How do you meet people, without going to clubs

[havefuninsun]

We've only posted to the SLS site, and so far have been very happy with the folks we've met, even if there isn't a "lust" connection ; we also have rules that ensure each of us knows what's going on at all times. Since Mr. Fun and I aren't always together, we established two yahoo chat ID's. If one of us chats "alone" with someone, we save the chat so the other can read. With yahoo, there is a conference feature too, which we find useful (but it can get confusing when four people are talking at the same time sometimes). Check out those features. All of our email goes through the SLS site, so each of us can read what was sent and what was received.

After you meet a few folks and realize most are as nervous as you, you'll feel relieved and much more confident. Good luck and most importantly, HAVE FUN!!

[REDLIOUS]

I'm a single 19 year old female. And I'm looking to be the third partern in a threesome for a couple. Truble is, I have no idea how to do this! I'm completely new to this, but very intrested. How do I met couples who want a third partern?

[intuition897]

Originally Posted by REDLIOUS

I'm a single 19 year old female. And I'm looking to be the third partern in a threesome for a couple. Truble is, I have no idea how to do this! I'm completely new to this, but very intrested. How do I met couples who want a third partern?

Uh...just stand still. They'll find you!

Seriously, the best way is to look up a nice off-premises club in your area (try the Club Listings), and dare one of your adventurous girlfriends to go with you. Single women are a relative rarity in the lifestyle, especially if they're bi, so you'll get hit on A LOT probably. Especially if it's obvious you're there with another single woman, as they'll assume she's your date. They'll figure, "Jackpot! Not just one single girl, but two!" Just be sure you know what you're comfortable with and make an agreement with yourself on what will and won't happen that night. Oh, and don't screw around with somebody's relationship, either. It's not cool. They aren't there because they're dissatisfied with their wives.

Best bet is to post a separate thread in the Club Listings forum and ask for some good clubs in your area that might be suited to your tastes.

[BorisNatasha]

We have done the online ad thing (on AFF we've had good results, tried LifestyleLounge but got nuthin, and I mean nuthin!) and have found exactly what we were looking for: 1 couple that are becoming good friends that we play with, and another couple we just met that we have really hit it off with at our first meeting. At on premise clubs we just play with each other or people we know, we don't go there to meet new people. And off premise clubs don't really seem like they would be our thing. Too much expectation and anticipation hanging in the air.

The thing that works for us is a few emails to make sure we are at least compatible on paper, and then an evening out for dinner or just drinks if that's what they prefer. We never go into dinner with any expectations though, and we never plan on any play on the first date.

Boris

[new and curious]

Originally Posted by kevin&danielle

We have a bumper sticker that says "Honk if You are a Swinger". That seems to work well for us. Just kidding.

You are so funny!!

We are in the same boat. We are both from very small towns (and live in a smaller one!) and are pretty shy on first meetings. I'm hoping to find pretty much what you're looking for let me know how you do.

Jessi

[REDLIOUS]

intuition897,

Thank you so much. That was very helpful advise. I think I know just who that daring friend of mine is, and we'll check out a club soon!

[ohash01]

Wow...I hadn't checked this post in such a long time. Thanks guys!! Seriously. I got us on SLS a couple weeks ago and have been getting a HUGE influx of mails. Who would have thought? Apparently central Ohio is a good place to be if this is the lifestyle you choose. I also found an older couple on there who are acting as sort of our "mentors" if you will. They have no interest in us, as they have kids our age, but they are very cool and will answer all of the stupid questions we have. These boards are cool and all, but the profiles are so limited. Anyway...if you're in central Ohio and are looking for your one ideal couple, hit us up on SLS. (AshnJon). Like I said, we've been getting a huge influx of mail. A couple have really interested us, we chatted with one of them, but they have a little baby and aren't TOTALLY sure how to continue the lifestyle now. So...we're still looking!