Her rules changed when her husband wasn't in the room

[JustAskJulie]

My thoughts when reading the first post was that obviously the couple was not on the same page. I think you gathered too from what you said in your second post:

In this case the Husband verbalized the rules but she didn't agree or disagree at the time.

Whether they were THEIR rules or HIS, is hard to say at this point she obviously doesn't have a lot of respect for her husband. I think there are often cases where we (not just women but men too) get caught up in the moment and do things we previously didn't think we'd be ok with and there's nothing wrong with that. Rules are made to be broken or bent. That's one reason why so often you see the advice to newbies on here read something along the lines of "don't make TOO MANY rules". The problem comes when you start keeping things from each other. Whether they set these rules together or HE set them, she agreed to them at some point. The fact that he spoke them to you and she just sat there next to him doesn't mean they weren't her rules just as much as his, just by the fact that they were THEIRS.

I get the impression this was more of a case of she's doing things behind his back. They were in seperate rooms so she felt FREE of any restrictions and did what she wanted to do. Kinda makes me wonder what else (or who) she is doing when he's not looking and doesn't tell him about?

[Bama0468]

While you stated that you wife was Ok with itis one thing, I see it ddn't come up with the husband/couple and so to me there in lies a bit of a "cheating" kinda thing.
I wonder what the situation would be IF he found out, I venture to say it would be the end of one relationship (Yours and Theirs) and possibly the beging of the end of the second (theirs).

[LFM2]

I can't say that either of us has broken any of our rules. OK... I think we may have one or two rules now, but, we both have personal preferences.

Even though I love anal sex, I'm not really ready to have someone go out of control on me during such partner play. Dave has no problem if I wanted anal sex, yet it's a personal reason I won't with a partner. If he finds a willing partner, I hope he has so much fun his head spins.

I even love to swallow, and I've only swallowed once and that was with our regular single fella who we've played with for a long time. I'm not ready to do that with someone I just met that night.

One of our rules is there is no rule unless it makes us uncomfortable. We won't do something that makes us feel hurt or humiliated. We both kind of make our own rules up as we go along, and so far, we haven't had to bar anyone from anything. We think "NO means NO" is a golden rule and we follow that. I wouldn't dream of doing something and asking my partner to please not tell my husband. That would just scream of disrespect and selfishness on my part.

I know how easy it is to get carried away. In my younger years, I often thought with my pussy instead of my head and it usually always got me in trouble. I never want to go back to being her!!