Going to a lifestyle resort

CXXC · 05-04-2008, 11:47 PM

We are going to a lifestyle resort for nearly two weeks. This wil not be the first time we have gone to one. We went to Hedo II thw years ago. My wife did some light petting with the ladies but that is about all we did.
My questions are:
1. Can one assume that the resorts are basically the same as the clubs in the social aspect and activities?
2. Are the social rules of engagement the same?
3. Is it easier to begin the swinging lifestyle together (being with another couple or individuals) at one of these resorts than it is in the clubs/swingers boards/swingers sites?
I think that is all I have for questions now. I am sure more will follow once the answers to these questions are given.
Thank you!

***JustAskJulie*** · 05-05-2008, 03:44 PM

Which resort are you planning to go to?

CXXC · 05-05-2008, 07:07 PM

We are going to Desire Cancun.

Playtou · 05-06-2008, 09:42 PM

We have been to both the Hedos several times and also go to the clubs. I would say that a higher percentage of people at the clubs are swingers than at the resorts. The rules are the same but I could not say which location would give you the higher success rate. We have noticed that at the resort people often wait until the last day to make their move but in the club they know it’s now or never. The key at both would be to find someone that you are interested in spend a bit of time with them and make your offer ASAP. If they turn you down move on.

celtic239 · 05-06-2008, 10:22 PM

We have been to Desire Cancun twice, once when there was a semi-take over by a swing group and the other no organized groups. If you are interested in meeting people in the Lifestyle, I suggest that you go to the Desire website to the forum and see if there are any groups going at the time you guys will be there. I joined a club on line that is from Texas (we live in NY) just to chat with some people that we may be meeting (I recently broke an ankle so we had to change our plans).
We met some people that had been to Hedo and they stated that Desires was a 'bit' calmer but that was during our non group vacation.
As for the social rules of engagement they are the same the world over "No means NO"

des1re06 · 05-07-2008, 10:51 AM

Hi,

The rules at Desire change depending on whether it is a take-over week or not. Ask at checkin about the rules of PDA. When we were there it was during a take-over and full sex was only allowed in the club playroom and at the rooftop hot tub area. No sex in the main pool or beach-side beds. They can and do kick people out without a refund for breaking the rules.

1. Can one assume that the resorts are basically the same as the clubs in the social aspect and activities? Always ask before touching, and no means no is a general rule.2. Are the social rules of engagement the same?
3. Is it easier to begin the swinging lifestyle together (being with another couple or individuals) at one of these resorts than it is in the clubs/swingers boards/swingers sites? We thought it was more difficult meeting couples at the resort, but everyone has different takes on that.

We're going for 2 weeks in March 09.

Have a great trip!!

Mrs. D

CXXC · 05-07-2008, 11:50 AM

I guess I should state that I FULLY understand and appreciate the "No MEANS NO!" rule. You would have to be an idiot not to.
Thank you for all the information you have given me. I will take this with me and base my thoughts on this when we are there. Again, I go with no expectations. However, being prepared is always a good thing.

Chris&Amelia · 05-07-2008, 01:34 PM

We've been to Desire Cancun. We had a great time while we were there. Although we met some great people while we were there, we never actually swung with anybody (short of some really light soft-swapping). Before we left we decided that it was going to be a "vacation for us".

That being said... we (Amelia and I) pretty much had sex everywhere. On the beach, on the roof with the hot-tub, in the play-room.... it was great.

Desire Cancun IS a Lifestyle-friendly resort, and we did attend some room parties. So, if you're looking to swing, it shouldn't be that difficult. But that wasn't our intention when we went.

I highly suggest you make contact with others who are going the same time you are and maybe chat with them before you go if you're looking to hook up. They have an official forum where you can do that.

CXXC · 05-08-2008, 12:42 PM

I have been active on virtually every yahoo group and site that is dedicated to the Desire Resort. I have chatted with many of the people who will be going when we are. Our intention is to go, have a great time and have NO EXPECTATIONS for any activities. However, I am looking for as much information on the place that I can get. You have just given me what I needed. It is a place to do what you want! FANTASTIC!!!!!!
This is going to be a fantastic vacation for us!
Thank you again!

Chris&Amelia · 05-08-2008, 07:29 PM

If you have any questions about Desire, feel free to ask. We will answer them to the best of our ability.

CXXC · 05-09-2008, 12:16 PM

Have you been to Hedo before? If so, how would you compair the two?

des1re06 · 05-09-2008, 04:06 PM

I think you'll have a great time! It is one of the most beautiful resorts we've ever been to. The group we book with is awesome.

Sorry, but we haven't been to Hedo.

Mrs. D

CXXC · 05-09-2008, 04:17 PM

Mrs. D
We are not going with a group. We have been chatting with others who will be there when we are. The one thing I want more than anything is for my wife to feel spoiled rotten and to have the time of her life. At Hedo, she had tears in her eyes when we left. She was planning our return three days before we left. That didnt work out tho as our schedules got all screwed up.
this is our 10th anniversary and I want it to be the most memorable of all vacations. I would love it if she wanted to go back again and again.
Thanks for your input.

Chris&Amelia · 05-09-2008, 07:11 PM

Sorry, we've never been to Hedo either. But I know people who have and they've told me horror stories about "Vinnies" and "Wallies" who kind of ruin the mood. We picked Desire partially because it was couples-only.

CXXC · 05-10-2008, 09:21 AM

The "Vinnies" and "Wallies" are the nuber one reason I picked Desire this year. No matter how many times you asked them to politely back up or not to touch, they seemed to have hearing or learning dissabilities and never got the hint. I actually had to resort to a physical threat with one guy! SIGH! What a buzz kill for me, my wife and the rest of our friends.
Being couples only, I think Desire will have fiewer "Wallies" as well.
Thanks for the info.

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05-04-2008, 11:47 PM	#1 (permalink)
CXXC Here to Stay Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 51 Location: Savannah GA Status: Couple SLS Name:cxxc1963	Going to a lifestyle resort We are going to a lifestyle resort for nearly two weeks. This wil not be the first time we have gone to one. We went to Hedo II thw years ago. My wife did some light petting with the ladies but that is about all we did. My questions are: 1. Can one assume that the resorts are basically the same as the clubs in the social aspect and activities? 2. Are the social rules of engagement the same? 3. Is it easier to begin the swinging lifestyle together (being with another couple or individuals) at one of these resorts than it is in the clubs/swingers boards/swingers sites? I think that is all I have for questions now. I am sure more will follow once the answers to these questions are given. Thank you! __________________ Why? because it is what we are. What are we? In love!

05-05-2008, 03:44 PM	#2 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 21,178 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 53	Re: Going to a lifestyle resort Which resort are you planning to go to? __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

05-05-2008, 07:07 PM	#3 (permalink)
CXXC Here to Stay Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 51 Location: Savannah GA Status: Couple SLS Name:cxxc1963	Re: Going to a lifestyle resort We are going to Desire Cancun. __________________ Why? because it is what we are. What are we? In love!

05-06-2008, 09:42 PM	#4 (permalink)
Playtou Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2006 Posts: 16 Location: SC	Re: Going to a lifestyle resort We have been to both the Hedos several times and also go to the clubs. I would say that a higher percentage of people at the clubs are swingers than at the resorts. The rules are the same but I could not say which location would give you the higher success rate. We have noticed that at the resort people often wait until the last day to make their move but in the club they know it’s now or never. The key at both would be to find someone that you are interested in spend a bit of time with them and make your offer ASAP. If they turn you down move on.

05-06-2008, 10:22 PM	#5 (permalink)
celtic239 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 146 Location: new york	Re: Going to a lifestyle resort We have been to Desire Cancun twice, once when there was a semi-take over by a swing group and the other no organized groups. If you are interested in meeting people in the Lifestyle, I suggest that you go to the Desire website to the forum and see if there are any groups going at the time you guys will be there. I joined a club on line that is from Texas (we live in NY) just to chat with some people that we may be meeting (I recently broke an ankle so we had to change our plans). We met some people that had been to Hedo and they stated that Desires was a 'bit' calmer but that was during our non group vacation. As for the social rules of engagement they are the same the world over "No means NO"

05-07-2008, 10:51 AM	#6 (permalink)
des1re06 Great Times 1 Year Exp. Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,077 Location: East TN Status: Couple SLS Name:Des1re06	Re: Going to a lifestyle resort Hi, The rules at Desire change depending on whether it is a take-over week or not. Ask at checkin about the rules of PDA. When we were there it was during a take-over and full sex was only allowed in the club playroom and at the rooftop hot tub area. No sex in the main pool or beach-side beds. They can and do kick people out without a refund for breaking the rules. 1. Can one assume that the resorts are basically the same as the clubs in the social aspect and activities? Always ask before touching, and no means no is a general rule.2. Are the social rules of engagement the same? 3. Is it easier to begin the swinging lifestyle together (being with another couple or individuals) at one of these resorts than it is in the clubs/swingers boards/swingers sites? We thought it was more difficult meeting couples at the resort, but everyone has different takes on that. We're going for 2 weeks in March 09. Have a great trip!! Mrs. D

05-07-2008, 11:50 AM	#7 (permalink)
CXXC Here to Stay Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 51 Location: Savannah GA Status: Couple SLS Name:cxxc1963	Re: Going to a lifestyle resort I guess I should state that I FULLY understand and appreciate the "No MEANS NO!" rule. You would have to be an idiot not to. Thank you for all the information you have given me. I will take this with me and base my thoughts on this when we are there. Again, I go with no expectations. However, being prepared is always a good thing. __________________ Why? because it is what we are. What are we? In love!

05-07-2008, 01:34 PM	#8 (permalink)
Chris&Amelia Don't poke an eye out! Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 1,284 Location: Pennsylvania - The Poconos Status: The C of C&A SLS Name:PA_Panache	Re: Going to a lifestyle resort We've been to Desire Cancun. We had a great time while we were there. Although we met some great people while we were there, we never actually swung with anybody (short of some really light soft-swapping). Before we left we decided that it was going to be a "vacation for us". That being said... we (Amelia and I) pretty much had sex everywhere. On the beach, on the roof with the hot-tub, in the play-room.... it was great. Desire Cancun IS a Lifestyle-friendly resort, and we did attend some room parties. So, if you're looking to swing, it shouldn't be that difficult. But that wasn't our intention when we went. I highly suggest you make contact with others who are going the same time you are and maybe chat with them before you go if you're looking to hook up. They have an official forum where you can do that. __________________ Where should the PA Meet-up be held? VOTE HERE.

05-08-2008, 12:42 PM	#9 (permalink)
CXXC Here to Stay Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 51 Location: Savannah GA Status: Couple SLS Name:cxxc1963	Re: Going to a lifestyle resort I have been active on virtually every yahoo group and site that is dedicated to the Desire Resort. I have chatted with many of the people who will be going when we are. Our intention is to go, have a great time and have NO EXPECTATIONS for any activities. However, I am looking for as much information on the place that I can get. You have just given me what I needed. It is a place to do what you want! FANTASTIC!!!!!! This is going to be a fantastic vacation for us! Thank you again! __________________ Why? because it is what we are. What are we? In love!

05-08-2008, 07:29 PM	#10 (permalink)
Chris&Amelia Don't poke an eye out! Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 1,284 Location: Pennsylvania - The Poconos Status: The C of C&A SLS Name:PA_Panache	Re: Going to a lifestyle resort If you have any questions about Desire, feel free to ask. We will answer them to the best of our ability. __________________ Where should the PA Meet-up be held? VOTE HERE.

05-09-2008, 12:16 PM	#11 (permalink)
CXXC Here to Stay Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 51 Location: Savannah GA Status: Couple SLS Name:cxxc1963	Re: Going to a lifestyle resort Have you been to Hedo before? If so, how would you compair the two? __________________ Why? because it is what we are. What are we? In love!

05-09-2008, 04:06 PM	#12 (permalink)
des1re06 Great Times 1 Year Exp. Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,077 Location: East TN Status: Couple SLS Name:Des1re06	Re: Going to a lifestyle resort I think you'll have a great time! It is one of the most beautiful resorts we've ever been to. The group we book with is awesome. Sorry, but we haven't been to Hedo. Mrs. D

05-09-2008, 04:17 PM	#13 (permalink)
CXXC Here to Stay Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 51 Location: Savannah GA Status: Couple SLS Name:cxxc1963	Re: Going to a lifestyle resort Mrs. D We are not going with a group. We have been chatting with others who will be there when we are. The one thing I want more than anything is for my wife to feel spoiled rotten and to have the time of her life. At Hedo, she had tears in her eyes when we left. She was planning our return three days before we left. That didnt work out tho as our schedules got all screwed up. this is our 10th anniversary and I want it to be the most memorable of all vacations. I would love it if she wanted to go back again and again. Thanks for your input. __________________ Why? because it is what we are. What are we? In love!

05-09-2008, 07:11 PM	#14 (permalink)
Chris&Amelia Don't poke an eye out! Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 1,284 Location: Pennsylvania - The Poconos Status: The C of C&A SLS Name:PA_Panache	Re: Going to a lifestyle resort Sorry, we've never been to Hedo either. But I know people who have and they've told me horror stories about "Vinnies" and "Wallies" who kind of ruin the mood. We picked Desire partially because it was couples-only. __________________ Where should the PA Meet-up be held? VOTE HERE.

05-10-2008, 09:21 AM	#15 (permalink)
CXXC Here to Stay Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 51 Location: Savannah GA Status: Couple SLS Name:cxxc1963	Re: Going to a lifestyle resort The "Vinnies" and "Wallies" are the nuber one reason I picked Desire this year. No matter how many times you asked them to politely back up or not to touch, they seemed to have hearing or learning dissabilities and never got the hint. I actually had to resort to a physical threat with one guy! SIGH! What a buzz kill for me, my wife and the rest of our friends. Being couples only, I think Desire will have fiewer "Wallies" as well. Thanks for the info. __________________ Why? because it is what we are. What are we? In love!

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