She says she's the only woman for me....

[Mountainman Joe]

And my wife said she was the only girl for me. So what do I do now? We live up in the mountains with no clubs nearby?

Oregon Joe

[JustAskJulie]

You have three choices....

You can either decide that sex with others is more important than your wife and either
a) cheat on her or
b) leave her

or you can decide that your wife is more important than sex with others and realize that your fantasy will have to remain just that.

[Alura]

She's probably right, Joe. I wouldn't push it. When the day comes that she thinks she might like to try a man other than you, swinging will become possible.

In the meantime, bring her to this website and introduce her to all these fine folks. If anything might change her mind it will be her getting to know the wonderful people who donate their time to post here.

Mr. Alura

[az469]

allura hit the nail right on the head.
you can,t force the issue ,
just need to talk about it.
if she says no then fantasize in your mind.

[realcplub2]

Originally Posted by Mountainman Joe

And my wife said she was the only girl for me. So what do I do now? We live up in the mountains with no clubs nearby?

Oregon Joe

Rather than jump the gun, lets ask for MORE information..

We have no idea :
How long they have been together..
how this was presented..
or what conversations or fantasies they might have already, or worse NOT discussed..


Joe, if you havent talked about fantasies with her.. shared yours and asked her of hers.. then it might be case where you were thinking for jumping way ahead of the game..

Personal expereinces aside, What is she into/like/dislike as far as sex goes..

There is no formula to transform anyone, but setting the proper mood, planting a seed in the mind and allowing it to grow, can go a long way..

Another thought, many women are EXTREMELY jealous of any other woman.. If this lifestyle has such a draw and you want to partake, maybe its time to think in a different direction.. Satisfy her fantasies while you open her to the lifestyle..

But more importantly than anything else, TALK honestly to her in and out of bed.. and LISTEN to what she says rather than focus on driving your point home..

[2insandiego4u]

Originally Posted by realcplub2

There is no formula to transform anyone, but setting the proper mood, planting a seed in the mind and allowing it to grow, can go a long way..

The "planting a seed" thing is very powerful. This is probably one of the biggest reasons why we are in the lifestyle today. We originally thought what we kind of rushed into it, but on retrospect it was a process that took years to fully develop into action.