Is swinging for young couples?

[deusex]

We're a couple of... male 21 and female 18.
We're quite good together, and have been
crazily sexually active.
The topic of swining per se came up a long time
ago... and recently there's been interest from her
to try something of the sort.

If we were to get involved in a club of the sort,
what kind of ages usually circulate?
We're more interested in 18-30 age range...
Are most clubs over 30ish?

I would appreciate honest answers.

[NFS19]

I am 20 and my fiance is 21. One problem we are finding is that all clubs (at least in IL, IN, and OH, are 21+ to get in. We have not started in the lifestyle yet for this reason, we are still researching and learning what we might be comfortable with.

[EvilMJ]

I can safely say there are all ranges in our club from early 20's to some in their 60's. I think you will find someone to fit your bill with little problem

[JandT_Elkhart]

NFS: Some clubs if you know an existing member and those members are in "good standing" will allow their members to bring under 21's. We brought an 18yo single female once Man was that a trip!

As for ages, there's not a lot of under-25's but there's a LOT of fun 25-40yo couples that are still pretty cool.

Plus until you've had the experience of a 35yo-40yo female, you haven't lived!

[NFS19]

JandT: Really? That would be great, except that we don't know anyone! We are looking at clubs in Indy and Evansville, as those are the closest to us. However, I won't be 21 until next April, so we have lots of time to look. We are planning on visiting Sun Aura sometime next week or the week after though. We are going during the week the first time, since neither of us are really "party" people. Hopefully it will be fun and a nice way to get our toes wet, since it will be our first time doing anything like this.

[deusex]

"Plus until you've had the experience of a 35yo-40yo female, you haven't lived!"
I've had relationships with older women before... thus I've lived

We'd like to obviously have some fun with younger couples.
Being where we are, it looks like there might not be any young
couples in Winnipeg. Thus maybe we should look into Dakota
and/or Minnesota?

[She_n_Jaybee]

Originally Posted by NFS19

JandT: Really? That would be great, except that we don't know anyone! We are looking at clubs in Indy and Evansville, as those are the closest to us. However, I won't be 21 until next April, so we have lots of time to look. We are planning on visiting Sun Aura sometime next week or the week after though. We are going during the week the first time, since neither of us are really "party" people. Hopefully it will be fun and a nice way to get our toes wet, since it will be our first time doing anything like this.

Here isn't too bad of a place to get to know some people. We are somewhat regulars at Club 201 in Evansville. We're also getting ready to visit Shenanigans in Anderson for the second time. Although we're a couple of old geezers facelick we still look pretty good, even without clothes. (She has breasts that would put many 20-25 year olds to shame). We'd be happy to meet up with you sometime. We'll drop you a note on SLS and you can say hello if you wish.

Good luck!

[Chicup]

I've been meaning to get to this thread for a while.

The problem you will find is not only are most clubs 21+ (for their own safety, most swing clubs get closed down for violating laws around alcohol as an excuse) but a great many couples will think you are too young. When we started swinging we were in our late 20's and even then we were some of the youngest people that seemed to be involved.

Most of us look back at ourselves at 18 and see just how clueless we were. You may be legally an adult but we think of an 18 year old as a child none the less. We know how unready we would have been swinging when we were just really figuring out the whole long term relationship thing.

Now that doesn't mean you won't find people to swing with, many won't care what your relationship is like, or if its a good or bad thing that you are swinging, but you can expect a lot of rejection from more established couples due to your young ages.

[NFS19]

Chicup, I'm not sure if your response was directed at us or duesex, or both, but I am going to assume that you were including us in your response.
I am not going to disagree with you on any point. Although I don't enjoy being regarded as a child, I can completely understand why older people would consider many people my age that way. Quite frankly, I haven't met very many people my age that I would consider to be "adults" either. But that is true for any age group.
As for our readiness to swing, that is something that I feel is based more on maturity and the strength of the couples' relationship, and less on a number age. However, this is just my opinion, and you are welcome to disagree with me. I will not argue that people who have been together 10, 15, or 20 years have more experience than me, I know that they do. At this point, my SO and I know that there are certain things that we will probably never feel ready for, and that is ok with us. We are still researching and defining our boundaries, but I believe that this is something that all newbies go through.

[driveajeepnaked]

When we first started looking for play-partners, we concentrated on females only, for a FMF... I told Mr Jeep that I couldn't play with anyone who was younger than my kids (24 and 20). We both really liked a single female, age 22, and decided to bend the rules, based on her maturity and great sense of humor and sexiness. Sometimes, it's not easy for a 22 year old to have enough in common with a 44 yr old woman and 38 year old man to even carry on a good conversation, and that is the start to a good evening of fun
Overall, she was the most fun we've had in a FMF relationship. I no longer get hung up on ages - it's the other stuff that matters, not the numbers...

V

[The Fuse]

When we started a few months ago, we set 25 - 49 as the age range on our SLS ad. (I'm 40 and Mr. Fuse is 39.) In general, we prefer people around our own age just because we can relate to them.

However...

We have been very pleasantly surprised to get interest from couples younger than that, all the way down to your age. And when we met them, we were pleasantly surprised at just how mature and stable their relationships are. And in at least one case, I'm sure we could have spent a lot more time together without running short of conversation (he's deployed, so that's not an option).

So we've been converted... what really matters is the specific people, their relationship with each other, and their attitude. We will be a lot more careful with much younger people, but we won't rule them out.

For the OP, you will probably find plenty of couples under 30, as you prefer. They will not be the majority, and may be a little harder to find, but they are definitely out there.

[She_n_Jaybee]

You make a very good point, NFS19. It's not the age, but the maturity that matters. We initially set some age ranges that we decided would be "right" for us. Since then we've found that age is meaningless. We are generally willing to meet just about anyone that we find somewhat attractive. Age seldom comes up. We've also met quite a few couples at swing clubs that we aren't attracted to, but enjoy chatting with from time to time. The difficult part is keeping the distance, as they often feel that a few minutes of conversation should lead to a lot more than just talk.

We're also very unstructured in our approach to swinging. We are both extremely comfortable with ourselves and each other, so we don't have a long list of rules, or requirements. We can have a great evening just playing cards with a couple, or play all night at a game of musical partners. :> Making each other happy is top priority, pleasing others comes next.

[deusex]

Thanks for all that feedback...
However I see no problems given that our range is 18 to max 30.
And yes I agree with NFS19 that maturity counts more than age.
I understand older couples's concern about younger ages, yet
its not a problem if they're out of our range. We're out of their
range too

[Amanda69]

There are many clubs with many age ranges however the average for many clubs seems to be 35-50. When I first started swinging at around 36 I found myself to be a lot younger than many of the others there.

I have to wonder why at 18 would anyone want to swing? I guess I always figured (given my own past maybe) there was so much out there to fuck that why would I need a club and why would I want to do so as a couple. Different strokes for different folks I guess.

I know many clubs in this area also use a general 21 rule but it is often not enforced, however the drinking age in Ontario is 19 so you can't get into a club here at 18.

Given my daughter is 20 this year I would be a bit freaked by a 19 year old male trying to pick me up...sorry I just can't go there. Also having had so many experiences with both younger and older I have a definate preference for the older, more experienced males and females.