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General advice/questions for couples beginning their swinging journey

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Advice follows: I have read all of the messages you have posed thus far at this Web site. You are expecting fast results. That seldom happens in this lifestyle. It took my wife and I a year between the time we started our journey into this lifestyle and had our first intimate encounter. And we consider ourselves very successful.

 

You have already received some solid advice at this Web site. Have you tried any of the recommended strategies yet? Read, read, then read some more. Then ask your own questions.

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Thanks. We do appreciate the advice we have been given. We have tried some of the strategies and have had a blast. I'm a reader - I read constantly and I have enjoyed devouring this site. I'm not expecting fast results I am just very enthusiastic. I enjoy talking, chatting and sharing. I am proud of myself for overcoming several fears while exploring this lifestyle thus far. In asking for advice I was thinking the type of advice that could help prepare us the for future. Met a gentleman the other day while at a club and when asked the same question he said, "you will be rejected at some point - it happens to everyone. Take it in stride and don't let it hurt. I promise it won't be personal." Great advice. We enjoy the conversation.

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Here's my .02 advice - when you turn down potential playmates, be general and don't get baited into answering the question "why not?"

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Keep each other and the relationship as top priority. Communicate about everything. Don't have the expectation that each swinging event you attend should be one where you play with others.

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My .02 of advice: Meet others and expect nothing. Don't go to parties and expect to get intimate with anyone. Go to have fun. Then do. Have fun. If sex happens at the end of the party, that's icing on the cake. :)

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Communicate, communicate, communicate.

 

Set boundaries and do not change them until you both can discuss the changes. Don't rush anything, sometimes the trip is as good as the destination. Enjoy yourselves, meet new people, have a good time even if nothing else happens...but occasionally something else will happen and enjoy yourselves then too. Never go faster than the slowest person is comfortable with.

 

Communicate. Trust. Respect. Enjoy.

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