want to watch my wife with another guy

[Alura]

I love to watch Mrs. Alura. Our first time was with a couple. They were both fun sex partners. The guy claimed nine inches and Mrs. Alura believed him. His wife and I, taking a break in the living room, were distracted by the screams coming from the bedroom. As we entered the room, a shrieking Mrs. Alura had her toes pointed toward the ceiling and her ass colliding with his groin as his cock churned her pussy. What a sight!

Mr. Alura

[fishin69]

What a great subject. I want to get my wife and I into the likestyle. I now only think of giving her total sexual pleasure with a third partner playing with us. The thought of another guy sucking on her tits, getting a hand job or a blow job while im eating her gets me totally turned on. I'v been giving hints such as getting turned on while she dances with another and asking her how she would like having her tits sucked while Im going down on her. I plan on telling her how I whould like to be able to give her the opportunity to totally satisfy her soon. I do hope she will accept.

[BradAndJanet]

Originally posted by b smith
...There are many reasons but only you can understand what motivates you. ...

This statement intrigued me when I read it this morning, and I've been thinking about it since then. I enjoy the fantasy and the reality of seeing J with another man and accept that, but never really stopped to question why.

Here's what I have come up with: first, I enjoy seeing her happy, and this makes her happy and energetic. The attention she receives from other men seems to help confirm to her that she is attractive. This does not hurt our sex life in the least

As well, J can be sexually shy and it is very erotic and pleasing to me to see her acting with abandon. When she is wanton with me, it is very arousing, and seeing her with someone else takes it even higher. I also know that I will be the beneficiary of her lusty disposition.

Finally, some part of this is that I am a little voyeuristic. I enjoy porn, and have found that live sex is very exciting to watch too.

Thanks for bring this subject up again!

-B

[Brit_Pair]

Originally posted by TeamSoBe
Here's how I think of it: my wife is my personal porn star. She turns me on and I love to see her get sexual. One of my biggest frustrations during normal one-on-one sex with her is that it's hard for me to see her getting freaky because I'm up so close to her that I can't see anything. Sometimes I really like to sit back and watch her while somebody else works her over.

I found myself identifying with this statement.

Like many here, I have voyeuristic desires concerning many aspects of sex, and those desires are particularly well fed by the sight of my wife being sexually satisfied by a third party, while I am permitted to watch from the sidelines. To this point, I've been privileged enough to see her in the throes of lust with another woman, but I've yet to see her similarly engaged with another man. I have little doubt that this is a fantasy I'd like to see become reality. Perhaps time - and patience - will see fit to reward me . . . .

[Buck]

Well, I have to agree with Brad as to why I would enjoy my wife being pleasured by another guy. Unfortunately, it has not happened and may never will, but I continue to fantasize about it anyway. My wife knows its my fantasy but I have not pushed her to do it because would rather it be her idea at the time if she ever did it, and not because I pushed her into it. I keeping thinking under the right circumstances with the right guy it could happen. I just keep letting her know I would be open to it and would enjoy it. Now if Rocco Siffredi ever walked in our door, my waiting would be all over1

about 15 or more years ago, while at former girlfriend's house i noticed a friend of her dad's checking her out...i mean REALLY checking out my girlfriend's ass as she walked up some stairs. After that i started fantasizing about her having sex with him...or him and I taking turns having sex with her, or double penetration fantasies, etc. *LOL*...some of the fantasies just involved her and him having sex though, and i remember thinking it was strange that i was having sex fantasies where I wasnt involved in the sex at all. it was just so erotic to imagine someone i was so close to giving herself to another guy, and just surrendering to complete lust

Now Im married to a very wonderful woman...we've been together for more than 8 years. Naturallly I've been having the same kind of fantasies about my wife everytime i see that some guy is attracted to her. My wife had always seemed a little bit conservative sexually...and maybe i seemed that way to her too...but a few months ago, in the heat of passion she told me she was thinking about a threesome with another guy (just the idea of doing it...not with anyone in particular). That was the sexiest thing anyone had ever said to me in my life... I couldnt get it out of my head after that!...for the next 2 weeks straight I think i was perpetually hard. *LOL* She was as turned on as I was...i dont think i've ever seen her so worked up before.

Well, since then we've talked about 3somes and 4somes with other couples nearly every time we've had sex. We've also had some conversations about whether or not we might want to make it a reality. Neither of us have decided whether we want to actually make it happen, but our sex life is about 100x hotter than it was before.

Well anyhow...what i really wanted to say here is that my entire interest in swinging has been about me getting turned on by my wife's sexuality. Its the idea of seeing her completly giving in to her lusts for another guy, and the guy being so turned on by my wife...of course, when i stop to think about it, the idea of me experiencing sex with another woman with my wife there can also be a pretty exciting idea.

[Brit_Pair]

Originally posted by b smith
Also ask yourself why does this idea arouse you (note: there is absolutely nothing wrong with the fantasy. I believe it is a very common fantasy among men in relationships). There are many reasons but only you can understand what motivates you. Once you do understand then it will make it easier for you to discuss with her your feelings on the subject and hopefully make her comfortable talking about her feelings to you.

Like Brad, I've come to realise the value of B Smith's deceptively simple suggestion.

However, in my case, being able to articulate to my wife the reasons why I desire to see her pleasuring another man has always been something of a stumbling block, because it's difficult enough articulating them to myself. For me, this desire has always been a particularly visceral one, something more readily connected with feelings than with words.

Coupled to that is my wife's innate suspicion: "You think you'd enjoy it, you enjoy the fantasy, but would you really enjoy seeing it happen? I don't think so."

But I can certainly identify with the reasons that have been put forward by Brad, Seymore and Buck and the others in this thread. Perhaps if my wife reads it herself, she'll have a better idea of where I'm coming from, and that my desire is neither imagined nor unusual.

[Vjklander]

I also love to watch my hunny share pleasures. I think I've mentioned that I'm an inveterate voyeur. She also loves watching me with another girl. But I can honestly say that in the last 6 years we've been swinging, only on one occassion did we have separate partners in separate beds. We usually share the female partners or the males share her, or the group gropes. I love to watch her being serviced, even more I love to hear her getting off. Maybe it has something to do with the fact that when WE are doing it, I don't get to enjoy her enjoying the act, if you follow.
J

[Brit_Pair]

I'm also an incorrigible voyeur, so the appeal of being able to watch my SO in the throes of pleasure is immense. I love seeing and listening to her being sexually fulfilled, and that experience is definitely hindered by being the person who's doing the fulfilling.

[Buck]

So many of the responses on this thread seem to be from guys who like me, enjoy the fantasy of watching his wife in action with another guy, but unlike me, they have actually experienced it. I have taken the advice of many on this board and not pushed my wife into doing something she doesn't want to do, and will not do that, although I take the opportunity to hint about it sometimes. My question is, how did it come to happen the FIRST TIME you experienced swinging either from the guys point of view or the ladies point of view? It seems from reading these boards that swinging is usually the guy's idea and then at some point in time, his partner goes along with it and then usually enjoys it as much as he does. I'm especially interested in responses concerning the "watching wife" theme and from both the guys and the gals. Thanks in advance for your responses.

[Roxysbayou]

It seems from reading these boards that swinging is usually the guy's idea and then at some point in time, his partner goes along with it and then usually enjoys it as much as he does.

I don't really know about the watching thing, we always play together. And I don't know if hubby could stand watching for very long without joining in.

But we kind of came to the realization together about swinging. It first started by my opening up about my bi-sexuality, and wanting to bring another female into the bedroom. From there it just slowly started becoming more. We then went to soft swing, and eventually full swap.

I always moved at his pace because I felt that he had a little more anxiety about it than I did. I do tend to let him decide when we want to take things a step further. It's not that he is jealous or anything. I think that I am just more open about my sexuality than he is.

[Michcouple]

I just love watching my girlfriend. There's something very erotic about it all. Of course, I realize that this is not for everyone. But it does work for us.

[Vjklander]

Originally posted by Buck
My question is, how did it come to happen the FIRST TIME you experienced swinging either from the guys point of view or the ladies point of view? It seems from reading these boards that swinging is usually the guy's idea and then at some point in time, his partner goes along with it and then usually enjoys it as much as he does. I'm especially interested in responses concerning the "watching wife" theme and from both the guys and the gals. Thanks in advance for your responses.

We were invited to hottub with a couple we were friends with. They had a rule about being nekkid because the chemicals ruined clothes. (yeah, right). but we ended up in a pile in the family room in front of the fire. Then we were invited back with them and another couple. After that we just looked around and found people who we felt would be fun to share pleasures with. Single M, single F, couples, whatevers. Even one lesbian couple. that was interesting.
If you don't know anyone who could plausibly invite you to a vanilla hottub evening, then try subscribing to penthouse letters and leave it around for her to read. Actually, one of our favorite things to do is pick a letter from penthouse or from literotica.com and read it while performing the activity described in the story.
But seriously, if you have a loving, trustful relationship, you should be able to bring up any subject for discussion. Just outright ask her if she ever has any fantasies about having two men at once. I'd hate to be in a relationship where I was afraid to be open and honest with the other.
J

[funfloridacpl]

I just HAD to post on this thread!
I totally understand that men like to watch their wives being pleasured by another man, and most even like to join in. My hubby finds it a GIANT turn on! But guys, like someone said earlier, if you are with a couple, talk to the other female partner ahead of time, and let her know how you like to watch.
One of our first experiences was terrible. We met with a couple and were in the same room. Apparently this guy had never seen his wife with another man, and was so turned on that he totally stopped what he was doing with me and FORGOT I was alive! Now knowing what I do now, I know that it was just because he was in Shock and wonderland! But at that time I was totally humilated and hurt. I felt abandoned and invisable. It took a long time for me to get over it and the self-esteem that I lost. Luckily, I was able to get past that experience and now enjoy the lifestyle very much. We never met with that couple again, and I look back at it as the worst DAY of my life! All because he handled the situation badly, and we were new and I didn't understand what the poor guy must have been going through.
Most men love watching their wives, and it seems many of the women here love to watch their hubbies with other women too. This is not the case with me. (maybe a result from that experience) I love hearing the details from hubby later, and knowing he was pleased and enjoyed himself. But I just can't watch for some reason. I always let the other couple know ahead of time what my boundaries are and what I do and do not enjoy. That way they can make a decision for themselves if they even want to bother being with us. I do not want to take anything away from what others enjoy, so I make sure they know all these things beforehand.
GOSH, so the point is, communicate! Have fun everyone!

[LarrySmith]

I'm going to have to remember that Line... "My wife is my personal porn star!" Just last night, Hanne and I had sex in the family room, and I moved her over in front of the full length mirror, so that we could see the same view you get in a porn flick.