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Just now joined this forum and want an honest answer. My wife are thinking of going to a swingers club but don't want to feel out of place. We are both 58 years old but still in very good shape. I run and she wakes every morning to do her pilates routine. Seriously looking for honest answers.

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We're still pretty new but we've seen enough now to know that you're never too old. There's something for everyone at the club we visit regularly. Plus it sounds like you stay in shape so that should help even more. If you're still concerned try an off premises club, that should take some stress out of it for you. We say go and have fun.

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First of all, I would like to welcome you to The Swingersboard.

 

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I am sixty-four years of age, my wife is one year younger. We are very successful in the lifestyle and are known in more than one swingers' club. We are typically not the oldest people who are in-attendance at a club party.

 

Each different club has a different character and some attract membership of different age groups. Best to just go and see. You'll have fun in any case just doing an investigation.

 

I hope this helps.

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In my experience, the median age for swingers is actually fairly high. A lot of folks I've met at clubs are in their 40s or 50s... which I only actually know because their ages are on their online profiles on various sites. Most of the time, I can't tell a 30 year old from a 50 year old and honestly couldn't care less.

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Dear i237,

 

First and foremost, welcome!

 

You are not "too old". Swinging is not about your age, nor your appearance. It is about your attitudes towards each other and towards other people. If you are on the same page with each other about your reasons for wanting to see what the LS is about, you will have a great time.

 

Swingers are young and old, blue and white collar, skinny, fat, proportioned, athletic, and curvy. There are couples out there just like yourselves. And different from yourselves.

 

What seems to matter most is your commitment to each other, and a genuine preference to see your partner having fun. If you have a moment, Google the word "compersion" and you'll see what we mean.

 

Talking about expectations and about limits can be very helpful in reducing the risks of hurt feelings.

 

Have fun and please bring any questions or concerns you have to the Board!

 

Regards.

 

FL

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Welcome, interested237 and I have to agree with all of the wise members above that have already responded. The ages of swingers vary but from what we have witnessed, the majority are in the 40 and older range. It's actually less common to see young swingers, in my opinion.

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A woman went to her doctor for her annual physical. The woman reported to her husband that the doctor said she had the breasts of a 25 year old. The husband said oh yeah, what did he say about your sixty year old ass? The wife said we didn't discuss you.

 

We are both newly 57. We have gone to clubs where we are on the upper end. But there are events and places where we are in the mix. I understand that there is a retirement community where swinging is rampant. God bless viagra.

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We have played with some couples where the lady is in her late 40s or early 50s and the guy is in his 60s and I have to admit that I enjoy doing it with the older guys. Quite frankly, they seem to go forever and have developed technique and hubby has made no complains about the women but rather has commented about the ladies being less inhibited or more into it. I know this is very limited experience but my point is that as a couple, we have no qualms about somewhat older people joining us.

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Well I'm 66, been married to the same woman for going on 47 years, "she took serious advantage of my youth." We still enjoy the LS, we aren't as active as we were at one time. We're lucky I guess because if we don't tell people how old we are I don't think they would ever know. Like has been said above it's not about age it's about personalities and having fun, and if you are still having fun you're never too old. About the only difference I can tell now from when we first got married is back then they said to not trust anybody over 30, and now it's don't trust anybody under 30 LOL

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When Mike, the owner of he Rooster passed away this year he was 82 and still doing better than most of us in the numbers department..... :lol:

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It seems that most couples (according to my latest completely unscientific study bused only on observation) are either in their 20's or in their 40's or older. From the data I have collected, I have deduced that is because couples in their 20's are much more open to 'new' experiences and society has become more 'accepting' of 'alternate' lifestyles and older (40+) couples are secure enough in their relationships to be willing to try and fulfill each others fantasies. I would have NEVER even thought about doing any of the things that we now do with the ex, but love being able to help my current SO pursue her secret desires just like she loves helping me do the same. Bottom line is that we seem to see more and more 40+ couples experimenting with fantasy fulfillment. Age doesn't matter; love, trust and communication is all that matters (IMHO). I will be publishing my results soon...(lol).

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Age groups at clubs vary so much. A good example is around Fort Lauderdale. Go to Trapeze and you get a group in their 20's and 30's, if you are in your mid to upper 40's you're old. Go up the highway 10 miles or so to a couple of clubs in the Pompano area and at 58 you're almost a youngster. Go over to Naples, and you will be a youngster. :)

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There is no age limit to swinging. Just as there is no age limit to desire. No matter how old you get, the desire is still going to be there. As you age you may not be able to do the things you once did when you were younger, but the desire will be there because you are a human being.

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I hope age doesn't matter. I'm 62 and still get a stiffy when I want too and my 61year old wife of 42 years still get wet when I you her and fucks like she was 30.

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I was at a naked and naughty party. This guy who seemed like he was in his 90's walked by our table. The ladies at our table were grossed out.

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We are both in our mid 60s and are still very active swingers. Most of our regular playmates are in their 50s and 60s but we do play with younger partners too. You are as old as you feel. Go for it!

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I was at a naked and naughty party. This guy who seemed like he was in his 90's walked by our table. The ladies at our table were grossed out.

The ladies will someday, God willing, also be at that table.

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