Wife doesn't understand my boundary concerns

[inquisitivemale]

Originally Posted by ANGEDKY(mr)

I just dont understand where you are coming from............. Let me ask you a direct question--Is her dishonesty an issue for you? Or do you truly just wish for her to understand your feelings as she continued to chat with this guy?

A little of both. The overall dishonesty was an issue. I also wished for her to understand and not continue to talk to the guy. We have discussed it and she is not speaking to her anymore. We also set some new ground rules.

[ANGEDKY(mr)]

I dont think there will be much success with new or more rules unless you have uncovered her motivation for breaking the old ones. I also find it noteworthy that while you did state the facts concerning her lying you never did have an opinion on the subject until hard pressed for it. At which point your response seemed to be downplayed. Maybe you dont have a huge problem with this, your call. I do think that for whatever reason she started to deceive you was the reason she continued the deception and communicated with him. Unless you get to the bottom of it, it ain't gonna stop!!

Best of luck to you hope it all works out

angedky(mr)