Talking wife into a gangbang

[wyocock 15]

I would like to say sorry to everyone with my first post, maybe being too forward with my request. The truth is, I was looking for some good advice on a sex matter with my wife MAE and I. Maybe this is the wrong place to find the advice I'm looking for. Maybe someone can tell me just where I can find the help in the matter of talking my wife into having a gangbang party with her and I. Where I can ask? Maybe people will give their addvice or comment on how they worked it into there sex like. Again, I'm sorry for being too forward.

 

Looking for advice!

 

Bill

[angelkin 1,326]

Bill, welcome to the forum and no worries. There's a great deal of information here about all aspects of swinging, including gang-bangs. The common theme you will find is that communication between you and your wife is the single most important component to being successful in the lifestyle.

 

Doing a search on the forum for "gang bang" may result in some interesting perspectives...once you read those, come back and ask more detailed questions.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,019]

Bill,

 

Sometimes things here are worked through using the twenty questions process:

 

Q1. Have you asked your wife what she thinks about a gang bang?

Q2. If yes, what was her response or reaction?

[AngelandTiger 362]

Um, this post...what can I say? I'm not sure the OP understands what he's asking or whom he's asking it of. One's wife should be respected and NEVER "talked into" anything. An open discussion of both partner's fantasies should also involve what will stay fantasy and what will not. In this case, the post reads more like a rather crude attempt at porn, not a serious question for the group. I'll give the OP the benefit of the doubt, however, and say again that no one should attempt to "talk their partner into" something that their partner is not ready for.

 

Am I off base on this?

[Lava&Spike 28]

How about you just ask her?

[junglecouple 127]

hmmm. Is there actually a wife, or is it just a head fantasy of this guy? Seems like a lot of self gratification in the post, ie: as much or more about him than her. Not judging, but ...

[81lizard69 469]

I think it is his first post and he is trying to learn how to communicate in a adult swinger situation. Maybe he will repost the question in a friendlier manner. Giving us details like how long him and his girl have been together. How long they have had this fantasy. He might even asked how others brought up plans for swinging and how they had their first gangbang.

[81lizard69 469]

And have you swapped before?

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

How do you talk your wife into being a party toy for a bunch of guys to enjoy...

 

Let me start by saying that a gangbang is for the woman's pleasure and has nothing to do with being a party favor. No, really. In a gangbang (or a train, which is a variation of a gangbang), the focus is on the woman and on giving her pleasure. Yes, men get off, but that's also for the woman's pleasure. So, the first step is to adjust your thinking, because women don't actually like being toys, unless they also like some form of humiliation. That appreciation for humiliation is a kink and not something you can be talked into; you either have it or you don't.

 

So, first step: Women are not toys and gangbangs aren't about men. Instead, men are there to be of service to the woman.

 

Second step: Understand that a gangbang, while it makes sense physiologically (one woman plus multiple men is a good ratio), is too far for a lot of women, even if they're really open to sexual adventure.

 

Third step: Ask your wife if she's ever had the fantasy of multiple men.

 

Fourth step: If she says anything other than a firm "no," keep revisiting steps one and two until you're sure it's no longer about your fantasy and has become about hers.

[Fours Company 169]

Although your post reads more like a "Letter to Penthouse" submission, I will assume you have come here seriously seeking advice to what essentially seems like the Newbie dilemma of getting things started.

 

I'm afraid there's not much I can offer that has not been so wisely stated by others so far, other than emphasizing communication is always key. Start by talking about fantasies and gauge how open she would be to having others in the picture, specifically multiple men. If she is receptive, then there is plenty of info by searching previous posts here to go about turning fantasy in reality. But I can tell you will get a better reception from the LS community not only by watching the Caps as others have mentioned (it hurts the eyes ), but by not phasing questions in terms of "talking one other into something", but maybe "how do I bring up the subject?", etc.

 

The LS is about sharing each other's fantasies equally and not manipulating one other into it and while I don't wish to sound judgmental, I think that's just the vibe some of us might have gotten by your post.

[Swing*8701 885]

Susan here. I don't think you are sexually mature enough to handle what a gang bang really is. You express yourself more as a misogynist who wants to whore his wife out for his own pleasure than anything approaching what she may want. Then, when your process and motives are questioned you say that maybe this is not the place to get advice. The truth is, this is a great place to get advice, because no one is going to patronize an ill conceived idea.

 

Great sex is not your wife being persuaded in taking a bunch of cock as you pump your arm in the air yelling,"Wooooooooooo ! Fuck her ! Fuck her ! Fuck her !" And that's the problem, because that's what you want to do and we know what a really, really, really bad idea it is.

 

All I can think is that you saw a porn video with Sasha Grey in a gang bang and thought,"How do I get some of that ?!"