Talk is cheap - ideas for productive communication

[JM153]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

Just rambling... NandT, am I on target with what you're trying to do?

Don't know if your on target for NandT, but you are for me. How to have productive talk, talk, talk was not taught in my school!

JM

[oncewere]

If you are looking for a school that does reakky teach how husbands and wives can communicate seriously, check out one of these sites.

It worked wonders for us and for many of our friends. The programs are run by religions but you don't have to be of that religion to benefit.

As I recall, Barb and I transcribed a story about some friends who all attended and who then incorporated the concepts into a swinging group. Even if you are already good at communicating you can learn from these retreats.


It is a worthwhile weekend retreat.

http://www.wwme.org/
http://www.episcopalme.com/
http://www.ilme.org/
http://marriage-encounter.org/

[NandTfromCA]

Originally Posted by The Fuse

NandT, am I on target with what you're trying to do?

Yep. The intent was just to bring more substance to the advice of "talk, talk, talk". It's good advice but I was thinking that some of the readers might need more detail.

[kandr2000]

We dont need to have many deep discussions, because we are pretty much always on the same wavelength.

What I try to remember is that Im always right. Even when he is right I still try to seem that Im right. Everyone have their own perseption of things, and ****PERCEPTION IS REALITY****

I usually say Im sorry if we have an arguement or cry until he isnt mad anymore.

Talking is a great thing. I have never had to lie about my past with my current husband. My ex-husband hated my past and could never deal with it. My current husband knows everything about me inside and out, he is in my head all the time.

My motto has alaways been
"when Im comiited Im faithful, and when Im single I hook up as much as humanly possible"LOL

[NandTfromCA]

Originally Posted by kandr2000

...What I try to remember is that Im always right. Even when he is right I still try to seem that Im right...I usually say Im sorry if we have an arguement or cry until he isnt mad anymore...

Were you kidding?

I saw on "lol" or two but wasn't sure.

Mr.

[kandr2000]

Kind of, LOL, LOL.

I am a leo and an only child. I tend to want to be controlling. He only is "contolled" as much as he wants to be. He is a pisces, so we are pretty much opposites, but can finish eachothers sentences and are very much in love. Im just a little spoiled. He wouldnt love me any other way.

[Amanda69]

There is a big difference between talking and communicating. One implies you say but not necessarily listen. The second implies active listening. As skill that is learned and assists in effective communication.

[WesternSwing]

There is, because different people communicate differently. For instance, Mrs. WS is very blunt, I'm more subtle and diplomatic. I have to read between the lines of her bluntness and not take it too personally, and she has to look deeper into what I mean and hear me out, because I don't say things in one sentence.

Mr. WS