First Threesome

miacpl30 · 06-18-2008, 03:44 PM

We dabbled a few years back. Met a few couples for dinners but never really got anywhere. Nothing really ever came about. We got busy with work and family and now we have agreed to do a FFM this week. She is bit older (early 40s) than us and she had posted an interesting ad.

Wife is interested but did not want to go through endless chatting etc and prefers we just meet for drinks which we are planning on doing tommorrow. Any advice? We talked about getting a room if everyone agrees etc. Any suggestions on icebreakers etc? We have gone over rules (no kissing or intercourse btn M and the other F)

JDApopka · 06-18-2008, 08:23 PM

Make sure that this is what the wife wants. Sorry but the post sounds like she is doing it to please you

iapr · 06-18-2008, 08:32 PM

Hey let's watch the "older" cracks!

As far as advice, keep your eyes open. You make it sound as if you got done mowing the lawn and got on the computer one afternoon and set up a date with some chick you came across on the internet. Many couples search for months or even years before they get a date with single fem. Unless you are a filthy rich rock star that is Brad Pitt's identicle twin your first order of business may be to confirm that this is an actual BIOLOGICAL single fem and that there won't be a hefty pricetag attached to the end of this date that will be enforced by someone named Quido.

***JustAskJulie*** · 06-21-2008, 05:01 PM

So how did it go?

miacpl30 · 06-24-2008, 10:38 PM

met for drinks but no chemistry between both of them. She thought the F was very nice but not willing to get past the drinks. We agreed that next time she needs to be more involved..now she knows!!

**fun4Ds** · 06-25-2008, 03:29 AM

Now she knows what ?

At.Both.Ends · 06-26-2008, 07:16 PM

Talking about fantasies is a nice way to break the ice.

JDApopka · 06-26-2008, 07:55 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by miacpl30

We agreed that next time she needs to be more involved..now she knows!!

well thats a start not the best way to do it but a start

**fun4Ds** · 06-26-2008, 08:18 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by At.Both.Ends

Talking about fantasies is a nice way to break the ice.

Now thats what I'm talkin about

2insandiego4u · 06-27-2008, 02:01 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by miacpl30

met for drinks but no chemistry between both of them. She thought the F was very nice but not willing to get past the drinks. We agreed that next time she needs to be more involved..now she knows!!

We suggest you try hooking up with a younger female next time and see how it goes. The Mrs. likes 'em a little younger than her in our case. Maybe the age difference was a factor in the lack of chemistry.

Nickii_Lee · 06-28-2008, 07:50 PM

IMO a single female, it is extremely important that the other female is comfortable with the whole situation. Laying out boundaries beforehand with all involved is a must. And, there does have to be chemistry for all involved. The "elusive" single female is not as hard to find as you may think. I'm fairly new to the lifestyle, but what I've encountered is that many couples stay away from that because of conflicts that arise. You might try a soft swap with another couple first. I had a horrific experience with a couple that invited me in, only to have the female flip out on me down the road because the guy wanted less boundaries. My suggestion is to just be honest and open about it all.

SweetandSalty1 · 06-28-2008, 08:28 PM

^good tips. I also think honest communication is super important.

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06-18-2008, 03:44 PM	#1 (permalink)
miacpl30 Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 13 Location: South Florida Status: Couple	First Threesome We dabbled a few years back. Met a few couples for dinners but never really got anywhere. Nothing really ever came about. We got busy with work and family and now we have agreed to do a FFM this week. She is bit older (early 40s) than us and she had posted an interesting ad. Wife is interested but did not want to go through endless chatting etc and prefers we just meet for drinks which we are planning on doing tommorrow. Any advice? We talked about getting a room if everyone agrees etc. Any suggestions on icebreakers etc? We have gone over rules (no kissing or intercourse btn M and the other F)

06-18-2008, 08:23 PM	#2 (permalink)
JDApopka Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 113 Location: Apopka, Fl Status: Couple	Re: First Threesome Make sure that this is what the wife wants. Sorry but the post sounds like she is doing it to please you

06-18-2008, 08:32 PM	#3 (permalink)
iapr Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 529 Location: State of bliss Status: couple	Re: First Threesome Hey let's watch the "older" cracks! As far as advice, keep your eyes open. You make it sound as if you got done mowing the lawn and got on the computer one afternoon and set up a date with some chick you came across on the internet. Many couples search for months or even years before they get a date with single fem. Unless you are a filthy rich rock star that is Brad Pitt's identicle twin your first order of business may be to confirm that this is an actual BIOLOGICAL single fem and that there won't be a hefty pricetag attached to the end of this date that will be enforced by someone named Quido.

06-21-2008, 05:01 PM	#4 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 21,323 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 53	Re: First Threesome So how did it go? __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

06-24-2008, 10:38 PM	#5 (permalink)
miacpl30 Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 13 Location: South Florida Status: Couple	Re: First Threesome met for drinks but no chemistry between both of them. She thought the F was very nice but not willing to get past the drinks. We agreed that next time she needs to be more involved..now she knows!!

06-25-2008, 03:29 AM	#6 (permalink)
fun4Ds Julie's Helper Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 2,288 Location: Indiana. Status: couple SLS Name:mrmrsfun Blog Entries: 15	Re: First Threesome Now she knows what ? __________________ well... at least we are normal pervs

06-26-2008, 07:16 PM	#7 (permalink)
At.Both.Ends Active Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 21 Location: Garland, Tx Status: Couple SLS Name:At_Both_Ends Blog Entries: 1	Re: First Threesome Talking about fantasies is a nice way to break the ice.

06-28-2008, 07:50 PM	#11 (permalink)
Nickii_Lee Registered Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 5 Location: Denver Status: S.Female	Re: First Threesome IMO a single female, it is extremely important that the other female is comfortable with the whole situation. Laying out boundaries beforehand with all involved is a must. And, there does have to be chemistry for all involved. The "elusive" single female is not as hard to find as you may think. I'm fairly new to the lifestyle, but what I've encountered is that many couples stay away from that because of conflicts that arise. You might try a soft swap with another couple first. I had a horrific experience with a couple that invited me in, only to have the female flip out on me down the road because the guy wanted less boundaries. My suggestion is to just be honest and open about it all.

06-28-2008, 08:28 PM	#12 (permalink)
SweetandSalty1 Here to Stay Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 50 Location: West Virginia Status: Couple SLS Name:SweetandSalty1	Re: First Threesome ^good tips. I also think honest communication is super important. __________________ Mr. and Mrs. J- 25 years old, new to swinging but excited to learn!!! ;)

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