Guys tell us why you want to watch a man fuck your woman, AND women how does it feel?

[Michfunlovers]

What made her go for it? A chance to be with another man and a woman. She always wanted to try the bi thing, and that's her main attraction. But she loves giving blow jobs, too, and I love watching her get into it as well as watch the guy enjoy and appreciate her talents! And to be honest, she enjoys watching me be on the receiving end of her gal pals.

But like other posters said, she had to decide she was doing it for her, not just for me. That has always been a key element to our enjoyment of the lifestyle.

And best of all, it usually leads to incredible sex 'tween the two of us.

[mfmyeahbaby]

Well I can say from experience about why she does it or how he feels to her. For the most part our mfm play has been with 1 guy. Thats because she REALLY enjoys the way it feels, smells, how he does it, etc. thats the main reason why I not only enjoy mfm play so much but why we would choose her having sex with men versus lets say me having fmf play with a freak. like I said for me its not the enjoyment of watching her suck him or ride on top, not even how well he may fuck her. for me its totally and completely my enjoyment of how she is feeling. our situation as far as mfm play is concerned is so damn sound and respected that I would only prefer to play that if she was really in the mood to completely let go and indulge her pleasures. meaning she knows from experience that if he wanted her to suck him she has my total blessings, but for us its she knows that she can not only suck him but she can really enjoy what it is not just about sucking that she likes but also what it is about sucking him that she likes and she can really get into it to a point of really enjoying herself. the best part for us is the sex she has with him. our situation is treated with so much respect and trust that they both know that my position is 100percent pleasures. so he knows the whole time that she isn't just doing it and sounding that way, he knows that hes making her sound that way I not only do she love it but I really love it. just as long as whatever it is is what she wants.

[rpu3]

Originally Posted by untamedhawk

So, lay it on the line/tell it like it is/ or /show me a better way to approach this with her - to her. What made the women of the board finally go for it? Any additional information is greatly welcome!

I don't know if I have anything to help you with, because swinging was my idea. I'm also the personality type that if you are trying to "convince" me of something, I'm going to back away in a hurry while I figure out why the other person is pushing.

IMO, she'll go for it when she's ready to go for it. Really.

[Tybee Swing]

Originally Posted by untamedhawk

For a guy who is trying to convince his SO to let loose...

I had talked & talked in a manner that made it an erotic thought to her, and she was only doing what she thought I wanted...

So, lay it on the line/tell it like it is/ or /show me a better way to approach this with her - to her. What made the women of the board finally go for it?

Hi, I'm the wife and I'm the one that started the conversation about swinging (or opened the door). From there, we proceeded equally and gradually. Nobody was "trying to convince" anybody. I have to tell you, if my husband was trying to convince me to do this (i.e. pushing), it wouldn't have happened.

As a woman, I'll share the #1 thing for me that makes me comfortable enough and confident enough to swing. That is, knowing and feeling my husband's 100% loyalty to me, and the way he puts our relationship first above all, including his fantasies. I mean, he'd never push me into or toward anything. He loves to see me enjoying myself, as I enjoy seeing him enjoy himself, but he doesn't presume to know who or what is best for me, or what I could handle. If my husband presented an idea and then learned that I was only doing what I thought he wanted (but I didn't particularly want or enjoy it for myself), he wouldn't enjoy it, either. Does that make sense?

Because my husband is the man he is, he gives me every sense of security in our relationship. He's with me no matter what. This sense of security, commitment, loyalty, devotion (it goes by many names) is what allows me to swing, to be comfortable with it, and to know that no matter what, I'm more important to him than swinging or any other fantasy he might have.

Women who do things for men that they themselves don't truly want to do (would rather not do), are doing it from a place of insecurity and fear. The fear is that if they don't cave into their man's wishes (constantly made known by repeat conversations, arguments, approaches, angles), they will lose the man. Do you really want her to do this, in spite of the fact that she doesn't really want to??

You're asking for a better way to approach this with her/to her. The only way (in my opinion), is to back off of the subject. At the same time as dropping it, you demonstrate genuine commitment, love, loyalty and devotion in the way you treat her every day. This includes the big and little things. Respecting her and honoring her feelings is one of the BIG things. When a woman knows that her husband (or SO) adores her and is there for her no matter what (like a rock), she feels secure and safe. When a woman feels this safe in a relationship, she can blossom. She isn't operating from a place of fear anymore. She isn't constantly worrying that you'll grow bored or eventually be disappointed, and leave her.

You're posting as a single man. Are you really committed to this lady? A person can only commit as deeply to a person as they're able to. But, maybe that's the missing link for this lady.

[cutecouple39]

Originally Posted by untamedhawk

So, lay it on the line/tell it like it is/ or /show me a better way to approach this with her - to her. What made the women of the board finally go for it? Any additional information is greatly welcome!


Hawk

This is the male half of this couple. But for us we had talked about it for a very long time before hand and never once did I force the idea onto her. We never even joined one of the swinger sites until she was comfortable with the idea of sharing our sex lives with others. It was a difficult road finding people we were both compatible with (couple searching). We'd find couples that one or the other may have liked but just couldn't find that elusive great match for all 4 people until now. The best way I/we feel to approach this is to let her decide when she is ready and not rush anything. We found that it was much easier for us both to handle through good communication....not only with your spouse but with the other singles or couples that you may be interacting with. The most important thing to realize is that your relationship with your spouse is the most important one..... Good luck in your endeavors!!!

[mfmyeahbaby]

I can add to my earlier post that from my stand point how it is felt, tasted, enjoyed, by her is my whole reason for ever wanting it to happen. from her stand point, yes she does enjoy the attention she gets from 2 men especially her playmate. She enjoys the freedom have being able to completely enjoy herself anyway she chooses with no complications or jealously. I enjoy the fact that she feels so liberated by her sexual freedom and really do enjoy her pleasures.

[cwill498]

I for one love to see her enjoying herself, especially with people we just met or those we have no long-standing relationship with. I think that, for me anyway, she is less inhibited being with people we probably will not run into on a regular basis plus there is just something erotic about watching her handle other men...I either enjoy the way she savors them differently from me or I enjoy watching her please them because I know how good it feels when she is doing different things to the guy.

I get far more aroused watching her with another man than I do by sharing another woman in her presence. Seeing a man with my gf is basically the ultimate thrill for me and she loves knowing that I love seeing her with these men.

[Likmyclitbaby]

My husband does not want another man to fuck me, but wants me to be with a woman. I have been with several women in the past, and I have had a hard time since I moved making friends and finding out who would be interested in the swinging lifestyle. I have fucked a few men that I know, and love the feel I get when I am with them. I love the attention and the stimulation - but I am always by myself when I am with other men. I like to play into whatever a man wants and that make me all the hornier for that. Having another man want to fuck you and get you off is great - It is this highly erotic, and many times a tantric sex that I feel with my partners. I just wish I could find a woman to join in with us so I could lick her pussy and get her off with me. I miss those days.

[untamedhawk]

Hello everyone, I've been very busy - although I do find time to lurk l . My fiancé recently had a close encounter with a Johnny Depp look a like . She's very interested and was disappointed when he changed his mind, Johnny apparently found another ship to sail .

Anyway, I'd like to ask for more advice. Is there a "Correct" way to post on the web anonymously in order to get feedback in a local area? If so, where are the best sites for a couple to start (for a lack of better words) advertising, without a rash of ?

We are in Kentucky if that helps.

Hawk

[joaninla]

"Amen" to the post by Tybee. As a married woman I echo what she wrote. In addition, it's a turn on to me to see how excited he (my husband) gets while watching me and another. I sometimes wonder which of the three of us is more excited/aroused. The good news is all three of us 'cum' away with a smile.

[zetamanx]

Okay, from a female perspective and being a newcomer to this, I think the women would probably have to know they could do this without it coming back to haunt them in arguments in the years to come. There must be total trust and lack of jealousy if you commit to this. My greatest fear was he would say , oh yeah baby , go for it, then next month when he is angry throw it back at me. Now that I have the confidence he won't do that, next comes the getting over the shyness. However, I am one who likes the tease and foreplay to last a long time, I am more into the "drive them crazy without realizing you can" type thing. The surprise of a stranger(non-relationship guy) finding you attractive, builds your ego, the eroticism, and then letting yourself go once you realize he wants you. As for the watching...that for me is what it is all about. Letting him see someone else wanting me, letting him see how I react from a different perspective, seeing the actual act and knowing I am his in the end! After all, don't all men want something that everyone else wants! Doesn't it make you feel great to know that the one you have is wanted by others. It is an ego booster for both of us, and not to mention lots of fuuun for all parties!

[bendmeovernow]

well what made me go for it...? well it took him 8 yrs to get me semi comfy with the idea of bringing my fantacy of other men into real life... but then again i over think everything.. heheh. soooo when i knew he was sure about wanting to at least have a look and see what happened we found a club near us and went on a slower night. after talking to the few cpls there and getting out of most of my ohhh my god what am i doing stage i gave up and decided that we where here for some fun and to do what i wanted. my question for you is is she a social person? likes to go out to a bar or party? if so then i'd talk to her about going to one that you both like and then not presuring her to play. just have some fun and don't worry about sex the first night out... some take it slower. find out what she does and doesn't want you and her to do and go from there... ask the regulars there what there rules are or what some good ones are. and before you act on something and your not sure if the other would aprove then take a few mins to say hey.. can i or we go do this.... ? if she's more shy then maybe start out with a house party and not a club... but i'd try one or the other out and see what fun is to be had..hehheheh just don't surprise her at the party door saying hey.. this is a swinging thing and i want to try it..heheh that might not go over too well.talk it out and ask about an adult party with no presure though...

[Brian and Jo]

For both of us watching each other fucking another partner is a huge turn on. The first time I watched Jo with another man was one of the most erotic and exciting moments of my life. Seeing his cock sliding in and out of her pussy was fantastic and the look on her face when she came - WOWWWWWWWW! Jo enjoys seeing me fuck another woman too. We both like to see one another enjoying ourselves and experiencing the heights of sexual pleasure.

[nuandcurious]

My husband wants to do the same with me. I don't want to see him fuck another woman. On the other hand,I've never been with another woman. I am more curious on that part.I thought me being with another woman would turn him on. He says that a black man fucking me is his top fantasy.

[JDApopka]

He says that a black man fucking me is his top fantasy.

That seems to be popular these days