Emotions - the first time you saw your partner with someone else?

[a_and_a]

Hi Jen. Wow the first time. We'll I heard my wife screaming like never before....or at least not that I could remember....while performing oral to her. I was like "WTF how am I going to compete with that. There is no way I can." Afterwards I mentioned that to her, she reminded me that it was different.....not better.

So we come to realize and appreciate what we have in each other....bringing us closer together.

[jnjswingcpl]

Well, my first time seeing my wife with another man was just the other night, ourfirst swinging experience. We went full swap for our first time with another couple, and it was a pretty mixed emotion for me. I was enjoying what I was getting, but looking over and seeing my wife with another man was hard at first. But, what helped me was I listened to my wife. She was moaning and sounded like she was having a good time, and I realized that it was because of me that she was having this good time. I was letting it happen, and at the end of the night, she was going home with me, so it went from jealousy to enjoyment very quickly. I guess that is the biggest part of it is to remember that at the end of the session, your man will be going home with you.

[babycole]

Our first time was a myriad of emotions, but I have to say, none of those feelings included jealousy. It was a very exciting experience, just for the fact that we were finally participating in something that we had been fantasizing about for quite some time. I have to say that in the fantasies, I would get soooo turned on by the thoughts of my husband with another woman, but it wasn't that way for me that first time. I think that my own thoughts got in the way too much for me to really enjoy any of it. My head just wouldn't shut up. It was constantly saying "I can't believe we're doing this. This is weird. etc..." I had to shed all of those "monogamous" thoughts from my head in order to start enjoying the lifestyle. Luckily, those thoughts only entered my head that very first time. Now, when I see a woman that really knows how to get my guy all hot, it's very exciting to me, and I get a great sense of "joy" from seeing him have such a good time, and in turn, once I know that he is in a state of pleasure, I am able to enjoy myself as well.

[willyoats]

We had a different experience than most, i.e., separate rooms the very first time. We had talked enough about swinging so that we knew we wanted to do it.

Being separated from each other and in the company of very experienced but sensitive partners was the best thing that could have happened. I was not distracted by wanting to watch her, which I knew I certainly woudl want to do if we were in the same room. I could concentrate on my wonderful partner. I actually completely forgot about my wife while I was with this other woman.

On our second experience, we were in the same room, but by then we knew each of us had broken the ice. We were relaxed enough to thoroughly enjoy watching each other with another partner.

After that, we sometimes had separate rooms, sometimes not. Each has its advantages and drawbacks, but to be that flexible made swinging much more enjoyable for us over the years.

[sweet_tna]

Our first experience was great. We knew the other couple well, and while we'd made the decision to try swinging whether we ever hooked up with them or not, I'm glad they were our first. I was never particularly worried about any feelings of jealousy, but I couldn't have told you exactly how I'd feel 'till it happened.

And I was very turned on by seeing Mr. Sweet with our friend & her hubby. I lovedf hearing her noises and knowing my honey was getting her off--'cause I know how good what he was doing to her feels. My reaction was to grab a toy and get myself off while I watched them . .

So just try to go into things with an open attitude and be aware of your feelings. I hope it's a great experience for ya'll.

=)

[Opportunists]

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[bill_n_lana]

I absolutely LOVED it! We had great sex for weeks and weeks after it because I just couldn't stop cumming when I would think about the mister with another woman.
And it still does the same thing to me!

[jdavisauto]

First thing I am deeply and madly in love with my wife. She is the best for me. Our first time out was over 8 years ago. I did not see her with another guy because I was busy getting my dick suck and had my face bury in another lady's pussy. Now I heard her moans and that turned me on more. But seeing her with another person male or female is a huge turn on for me. I have sex with other ladies and she has sex with other men and ladies. But we only make Love to Each other. As long as we keep sex and love in their proper place there will never be any problems.

[jid2008]

I got nervous about it as we all laid on our king size (me, wife, other girl, other guy). The other 2 got naked immediately, so I dropped my boxers and coaxed my wife into getting naked. They started moving as though they were about to start fucking, but they read the sign pretty quickly that I was ready to get started...after all, its getting late and I have work early in the morning. The other girl immediately went down and started pleasing my wife orally. The guy then crawled up to my wife. My wife didn't hesitate to take his cock in her mouth and started going to town. I came up on the other side and she spent the next 10 minutes getting eaten and sucking us both off. It was sooooooo hot. I loved it. I think I liked watching her take on multiple cocks more than I liked messing with the other girl.

The best part was, the next day I got home at 4:30 pm, went to bed at 10:30 pm, and had gotten oral and/or had sex 3 times! That was the most we had done it in one day, probably ever since we got together 7 years ago. We got with them again on Friday and I woke up to pussy on Saturday and Sunday as well. My wife's sex drive had pretty much dwindled to nothing over the years, but this new exciting time in our life has opened her up again.

I don't regret it at all, but will admit that I don't want to live this lifestyle forever. It's fun for now!!

[Brian and Jo]

The first time I saw Jo with another man was during our first swinging experience over 30 years ago. We had met a couple for drinks and as we hit it off we invited them back to our place for a swim. Of course we swam in the nude! After a while Bob and Jo got out of the water and went indoors. Doreen and I followed soon after. Bob and Jo had taken the main bedroom and as Doreen and I passed by the open door on our way to the spare room we stopped to look at our spouse. They were lying on the bed kissing while Bob had his hands on Jo's ass and Jo was fondling his cock. It was a very erotic scene but not as erotic or exciting as when later that evening I watched Bob and Jo while they were fucking. She was on her back with Bob on top and I was able to get a clear view of his hard cock sliding in and out of Jo's pussy. She was obviously enjoying herself and the look on her face when she came was a huge turn on for me. All that happened a long time ago and I have never tired of seeing Jo with another man (or woman).

[curious2u]

The first time the emotions were wildly racing from the most aroused I have ever been to the most jealous to the most excited to the most guilty for being jealous because this was originally my idea back to am I going to have a heart attack I am so aroused and back and forth. No kidding, seeing her moaning, moving her ass, acting like an animal in lust was such a turn on, then I would flash what if he is bigger, better and she likes it better to I hope he bangs her brains out to how good it is going to feel to get her alone.

I won't ever forget it and I get many of the same feelings the second time only less jealousy.