Soft Swing for Starters?

[connery007]

My wife and I have had a traditional sex life up to this point but are interested in spicing things up. We are not into the full swap thing, but we've talked about how much fun it would be to have sex in the same room, or bed, as another couple was doing the same thing. Its more or less a form of voyeurism. We want to watch as another couple has sex, and allow them to watch us as well. Any advise as how to get started in meeting the right couple?

[VegasLee]

Your best bet is going to be to go to one of the local swingers clubs in your area.

Find a couple that you are attracted to and be up front about your desires and rules.

You should not have a problem finding what you are looking for that way.

There is a listing of "Swingers Clubs" at the the link on the top of this page. Check out the clubs in your area and pick one that looks attractive to you.

Have fun!

[jjtrindc]

We started off exactly the same way. While we did attend a couple of clubs in our area we found that we had better luck meeting couples through SLS or other online swinger dating sites. Both have their advantages. Clubs are a great place to have that sexy vibe in a "neutral" space. We're not the best minglers, and being new made it that much harder. Through our ad we were able to be completely open upfront about our situation, what we were looking for, and what our boundaries were. That way we knew that those who responded were looking for the same or respected our boundaries if they were more adventurous. Of course, we always made sure to repeat everything in person to ensure that we were on the same page. We ended up having great experiences of same room sex with different couples including one "sixsome" of sorts. That helped us realize that this was something we wanted to be more involved in. We have since moved on to soft swap but still take things at a slow pace due to jobs, kids, life, etc. We may never move to full swap. We know couples who NEVER move to full swap but have many super hot soft swap experiences. I'm sure the same can be said of just sticking to same room and voyeurism experiences. Overall, move at your speed. Set your boundaries and make sure your new friends respect them. Have fun!

[slevin]

We got started with going to a local on-premise swing club and just dancing the first time, then later on we went to the on-premise part and just had sex with each other while others were doing the same nearby. Eventually we tried softswap and have been going from there

I'd caution you that you should be totally up front with what you're looking for (just watching) as the term soft-swap has always meant that there is some type of swapping going on (M-F and possibly F-F) but no swapped sex. If you just say you're looking for soft-swap there will be misunderstandings

[arvcpl]

When you get in contact with a couple that you find attractive and compatable tell them the following...

Originally Posted by connery007

My wife and I have had a traditional sex life up to this point but are interested in spicing things up. We are not into the full swap thing, but we've talked about how much fun it would be to have sex in the same room, or bed, as another couple was doing the same thing. Its more or less a form of voyeurism. We want to watch as another couple has sex, and allow them to watch us as well.

You said it just as well here as any of us so go with that.

[KSCBILLY]

We started the same way. Our first couple of times were same room soft swap. Then as we progressed in this type of swinging, more touching between the other couple and us happened. The next thing you know we were in a same room full swap. But let me prepare you, it's a thrill that you will never forget.

Make sure the two of you are in agreement and also love is between the two of you. Sex is with the other couple.....

[realcplub2]

Greetings 007...

Sorry Mrs Moneypenny isnt here to point you on the way for your next mission..

But thankfully, its not a difficult one.. Being in Panama City, there are plenty of people locally, and even more possiblities for finding a club to bring your desires to a successful out - cum, Err outcome..

I would suggest taking a few moments and following the links to SLS , Once you sign up there, there is quite a comprehensive list of clubs.. in the state of florida, or whereever in the counrty you may be..

Hope this helps..