Newbiecpl2008

[sweet_tna]

Hi Mrs. Newbiecpl2008,

Rest assured I'm not exactly svelte myself and neither is my hubby, but that has not been a problem for us. We've found most men prefer curvy women, and tend not to care so much about stretch marks or cellulite. Your attitude is what's really important, and it sounds like you'll do just fine.

As far as where/how to go about that first experience? Keep reading here, and talking with your hubby. Share the board with him, and talk some more. Eventually the right situation (for you) will present itself.

In the meantime,

=)

[gatorvol64]

It's all in the attitude. Be positive and confident (at least pretend until you are for real). Be yourself. Believe in yourself.

Vol

[rpu3]

Welcome!

[newlythree]

Hello Hello! and welcome. This is one hell of a resource that you will surely find useful....I now we have!
Not much more to add other than you and hubby stay tight, and always keep y'alls chat box open and you will be at it in no time!

[jnjswingcpl]

My wife and I just had our first swinging experience night before last. It was an incredible experience, something that we are both very glad we had. However, when we were driving over to the other couples place for our meeting, we thought about backing out. Both of us were incredibly nervous, and that didn't go away for me at least until the action started after being at their house for nearly an hour.

Some of the greatest experiences people can have in life, I think, are ones that we consider backing out of because of nerves. Much like skydiving would be such a great experience, many people shy away from it out of fear, and many people back out at the last minute. You just have to let go and have fun.

Just remember that everyone is nervous the first time. But after that first time, a whole new world opens up. A great world full of fun.

[oncewere]

you might go to a club, explaining to the host/hostess that you are newbies and mostly want to see what goes on. Meet some swingers face to face so next time you will know someone. Face to face talking should make things more clear than reading but do continue reading here. Swingersboard people are fantastic.

If you get excited at the club but don't want to swap you can always play with each other. They should understand and not pressure you. Don't drink too much if at all so you will be in control. Who knows what might happen. Make sure you and your hubby talk about everything, especially before you try anything new. Relax, be yourself, enjoy yourself. Don't be surprised if your couple sex soars when you discuss your visit afterwards.

[realcplub2]

You are well on your way to finding one of the best resources on the web for anyone interested in the swinging lifestyle.

Use the boards, to find out what first other people might have asked, for two reasons first, there are plenty of questions asked that you might have that have already been answered.. If the answers arent for your specific issue, feel free to ask the question the way YOU wish..

The second way to use the boards is to sound off about a issue or soemthing that has come up that didnt seem right or was an issue to you..

Now then, as to your dress size, people involved in this lifestyle are from petite thru Plus and above, please dont make this a concern. Be honest with anyone you speak to and things will be fine.. and YES you will run across those that only want the "barbie" types.. do not be discouraged by this, Its just like anything else, personal choice.. and trust me.. plenty of folks arent looking for Barbie.. Unless its Xmas time