What goes on at the Swinger clubs?

[ac556k]

My ex wife and myself went to a nudist resort this past weekend and couldn't believe what a wonderful time we had. While we weren't suppossed to we had sex in the pool around everyone and it really turned us on. We thought about going to one of the swinger/sex clubs to fool around. We both have no desire to be with other people but just the ambience of others having sex around us would be fun. Will people at these clubs mind if we don't wish to be touched by anyone else?
thanks

[BiloxiCouple]

You'll have to let them know you don't want to be touched. While most won't without asking, there may be one once in a while.

The first rule of swinging - No means no.

And only with permission.

[des1re06]

When we first started going to swinger clubs, we only had sex with each other. We were nudists as well. No one touched us, but there was a good deal of flirting.

To answer your question, no one will bother you. If they touch without asking, report them to the management. One of the rules is no touching without permission.

Swingers in general don't like non-swingers attending "their clubs", but open-minded couples who are curteous are welcomed by the management.

Have fun!

Mrs. D

[fun4Ds]

We don't think others at clubs will mind if you don't want to be touched. We have been at times when we were not in a position to play, but we like the atmosphere. We feel its important to know how to express to others diligently that your not playing.

If its the groping your are worried about, just bear in mind that it even happens with a vanilla bar as well. Rarely for us has it happened at a swingers club.

Personally, I (Mr.fun4ds) Like a good gropeing, what can I say, cop a feel anytime ladies

Mrs.fun on the other hand, one should be very cautious. It would be wise.

[BradAndJanet]

I don't think it would be a problem at all. Like you, we enjoy the atmosphere and playing with others is always optional.

-B

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by ac556k

We thought about going to one of the swinger/sex clubs to fool around. We both have no desire to be with other people but just the ambience of others having sex around us would be fun. Will people at these clubs mind if we don't wish to be touched by anyone else?
thanks

Hi ac556k~

Welcome to the Swingers Board!

I think more couples like you are having fun together at swingers clubs in a way they can't at a vanilla club.

You will probably find yourselves telling people not to touch, or join you, quite often. So be prepared for that. Swingers are used to getting involved with others at the club, that's why they go. There is a thread you might find interesting called Are voyeurs and exhibitionists swingers? I think this could give you a glimpse of the different views swingers have about people who come to swingers clubs and don't play with others.

Since you aren't interested in engaging in sex with other people at this time, have you discussed the possibility of that changing?

For example, maybe consider inviting another couple into a private play room where you have sex with your own partner, no interaction with the other couple. Each couple are voyeurs and exhibitionists, but don't have any contact with each other.

LM

[screaminggood]

I'd welcome you at my favorite club...to dance and watch but I have a suggestion for you: If someone dances up next to you, you should politely let her know, "We're new and just watching tonight," or some phrase like that.

If you dance and flirt with them for more than one song, and then you walk away....they might tend to think you were leading them on, and wouldn't like you for it. Whereas, if you're open about your limits, they'll still dance and smile at you, but know to look elsewhere for that evening's playmate.

[airbrushman]

ac556k, we also like the atmosphere as you describe, but my wife sont like the idea of going ot a club, read my post under curious about swinging "she is interested"

abm

[newblueyedcpl4u]

Our experiences at two of the swinger clubs in Maryland were quite different. The first one we went to was an older crowd, say late thirtys to young fifties. That crowd was our age group so we got along well with many of the folks there and played with a few. The other club was a younger crowd and they didn't know we existed. We probably looked more like Mom and Dad then someone they would be interested in. We did find that the younger crowd was more interested in dancing and partying then swinging and the older crowd was there to be voyuers and have sex. As far as watching and not being touched , well both clubs we went to have the same rule. No means no, and if someone breaks that rule all you have to do is notify the management and they are out the door. Lots of people are voyuers and that is evident when you go to a group room of a on premise club and notice how many people are standing there completely dressed just watching. The female half of us loves to watch the girls dance and watch them play on the dance poles. On the other hand when she is in bed she is not the bi type at all, she will touch and doesn't mind being touched but doesn't want it to erupt into a full blown sex session with a female either. So yes a lot of people go there to enjoy the sexy atmosphere and drink and party, and you are certainly not going to be alone in that venture. On the other hand you might meet a really nice couple that is a perfect match for your first time swinging. Good luck~ J and R