What do you tell others about where you are when swinging?

[da2ofusgb]

This is a good question. Now some of you may think this is kinda weird but most of our family allready knows of our lifestyle!!!

As you all know, most everybody has a pc now a days and can find just about anything they want on here. Well one day my sister was on an adult yahoo site for some reason or another, she still wont tell us why......... , and came upon our yahoo profile with some pics we had on there..........Well needless to say, soon the whole family knew of our endevers and what we were doing on our weekends off.........did they shun us and tell us off........NOPE, they all accepted us for what we do and still love us dearly to this day.........well all of them cept my sister who we only talk to occasionally anyway so that is no big deal......

So now we just tell them we are going out or away with friends and nobody asks the 5 w's anymore........Who, What, Where, When and Why.........

Also some of our family members have met some of the couples that we hang with all the time, and they think they are great people which they are.

In fact one couple is even hiring our son-in-law which is a masonary contractor to come and rebuild there fireplace and chimney and do the outside brick work on the home they are remodeling.

peace...
Ed

[Denver2some]

Originally Posted by good times

We usually say we stayed home and played Scrabble. Nobody has ever asked any further details about the Scrabble.

We hope you don't mind, but we are stealing this one!

[Alura]

We always tell the truth. For instance:

We're driving up to Indianapolis on Thursday. On Friday we have business conferences part of the day. On Saturday Mrs. Alura is going shopping while Mr. Alura goes to the race track museum with a friend. We're driving back on Sunday.


Mr. Alura

[good times]

Originally Posted by Denver2some

We hope you don't mind, but we are stealing this one!

Have at it, we're always here to help.

[Olympia221]

Originally Posted by good times

We usually say we stayed home and played Scrabble. Nobody has ever asked any further details about the Scrabble.

We also LOVE the scrabble excuse!

[Eroica]

We do not have children so we can give very vague answers. However, we had a problem once when we went to a lifestyle resort in a foreign country. Everyone wanted a phone number where they could reach us in an emergency. Luckily, for us, the resort owners were cool about incoming phone calls.......and no one called us!

[DanBridget]

Although we are new to the lifestyle, both of us have friends in many parts of the country from when we attended college. I am still in school but since my degree is made of mostly out of state students going away for the weekend is normal. We just say we went to see a buddy of me. Whihc works for us, since my wife's brother is also are neighbor.

[Brit_Pair]

Lie: simply and mundanely.

[JustAskJulie]

I thought this was an interesting question.... what do you tell the non-swingers in your life about where you are / what you are doing when you are out with swinging friends?

I had this happen this weekend, a friend from work (vanilla) asked what we had been up to on Friday night... and I was just like "we went to dinner with friends". Then when asked what plans we had for Saturday night I just said "we are going to a party". Luckily, I don't have the issue of having people who think they should get invited along to everything we do. I think if that were my situation I'd be tempted to just tell them that "we are trying to spend more time alone together as a couple".

[havefuninsun]

We've just said we're going out with friends.

Of course, the kids look at us and say, "you have friends?"

[Thrax]

Church.



Nah, that's the last "excuse" I would use.

I have five basic friends/family groups:
1. Family (none of whom live within less than 75 miles of me),
2. Hometown friends (some live five miles away, but most live hundreds of miles away, at least),
3. Local friends from my swimming/running/triathlon days,
4. Local friends from Job A, and
5. Local friends from Job B.

There's a little intersection between some of the groups, but it's minimal. So it's easy to tell -- and remember the story -- groups 1, 2, 3, and 5, if I have to, that I am visiting friends from Job A that moved to Maryland, for instance. And of course, the Maryland friends are not vanilla Job A friends, but are Maryland swingers. The Job A folks would get a different story.

If I'm going to a Pittsburgh-area club, or a local house party, it just becomes a party hosted by someone that the inquisitor would not be likely to know. If someone discovers that I didn't get home until the morning after the party, then the excuse is that I had to stay overnight because I drank a little too much (an excuse for friends and certain family members), or I "got lucky" -- in a vanilla context, of course -- (for some friends and former colleagues), or my car battery died (for my parents), etc. A broad excuse is available for each audience, and since the various sections of the audience aren't likely to talk to each other -- about my activities, anyway -- then I don't think I'm in much danger of being discovered.

All of this might seem complicated, but since I only need one or two excuse-stories per club visit, house party, etc., it's not at all difficult to keep track of.

Do I like lying to people? No, I don't. But at this time my swinging friends -- and activities -- are totally separate from my family and vanilla friends. I figure it's my personal business and they don't really need to know. I'd like to keep it that way.

By the time I'm 80 or so I might just start being honest with people, just for the fun of it at that point!

Thrax

[LFM2]

We tell our one child left at home that we're going out to dinner with friends. We tell our vanilla friends that we're going out of town for the weekend for a little one-on-one time just for us. So far, so good!

[Pepper & Drew]

We say what we did. We went out dancing. We went to our friends' house. We had people over to our house. We went to a party. We try to tell as much of the truth as possible. Less to remember that way.

Pepper

[two4youinswva]

We tell everyone it is our "Date Night". It's never been questioned.

[sweet_tna]

We tell the truth, for the most part. We're going out with friends, to a club, to a party . . . we just don't elaborate.

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