What do you tell others about where you are when swinging?

[MrsBliss]

I have a couple of very good girlfriends and they and my sister in law and even parents in law know very often where we are.

Very innocent like: "what are you going to do this weekend?" Normally I am quite detailed in this and tell them everything.

Thinking about swinging made me realise I have to make something up. Because if I tell them that we go out, they might want to join us. We always go out with a group of people. They would all think we're ill or so when going out without asking them along a couple of times in one month.

What do you tell people around you?

[hmr]

We don't have the group thing to contend with, but we do have parents and friends who sometimes ask in conversation. We also have 3 children who want to know where we are going.

Usually we tend to stretch the truth just a little. We say we are meeting, or met a couple, maybe some old friends we haven't seen for a long time, who are coming through town. Or we made plans with a new couple we just met, and wanted to get to know better. We could have met these people anywhere, another friend, work, church,etc. Sometimes we go out of town, and tell them we are going to visit some friends, when we are actually going to a club. Though sometimes we do visit and meet playfriends instead.

mrs hmr

[Spoomonkey]

I run into this problem at work... And I am a terrible liar...

I have this female coworker who always asks where we went and what we did. And I always say, "I don't remember." My lame-ass excuse is always along the lines of, "we went to this part of town and I don't remember the restaurant/bar/blah, blah, blah." It should be easier to come up with something, but I just don't...

Spoomonkey

[VegasLee]

I have found that when people ask where we went last night a great answer is:

"We spent Saturday night at the swing club like we do every Saturday night with friends, you should have been there, it was great!"

Now. for people not into swinging they laugh and think you are kidding and leave you alone.

The ones that are into swinging now know you are also and they might show up to party some time.

Either way, it works!

[good times]

We usually say we stayed home and played Scrabble. Nobody has ever asked any further details about the Scrabble.

[fun_pairTX]

All our relations except a son and wife who also swing, (NOT WITH US JERRY SPRINGER), live about a thousand miles away. One time my mother in law asked over the phone what we did Saturday and I told her we piled 8 people on our king size bed, poured on a quart of Mazola and went for it. She told me to stop being a wiseass, so I just let it drop. Oh well some people can't handle the truth.

[wrnakedru]

Now that we are empty nesters, this is not quite the issue it was at one time. However, we have always enjoyed live music and have gone to a wide variety of places to hear/see an old favorite or new interest.

I have always been one of those people that other people just start talking to, for some reason, so it was always rather easy to explain away new friends.

And of course, there is always the old stand by of "we were introduced by mutual friends and really seemed to hit it off."

I learned a long time ago to always have a weather appropriate casual change of clothes along [as well as the all important "ditty bag"].

Somehow that outfit that was just smashing for the club on Saturday night tends to look a bit odd to arrive home in midday on Sunday - to say nothing of the looks it gathers if you want/need to actually get out of the car anywhere along the way.

[JustAskJulie]

Mrs Bliss, the inviting them with you shouldn't be too much of a problem as long as you don't altogether stop your normal outings. You can continue to invite them with you on those outtings and not invite them on these others. Just tell them that you need a night out alone with just your hubby.

[Brit_Pair]

Originally posted by JustAskJulie
Mrs Bliss, the inviting them with you shouldn't be too much of a problem as long as you don't altogether stop your normal outings. You can continue to invite them with you on those outtings and not invite them on these others. Just tell them that you need a night out alone with just your hubby.

Dito

We just keep it simple and tell people we are going to meet some friends for dinner & drinks.

[midnightpassion]

it really depends on who asks. some we tell the truth and others we just tell we went fishing lol

[sexypairca]

If it is an evening out, we're going on a date. Not my problem if family assumes that its with each other.

If its a mini trip that involves going out of town we tell everyone that we're going on a weekend get away, just need some time away from the kids. Sitters know how far we are in the event of an emergeny and have our cell # so we no longer have to give our exact destination.

We've had some stange looks over the past couple of years when we'd say "Oh yeah, we're going away this weekend" and then asked where only to tell of a place that really isn't an attraction. Not to mention a few remarks wondering why we have so many new friends and "where are you meeting these new friends?".? Oh well, what they don't know won't hurt 'em.

[tazzie_n_truck]

With us when someone, be it friend or family asks, we just tell them we were out with friends, or if we know we are going to be entertaining friends to swing with, we often tell them that we have friends coming to visit. Usually our friends and family when they know we are going to have company, they usually are pretty respectful and don't call so we can give our guests our undivided attention. There are times when Truck's family does get nosey and we just tell them that we have friends from out of town visiting. Which sometimes isn't always a lie. We just don't go into details about what happened over the weekend. lol

[meowkittyhascla]

We just say we are going out to meet friends and have a little dinner and drinks. That keeps the kids happy and they know that we have cell phone with us at all times and they can call. We don't hide the fact that we like to spice up our lives with new playmates..but we don't stand on top of the roof top and announce it either. We have never had to face the in-laws or other family members either so I wouldn't know what to say to them. But, knowing me...I would come up with some wise ass crack (no bun intended) and they would just think I was pulling their legs....

[BradAndJanet]

Originally posted by sexypairca
... We've had some stange looks over the past couple of years when we'd say "Oh yeah, we're going away this weekend" and then asked where only to tell of a place that really isn't an attraction. Not to mention a few remarks wondering why we have so many new friends and "where are you meeting these new friends?".? Oh well, what they don't know won't hurt 'em.

We get those questions a lot too! Windsor was pretty easy to explain (casino), but Tulsa? I just told 'em, "Hey, I've always been a fan of Will Rodgers, and that's where the museum is!"

When they ask where we've been meeting all these friends we say, truthfully, "On the Internet...." We just don't ever say exactly where on the Internet!

-B