should we wait because of our weight?

[gzone]

I have alway like full figured lady's myself...weight would not be a limiting factor.

[Malachista]

GO!

People who look down on you now, do not deserve you when you lost weight in a year!
(I did loose weight myself since I started to swing, and people who would not even talk to me then try very hard to get me horizontal now.. sorry, but I don't do shallow people!)

[bellady]

I just wanted to add that swinging has been a great motivator for me to loose weight. I had been trying to loose about 20 pounds for a couple of years and never managed to motivate myself long enough to loose more than a few pounds.
Than Mr Bell and I started swingin' back in Dec. and I have lost 15 pounds since then...nothing like the thought of other people seeing you naked to get you motivated. I wanted to feel more confident and sexy and I sure do now..

Even if you don't ever loose any weight take the great advice you have gotten here and have fun....

[ktimephoenix]

Originally Posted by Malachista

GO!

People who look down on you now, do not deserve you when you lost weight in a year!
(I did loose weight myself since I started to swing, and people who would not even talk to me then try very hard to get me horizontal now.. sorry, but I don't do shallow people!)

This is a great point. A non-swinging friend of mine just had lap band surgery done as she was a very large lady. her partner supported her decision on the grounds for health and her self esteem, but had no issue with her weight when it came to the bedroom, and he got worried that once she was slim that she'd leave him to explore the world in her new, confident, slimmer body.

she said exactly the same thing as above. why the hell would i want to sleep with someone who would have put me down 6 months ago over someone that has supported me through thick and thin (no pun intended).

[lakeluvrs]

I think the only thing that matters is how YOU feel about your weight. We are taking a swinging break right now largely (pun intended) because we've put on weight the past year. The Mrs. and I both have bellies now, while I used to be pretty flat and she was a curvy but not flabby shape. A lot of people would still give their left arm to play with us - or so they tell me when I share recent nude photos - but the problem is that the Mrs. and I both feel "blah" about our bodies right now. That means we won't enjoy being naked and playing with others as much. We won't let loose as much. As soon as we feel better we'll be back in the game. And it may not be weight loss that does it so much as just being more active in the summer making us feel better about our bodies. It's not how we look, just how we feel about it.

I'd say if you're comfortable with your bodies, a lot of other people will be very comfortable with your bodies.

[WeMayTryIt]

Originally Posted by lakeluvrs

I'd say if you're comfortable with your bodies, a lot of other people will be very comfortable with your bodies.

Right on the money, couldn't have said it better myself. Sure, there are people who only like hard bodies, but there are plenty of people who define sexual attraction and satisfaction by things other than someone's weight.