Is there a 'swinging virgin' appeal?

[La Ti Da]

My g/f and I are heading to a swing club for the first time on Friday night. I imagine that the swinging community in a city of approximately one million is a fairly tight knit one.

Is there a new member / fresh meat appeal for existing swingers? We are going to go at our own pace but it will be a nice confidence boost if others are obviously attracted to us.

Some additional factors may (I'm not really sure what typical attractions are): We are mid 20's, in great shape, outgoing and my g/f is amazingly attractive but not in a stereotype barbie girl kind of way. She is very unique looking.

I guess I'd like for others to be attracted to us but not simply because we are the newbies and everyone is tired of the same old thing.

Just a couple of nerves still firing about the unknown obviously,

We submit our pictures to the club tonight!

[Chicup]

Originally Posted by La Ti Da

We submit our pictures to the club tonight!

One of those clubs eh?

[graygo98]

Good question. I know that when new people pop up on sites (AFF, CD, etc.) they get a lot of attention. At the clubs, though, that is not so much the case. They can be a bit cliqueish.

We were lucky. A very experienced and very classy couple approached us that first night and, in a non-threatening way, brought us into their circle. Other visits in those early days, when we didn't know anyone, were not as much fun.... we were pretty much left alone unless we initiated contact.

Best advice? Just go to have fun. Dance with your GF, smile, have a (very) few drinks. There is something really attractive about people that look like they are having fun. Say hi to people, introduce yourselves. Don't go with big expectations, beyond having a good time. You are with someone you love to be with, in a sexually charged and exotic/erotic environment, so that shouldn't be hard.

At the worst, if you have the right attitude you will have a great night out even if you don't meet anyone new. At best, you will meet some great people. Sounds pretty much like a win-win, doesn't it?

[La Ti Da]

Sounds like good advice graygo. We have fun everytime we go out, so I'm not putting undue pressure on the night.

My only further inquiry ot your reply is regarding the (very) few drinks comment. We are both pretty regular drinkers, but we don't tend to get sloppy drunk in public very often. Any specific pitfalls we should be avoiding in regards to drinking in clubs?

Hopefully the club is as laid back as the owner implied. I specifically asked if the swinger scene was cliqueish and her response was that groups of people will be hanging out with each other but that they are not cliqueish and quite approachable.

I guess we'll have to see, but our minds are open and we will definately have a good time.

Not having experienced anything yet I think that meeting people in a clib would be more comfortable than trying to meet people online. At least they are infront of you and the setting is casual enough that noone hopefully gets offended if there isn't very much interest right off the bat. Also, I have a fairly professional and semi high profile job. I would not be willing to post pictures of myself online.

Thanks for the responses so far!

[havefuninsun]

We like virgins.



Have a lot of fun, stick to your boundaries, and all will be well in the world ...

[JustAskJulie]

Like others have said there is definately a certain appeal to newbies... if for no other reason than you are new. If you go and have fun you will retain that appeal. If you go and hug the wall/corner and speak to no one other than yourselves, you will not.

[des1re06]

I found on our first experience at clubs, a friendly smile, and "Hi, we're new here," was all it took. We were welcomed with open arms.

What Julie says is true; if you sit in a corner, you will be ignored. That's the case in any party atmosphere though.

I have only heard 1 seasoned swinger say they didn't like newbies, and that was because the newbies they met weren't really sure they wanted this lifestyle and had some jealousy issues.

Always express your limits. Have fun!!

Mrs. D

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by La Ti Da

My g/f and I are heading to a swing club for the first time on Friday night.

You got tons of great advice. Have a great time, and let us know after your first visit how it went for you!