Well, after reading a LOT of GREAT info in these forums..

blue.freckles · 11-01-2007, 12:26 PM

I emailed my fiance and let her read some of the posts of you guys/gals. She responded with a VERY positive email and actually said that she was "very excited about talking about the potential for this" lately.

I think the promotion of self confidence, trust between the couple and exploring one's own sexuality while promoting open communication between a couple are the things that really turn us on to the idea of swinging.

Is there any other advice for us?

**Alura** · 11-01-2007, 03:51 PM

The only thing I might suggest, Blue Freckles, is y'all keep doing everything in your second paragraph!

Mr. Alura

blue.freckles · 11-01-2007, 04:40 PM

thanks for the encouragement!

Spoomonkey · 11-01-2007, 07:27 PM

I agree with Alura (of course). You seem to have the major points down already. The next step, I think, would be patience... Lots of it.

We've been doing this 4 1/2 years and it has really been this year that we have really found ourselves in a place we really enjoy.

So - keep that in mind and keep going back to you two as a couple; what the two of you are getting out of it as a unit...

The other advice I'd give is make the avatar bigger. I bumped my head leaning in to look

Spoomonkey

sweet_tna · 11-01-2007, 08:54 PM

These fellas have said it all except: HAVE FUN!

~Mrs. Sweet =)

blue.freckles · 11-02-2007, 04:59 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

I agree with Alura (of course). You seem to have the major points down already. The next step, I think, would be patience... Lots of it.

We've been doing this 4 1/2 years and it has really been this year that we have really found ourselves in a place we really enjoy.

So - keep that in mind and keep going back to you two as a couple; what the two of you are getting out of it as a unit...

The other advice I'd give is make the avatar bigger. I bumped my head leaning in to look

Spoomonkey

lol...yeah... she's pretty hot... thanks for your advice!

ShellyM · 11-02-2007, 05:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by blue.freckles

I emailed my fiance and let her read some of the posts of you guys/gals. She responded with a VERY positive email and actually said that she was "very excited about talking about the potential for this" lately.

I think the promotion of self confidence, trust between the couple and exploring one's own sexuality while promoting open communication between a couple are the things that really turn us on to the idea of swinging.

Is there any other advice for us?

I think you definately are on the right track. This will beaten into your head at swingers university: communicate, communicate, communicate. And when you think your tongue is dying from exhaustion, communicate more. There are all kinds of tips. Number one, remember that you do not read each other's minds. Your wife is not going to just "know" that something bothers or threatens you, and vice versa for her. Anything that remotely makes you nervous or apprehensive, talk about it. Alot of newbies sit down and actually write these things down so as not to forget. Areas that you just "dont know" how you will feel, such as looking over and seeing another man on top of your wife, you need to talk about this. One good trick that newbies do as well is they don't branch out at parties and clubs separately. Stay together, this also helps to avoid mis-understandings. And please have fun.
And yes, as others have said, the wife is hot!

blue.freckles · 11-02-2007, 05:27 PM

its kinda funny because we've been exactly this lately.. we've just been talking and talking and talking... apparently, there has been a lot of miscommunication over the duration of our relationship, a lot of grief about some problems in the beginning, and a lingering self loathing over those same issues...

i'll have to get her on here so we can talk openly about things and get your feedback on a lot of things...

thanks for your advice!

i'll have to let her know how beautiful everyone thinks she is! more encouragement!

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11-01-2007, 12:26 PM	#1 (permalink)
blue.freckles Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 24 Location: Chicago Status: Couple	Well, after reading a LOT of GREAT info in these forums.. I emailed my fiance and let her read some of the posts of you guys/gals. She responded with a VERY positive email and actually said that she was "very excited about talking about the potential for this" lately. I think the promotion of self confidence, trust between the couple and exploring one's own sexuality while promoting open communication between a couple are the things that really turn us on to the idea of swinging. Is there any other advice for us?

11-01-2007, 03:51 PM	#2 (permalink)
Alura T-Town Playmates Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 6,114 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Married to Mrs. Alura	Re: Well, after reading a LOT of GREAT info in these forums.. The only thing I might suggest, Blue Freckles, is y'all keep doing everything in your second paragraph! Mr. Alura __________________ "They may call me a rube and a hick, but I'd a lot rather be the man who bought the Brooklyn Bridge than the man who sold it." —Will Rogers

11-01-2007, 04:40 PM	#3 (permalink)
blue.freckles Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 24 Location: Chicago Status: Couple	Re: Well, after reading a LOT of GREAT info in these forums.. thanks for the encouragement!

11-01-2007, 07:27 PM	#4 (permalink)
Spoomonkey Chimpin' Ain't Easy Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 6,563 Location: Ohio Status: Married Monkeys - will you be our vine? SLS Name:Spoomonkey	Re: Well, after reading a LOT of GREAT info in these forums.. I agree with Alura (of course). You seem to have the major points down already. The next step, I think, would be patience... Lots of it. We've been doing this 4 1/2 years and it has really been this year that we have really found ourselves in a place we really enjoy. So - keep that in mind and keep going back to you two as a couple; what the two of you are getting out of it as a unit... The other advice I'd give is make the avatar bigger. I bumped my head leaning in to look Spoomonkey __________________ "Eros will have naked bodies; Friendship naked personalities." - C. S. Lewis

11-01-2007, 08:54 PM	#5 (permalink)
sweet_tna Being good is overrated Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 2,863 Location: Poconos, PA Status: The boss of Mr. Sweet SLS Name:Sweet_tna	Re: Well, after reading a LOT of GREAT info in these forums.. These fellas have said it all except: HAVE FUN! ~Mrs. Sweet =) __________________ I'd rather go to hell for doing something I enjoyed than die wondering what it's like.

11-02-2007, 05:27 PM	#8 (permalink)
blue.freckles Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 24 Location: Chicago Status: Couple	Re: Well, after reading a LOT of GREAT info in these forums.. its kinda funny because we've been exactly this lately.. we've just been talking and talking and talking... apparently, there has been a lot of miscommunication over the duration of our relationship, a lot of grief about some problems in the beginning, and a lingering self loathing over those same issues... i'll have to get her on here so we can talk openly about things and get your feedback on a lot of things... thanks for your advice! i'll have to let her know how beautiful everyone thinks she is! more encouragement!

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