Husband crossed the line on what was agreed...

[fun4Ds]

i was reading this this morning when mrs.fun got up and we talked a little about it. then we had to go get some dishes we left at our friends party last night facelick. we agree with you that you were put on the spot while drinking where ever you went when this happend your husband should have went with you for a little private talk.WE DO THAT.nobody minds and neither would we if someone els needed the same.

we realize that you are relatively new to all this and some things change as you go, but your husband brought you into this as a (watcher) with no desire to be with another woman?? then wants to change the rules at the spur of the moment because other swingers expect him to give it up.im sorry but thats a cop out!! we are swingers and we have never expected more from our playmates than the things we talk about.. nor dose anyone we play with expect us to change our rules because it is EXPECTED as swingers to do so.

now here is the part of your post that I mr.fun dont understand? you have been swinging 6 months mfm till 1 time your hubby gets with a woman and suddenly he is the expert on pleasing other mens wives? i'm sorry if i dont understand the remark, but if someone felt that i cant please mrs.fun.. well.. we probly wont be playing again. and if you said exactly that while we were in the middle of fucking he would probly find his ass in the front yard nakid with the neighbors dogs barking while I GET A SECOND OPINION.. that just seems downwright rude to say that to/about another couple.

[bigjoehd]

Originally Posted by twohots4u2

Your rules sure are one sided! You want it all but you do not want him to do anything but watch. No wonder he broke your rules when he had a little too much to drink and his inhibitions were loosened. Perhaps you need to back up and figure out why and how you want to swing, and realize that it goes both ways.

Dito

who's idea was it really to have such a one sided good time & is your husband really ok with you being the only person who has intimate contact with others or did he just agree to your terms ?

i have never understood how one person in a relationship can think its ok for them to have sex with others but the mere thought of their partner having anything to do with anybody else sends them through the roof.

both of you need to start talking (and hearing) about what EACH OTHER really wants out of the lifestyle,it sounds to me like your husband wants more out of all of this for himself then you are ok with him having.

[JP51]

Dito really one sided.... kind of makes me think you are not talking. We travel with another couple, in fact going to Desire this fall. We even agree on ground rules for play amoung our small group, so their are not susprises. well it mostly works. One other comment, we never change the rules, on the fly period...yep it has left me wanting...but you know what we do not have a fight over the "you did this or that" statement.