she is interested

[airbrushman]

even though she does not like the word "swinging" and the idea of going to a club or party I think is out of the question, while watching Nina Hartly's "intro to swinging" I know she is interested. we have been to hedonism 3 and she has had a little ff play, we love the sexualy charged atmosphere.
so I had an idea
I now there are several people on this board are like us. so here is what I asked her, if we knew about 3 other couples that were like us, interested in "soft play" and we met in a place like New Orleans (just because she tends to get a little wild in New Orleans) would you be interested in going and getting to know them, and she said maybe she would. we normally stay at the inn on bourbon where there are 4 rooms on the balcony that over looks bourbon st. it is a good place to party and the balcony is a good place to just talk and get to know someone.
I just think that if other couples are like us and curious, it would be a good place for like mind people to maybe test the waters, play some break the ice games (strip poker or plinko,drinko, stripo, it is played with a plinko board, fun game we play , but I think it would be more fum with more people;-)). I told her that we could discuss the limits up front and she said she like that idea.
I know some of you that have been in the lifestyle for a while may think it sounds lame, but for us that may be interested in having some soft play, but may be intimidated by going to a club or a party I think this may be a good idea.
what do you think

abm

[des1re06]

From what you've said here, it sounds good.

She's on board and you've talked about your limits. Just don't forget to talk openly with the other couples about their limits also.

I too love New Orleans!

Have fun!

Mrs. D

[EggPlantKing]

Make sure you are not going in with expectations of something. Like everyone has told me could be a good sexual time or could be just a meet and greet. Oh and speaking of meeting and greeting. If you find those couples see if she is interested in getting to know them via computer or phone before hand. It may loosen her up more with them in person. Also don't forget like almost anyone will tell you "Let her lead then Follow." her blossom will flower when its ready not when your spring is in the air.

Good luck.

[sweet_tna]

Sounds to me like private parties are more your scene, and there's nothing wrong with that. You've gotta' do what works for you and the Mrs. Just make sure you keep talking--with each other, and the other couples you meet.

Have fun in N'walins!

=)

[airbrushman]

eggplantking, you hit it right on the nose, that is what we talked about. just meet like minded people with no expectation except meeting new friends thats why I like the idea of the balcony so everyone could sit and talk and just get to know each other. and I like the idea of getting to know each other via e-mail and phone, we did that before we went to hedonism and it felt like we had been knowing them for years

abm

[redeye69]

Wow just the opertunity to sit on a balcony on Bourbon st would do me , really nice idea.

[good times]

Sounds like a fine idea, then again, what you want to do also sounds like a typical night at most swingers clubs or meet and greets.

I think the reason most folks are intimidated by clubs is because they have a distorted view of what the clubs are really like. I know before we went to our first one we thought they were a dark room with a bunch of leisure suit Larry's and half dressed women in one big orgy. What they actually are is usually more like a regular night club filled with regular like minded friendly people. Occasionally you might see some scantily clad women, but usually you have to go to the separate play areas of the club even to see that. You might see a few people doing a little soft play or playing ice breaker type games in the common areas, but usually it is just dancing, visiting, playing pool or darts with a little bit of flirting thrown in if all parties are receptive.

Another thing to keep in mind about the clubs is that on most nights, at the clubs we have been to, a significant number of the folks attending are newbies too. Last weekend we went to one of our local clubs and I would say it was a fairly typical night. We didn't meet everyone there, but we either already new or met for the first time about a dozen couples. Of those, two couples had never been to a club or actually played with anyone. Another couple had been to a club once before but never played with anyone, and two other couples had only played with anyone once before. My point is, it would be highly unlikely that you would go to a club and be the only new couple there.

[fun4Ds]

[quote=airbrushman;309045]

I just think that if other couples are like us and curious, it would be a good place for like mind people to maybe test the waters, play some break the ice games (strip poker or plinko,drinko, stripo, it is played with a plinko board, fun game we play , but I think it would be more fum with more people;-)). I told her that we could discuss the limits up front and she said she like that idea.
I know some of you that have been in the lifestyle for a while may think it sounds lame, but for us that may be interested in having some soft play, but may be intimidated by going to a club or a party I think this may be a good idea.
what do you think

I think its a great idea, it doesn't sound lame at all to me.
Have you couples in mind that you will be there with you, or just close quarters enough to introduce the acquaintances to others ?

The boundaries are a good idea, but playing strip games with a little drinking, could cause (after the fact) issues. A little buzz on would lessen the inhibitions, so keep in mind the rules and boundaries.

Say for instance, it was a couple like us that was with you. We certainly could enjoy what you have in mind and would respect your level of interest and boundaries. But we may want to venture on to a club. Would you be willing to NOT GO ? We wouldn't want to be the temptation that leads your wife past her boundaries. That would put you in a position of respecting her boundaries. We met a couple once where the husband was more eager to take things to the next level. We were just getting acquainted and understood the wifes boundaries. Things went well until we were ready to leave.

Our mistake when asked where we were going, was to say we were going to a strip club. The husband was pretty eager to follow and the wife didn't want to go. A few drinks and he said " O come on it wont hurt to go." She was pissed. He put her in a position of being in the limelight as the party pooper. Mrs.Fun caught this and changed the tune quickly, She didn't want to go either. That toned everything down, But in a different circumstance with a crowd wanting to go, This woman would have been doing something against her comfort level.

Not that this is going to happen, Just something to think about

[BiloxiCouple]

If ya'll decide to try a swingers club, there is Collettes just off Bourbon and Canal. Within walking distance of where ya'll will be at. First floor is a dance floor and BYOB bar. Plenty of seating. 2nd floor is the play area. 3rd floor is the themed rooms for rent like a B&B.

In case you want to take it up a notch

[airbrushman]

fun4D, we don't have any couples in mind that is one reason I posted this, I've seen others post on here that seemed to have the same fillings and fears that we do, so thought some of them may be interested. I would definitely respect the boundaries and if my wife did not want to go them we would'nt go, but as far as going to a strip club, she would be one of the first to go as long as there were good looking stripers, like she has said befor if we are going to pay someone to strip we want them to look good.
and as far as the games.... we like game (ie strip poker) we play a lot just with us just for something a little different. the plinko game I mentioned, I made some cards for it and it could make a great "full contact" game.

as far as it actually happening if it does and all we get out of it is new friends it would still worth the 3 hour drive

abm

[Pepper & Drew]

Ahh....New Orleans. That's where our foray into this began....

Anywho, I agree with Good Times. In our local area, there are several meet and greets that are exactly what I think you guys are looking for. It's designed to meet people in a low pressure environment, get to know each other a little, then, if you want, you can head to a more private location. And, I know you're saying you want inexperienced couples, but sometimes experienced couples are better at putting newbies at ease and with knowing exactly what they want.

It sounds like you're headed in the right direction. Good luck!

Pepper

[airbrushman]

does anyone want to go to new orleans;-)

abm

[Drusilla]

Wow....that sounds awesome! It sounds like just the right thing for us. I'd love to go but not sure I'd convince hubby. *sigh* After 9 months of seriously "thinking about it" and finding the idea "intriguing", he still won't go any further.

I know...usually it's the girl that needs to be "convinced". We've switched that up a bit. LOL

It definitely sounds like a great idea and a fun time!

[fun4Ds]

Originally Posted by airbrushman

does anyone want to go to new orleans;-)

abm

Its on our list but farther down the road. We are scheduled for Chicago, Nashville, Georgia, Seattle and Vegas. But there is something to be said for the greatest party in the world. For me personally, I'm all about a good party

[airbrushman]

drusilla, as far as the new orleans thing we we are hoping just to have a good time, nothing to farout, my wife is kinda timid as well, but once she gets to new orleans and a few drinks she tends to loosen up, now I now that is not the time to make the decision to swing thats why make sure and talk about the beer is not talking.
Fun4Ds, mardi gras is not the only time to have a good time in nola, just about any weekend its always a good party. its a good place for the ladies to test to see if they have a problem with being nude in public ;-)

abm