What do you tell others about where you are when swinging?

Chris&Amelia · 03-18-2008, 05:32 AM

I have to agree with Sweet. When asked, we tend to tell the truth, but the basic truth. It's super-rare when anybody presses us for details, and when they do, Amelia usually answers along the lines of "Oh, ask Chris. He was driving, I wasn't really paying attention where we were."

So it's general "dinner with friends", or "a party", or "we're going dancing". On the off chance that somebody asks for details, I've already got the name of some relatively obscure but very real club that is inconveniently far away (but not too far away) to say.

des1re06 · 03-18-2008, 08:25 AM

Vanilla friends and family - camping

Most don't know that the camper is at a swing resort full-time.

Tia Vampire · 03-18-2008, 10:10 PM

We tell them we are going "tricking".

**fun4Ds** · 03-19-2008, 06:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Tia Vampire

We tell them we are going "tricking".

Well now, Thats a new one

What kind of a responce usually follows ?

J&D · 03-19-2008, 02:43 PM

For those who have children at home did you ship them off to grandma's? Did you have a person spend the night with them? What did you tell the person who spent the night and how they could contact you if they need to?

sweet_tna · 03-19-2008, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by J&D

For those who have children at home did you ship them off to grandma's? Did you have a person spend the night with them? What did you tell the person who spent the night and how they could contact you if they need to?

We're very fortunate that Mr. Sweet's mom will take our kidlets for sleepovers (at her house). We also have a backup sitter that watches them in her home. We just give them our cell phone numbers.

=)

Tia Vampire · 03-19-2008, 09:51 PM

Well our 2 older children know that we swing. So when we tell them that we are going "tricking", they know that we may or may not be home til the morning. They just laugh and say that we are crazy or that we are freaks. My mom usually keep the two lil ones over night and take them to church with her Sunday morning.

belgiumCouple · 03-20-2008, 10:38 AM

hmm what should we say to my parents : We're going to Florida for 2 weeks and the kids and my parents are coming with us. We want to go to a swing club on a saturday night but don't know what excuse to use... (we are not people who go to night clubs, disco's...) We thought about saying that we would go to a dinner show but what if they ask how it was and I think most dinner shows won't last until 3-4 am

**two4youinswva** · 03-20-2008, 11:35 AM

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Originally Posted by belgiumCouple

hmm what should we say to my parents : We're going to Florida for 2 weeks and the kids and my parents are coming with us. We want to go to a swing club on a saturday night but don't know what excuse to use... (we are not people who go to night clubs, disco's...) We thought about saying that we would go to a dinner show but what if they ask how it was and I think most dinner shows won't last until 3-4 am

That's hard for us to say without knowing the dynamics of your family. In our situation, all we would have to say is "We're going out, and we'll be back late".
There wouldn't be any discussion beyond that. It sounds like you don't have that option, or rather, have never exercised that option.

Are you going to the Disney World by chance? If so, I guess you could say you're going to Pleasure Island. It's kind of an adults place to go within the Disney World complex, and I think it's open until 2 am.

**LikeMinds321** · 03-20-2008, 11:42 AM

We tell them the truth...

but not the whole truth.

We only have our family to "tell" because we don't have friends. LOL

We tell them we went to a bar with friends, went dancing, went to dinner, went to a birthday party. All true.

When we've travelled to SB Meet Ups we said we wanted to get away for a weekend together because it's time we spent money on such "frivolous" things and "have some fun."

We figure my parents would understand, since they started traveling the country in an RV when they were our age.

LM

todesireu · 03-27-2008, 08:18 AM

Our usual "excuse" is dinner and a movie, happened to run into some old friends.

lustylearning · 03-27-2008, 08:38 AM

Same as many others ~ going out with friends, going out to a party, going out dancing. We always carry the cell phone and are seldom farther than 30 minutes away. The oddest question I ever had to answer was, "where'd all these friends come from?" But that is another thread...

**fun4Ds** · 03-27-2008, 10:03 AM

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Originally Posted by belgiumCouple

hmm what should we say to my parents : We're going to Florida for 2 weeks and the kids and my parents are coming with us. We want to go to a swing club on a saturday night but don't know what excuse to use... (we are not people who go to night clubs, disco's...) We thought about saying that we would go to a dinner show but what if they ask how it was and I think most dinner shows won't last until 3-4 am

BelgiumCouple, We would think to just tell your parents that you guys want some alone time, for one night. Nothing wrong with that. As parents with vanilla married children we understand that, as I'm sure your parents will also. Our vanilla parents would as well.

Like LM says, you don't have to tell the whole truth in this situation. Just say you want to have some romance time together for a while. There are things for just couples, wanting some romance these days. Like a fantasy themed hotels or something.

Just a suggestion

MRnMSbhaven · 03-27-2008, 10:10 AM

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Originally Posted by J&D

For those who have children at home did you ship them off to grandma's? Did you have a person spend the night with them? What did you tell the person who spent the night and how they could contact you if they need to?

Our children are very close to college age so we just tell them "Don't burn down the F'ing house, we'll be back tomorrow"!

Our eldest has a friend who swears we're swingers and has said as much to the spawn. So, being the opportunists we are... we tell them "We're going to a swinger party, now leave us alone". She thinks we're kidding.

Other than that, family just gets the stock answer of "we're going out with friends"

Ms B

winnme · 03-27-2008, 02:12 PM

We always say we are out of town or going clubing and some time we just get missing.but we almost all the time go to a swinger club at Myrtle Beach South Carolina it is hott for swinger its call Cfriends Couple clud

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03-18-2008, 05:32 AM	#31 (permalink)
Chris&Amelia Don't poke an eye out! Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 1,450 Location: Pennsylvania - The Poconos Status: The C of C&A Swing Lifestyle Name:PA_Panache	Re: What do you tell others about where you are when swinging? I have to agree with Sweet. When asked, we tend to tell the truth, but the basic truth. It's super-rare when anybody presses us for details, and when they do, Amelia usually answers along the lines of "Oh, ask Chris. He was driving, I wasn't really paying attention where we were." So it's general "dinner with friends", or "a party", or "we're going dancing". On the off chance that somebody asks for details, I've already got the name of some relatively obscure but very real club that is inconveniently far away (but not too far away) to say. __________________ I find your ideas intriguing and I would like to subscribe to your newsletter.

03-18-2008, 08:25 AM	#32 (permalink)
des1re06 Great Times 1 Year Exp. Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 1,078 Location: East TN Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:Des1re06	Re: What do you tell others about where you are when swinging? Vanilla friends and family - camping Most don't know that the camper is at a swing resort full-time.

03-18-2008, 10:10 PM	#33 (permalink)
Tia Vampire life-style adventurers Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 919 Location: Florida Status: couples Swing Lifestyle Name:tiavampire Blog Entries: 1	Re: What do you tell others about where you are when swinging? We tell them we are going "tricking".

03-19-2008, 02:43 PM	#35 (permalink)
J&D Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 19 Location: Michigan	Re: What do you tell others about where you are when swinging? For those who have children at home did you ship them off to grandma's? Did you have a person spend the night with them? What did you tell the person who spent the night and how they could contact you if they need to?

03-19-2008, 09:51 PM	#37 (permalink)
Tia Vampire life-style adventurers Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 919 Location: Florida Status: couples Swing Lifestyle Name:tiavampire Blog Entries: 1	Re: What do you tell others about where you are when swinging? Well our 2 older children know that we swing. So when we tell them that we are going "tricking", they know that we may or may not be home til the morning. They just laugh and say that we are crazy or that we are freaks. My mom usually keep the two lil ones over night and take them to church with her Sunday morning.

03-20-2008, 10:38 AM	#38 (permalink)
belgiumCouple Here to Stay Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 22 Location: belgium Status: couple	Re: What do you tell others about where you are when swinging? hmm what should we say to my parents : We're going to Florida for 2 weeks and the kids and my parents are coming with us. We want to go to a swing club on a saturday night but don't know what excuse to use... (we are not people who go to night clubs, disco's...) We thought about saying that we would go to a dinner show but what if they ask how it was and I think most dinner shows won't last until 3-4 am

03-20-2008, 11:42 AM	#40 (permalink)
LikeMinds321 Moderator Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 9,275 Location: With Wild Things Status: Married Female	Re: What do you tell others about where you are when swinging? We tell them the truth... but not the whole truth. We only have our family to "tell" because we don't have friends. LOL We tell them we went to a bar with friends, went dancing, went to dinner, went to a birthday party. All true. When we've travelled to SB Meet Ups we said we wanted to get away for a weekend together because it's time we spent money on such "frivolous" things and "have some fun." We figure my parents would understand, since they started traveling the country in an RV when they were our age. LM __________________ There are so many more interesting ways to be than right. ~ Robert Rauschenberg

03-27-2008, 08:18 AM	#41 (permalink)
todesireu Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 128 Location: central ohio Status: couple	Re: What do you tell others about where you are when swinging? Our usual "excuse" is dinner and a movie, happened to run into some old friends.

03-27-2008, 08:38 AM	#42 (permalink)
lustylearning Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 620 Location: Virginia Status: female half Blog Entries: 1	Re: What do you tell others about where you are when swinging? Same as many others ~ going out with friends, going out to a party, going out dancing. We always carry the cell phone and are seldom farther than 30 minutes away. The oddest question I ever had to answer was, "where'd all these friends come from?" But that is another thread...

03-27-2008, 02:12 PM	#45 (permalink)
winnme Here to Stay Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 28 Location: Gosnell Arkansa Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:winnme	Re: What do you tell others about where you are when swinging? We always say we are out of town or going clubing and some time we just get missing.but we almost all the time go to a swinger club at Myrtle Beach South Carolina it is hott for swinger its call Cfriends Couple clud Last edited by winnme : 03-27-2008 at 02:17 PM. Reason: miss spell

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