Right Reason / Wrong Reason?

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by lovinher

Good point Prettylady. BUT, everybody "works" to make everything they do in life just a little bit better. We work on our marriage, we work to raise our kids right, we work at friendship. When we stop "working" at whatever it is we become complacent. Complacency brings boredom. Boredom brings resentment. New things should be done for funs sake and to keep boredom and all the things that go with it at bay. The thing is for us it seems to get easier. When you feel you HAVE to do different things to keep the excitement up it takes the fun and meaning out of it. For us new things just happen. Neither of us really plan things like "OK, what do we do next" It just happens. But we do work at it, we just don't look at it in that way or feel we have to. If you can't keep the excitement up then either you are not trying, working or whatever you want to call it, hard enough.
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Oh lovinher, I hope you didn't think I was implying that you were trying to hard.
It sounded to me like the OP was working to hard at having fun. I agree 100% that everything worth doing is worth doing right, that means work. But the OP just seems frustrated by the work involved. That is why I suggested he might be working to hard.
Kisses my friend.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[lovinher]

Well I did but there was absolutely no offense taken. You have an attitude and take on things I admire. We agree in a way. I think he is trying to hard to convince his wife this is the thing to do. But I also believe he isn't trying hard enough to show his wife that isnt the problem. Who knows, maybe it is. If it is the they have no business swinging IMO. To swing to see if she is the problem is just wrong and I feel sorry for any spouse put in that position. I sure hope she hasn't read this thread. I would be crushed if Lovinhim wanted to fuck another guy to see if she was bored with me.
Right back at ya

[prettylady]

ouch, ya if Dog ever came to me with the idea of 'do you mind if I try and see if I'm bored with you" That is were the sentance would end because I would probably pop him in the mouth and then show him the door.
Your right about the swinging issue, this is a recipe for disaster.
Your friend,
Prettylady