How Do You Enjoy the SwingersBoard?

[Elusive BiFem]

I'm curious.

Do you think the SwingersBoard discussions should involve only topics directly related to swinging and/or sex?

Or do you think the SwingersBoard and the swinging community is better served with the diversity of topics, swinging and otherwise, that we see here?

I've tried to get this poll right. Hope it works...

- EBF

[pa_chip]

I enjoy the variety of topics but I don't read them all. Just the ones that interest me. The rest I ignore. But my interests are diverse and I've learned a lot. You have some astounding responses EBF. Keep it up OK?

Best wishes!

[Elusive BiFem]

My poll worked!! Bama, I done you proud, man!!

There is one small typo in option #4, but I don't think it should cause too many problems.

I voted option #4. I'm not currently involved in swinging. However, this Board has been a bonanza for me in terms of defining my own feelings about the entire subject.

I enjoy the sense of community that is found here - both in regard to swinging and other things. I've been able to see that swingers are just like me with the same everyday concerns, worries, joys. It is great to be able to 'talk' to someone about that infernal pot roast in one thread (I hate that pot roast ) and turn around and talk to that same person about sexual concerns in another thread. I've learned that the definitions of swinging vary from person to person. The only real rules are those we set for ourselves.

Here, we argue, fuss, feud, fight, agree, disagree, agree to disagree, make-up, move on, come back, commiserate, share, give, take, learn, close our minds to learning, support, ask for support...all those things that a community does with and for each other. I find pleasure in knowing that I may have made someones day just a bit brighter only because I care about them and theirs (I'm thinking of the thread on the fires in Canada and how many of us have worried about our friends there). In other words...all the things people in a community do and in this case, the community is one with a common interest - a lifestyle interest that is different than most. - EBF

[pa_chip]

You worry about the pot roast. I did cooking, running kids and 8 loads of laundry yesterday.

Living on the edge out here...

[Elusive BiFem]

Originally posted by pa_chip
You worry about the pot roast. I did cooking, running kids and 8 loads of laundry yesterday.

Living on the edge out here...

I hate that pot roast. I couldn't handle cooking a single roast. Kids and laundry? I would have shot the roast!

Thanks for your comments in the prior post. They are really appreciated - especially just now. - EBF

[pa_chip]

I could shoot a pot roast. Can't shoot the laundry - leaves these ugly holes in all the wrong places. Have a nice day EBF.

I'll be reading...

[OhioCouple]

We are active swingers and I personally enjoy the diversity of the board, as long as the main focus of the board isn't distracted by piddly spats, sillyness and ignorance.

It seems to me that when these types of things happen (the distractions) the regular members get so focused on that particular spat or sillyness that we fail to remember there are people with some serious questions about swinging (both old and new) and they tend to get lost in the shuffle. That isn't cool. I try real hard to remember to focus on those questions FIRST and then turn my focus to the piddly spats flamethrow and the sillyness . I don't always do a great job at it, but I do try.

Diversity is good, and we can all learn from it, however the main focus should always be swinging.

My nickles worth, I'm out of pennies.

PS: EBF.... a poll and a link all in one day, and they both work!

[Elusive BiFem]

Originally posted by OhioCouple

PS: EBF.... a poll and a link all in one day, and they both work!

I know!! I know!! And I cooked Mr. Pot Roast! All within 24 hours! What other miracles can I accomplish? I'm gonna have to take to my bed....EBF

[Alura]

We've met some very nice people, both in person and in their posts, on this board. We are hoping to meet more.

We want to know a lot more about the folks we play with than just their sexual interests. Yes, even politics, and we're disappointed that the political threads were sent to "Forum Purgatory." We don't like to see censorship of ideas.

Sometimes we get people, usually new, who seem unwilling to post an opposing argument without adding phrases like, "...you fools"..., or "How can you not see this?" or "You are just plain stupid." That saddens us. Such remarks serve no purpose, certainly do not convince, and build "bad blood" among people who otherwise would be friends. We would not consider it censorship of ideas to delete such phrases for the good of the Board. Usually we are able to "bring them around" to our way of thinking and their posts become less inflamatory. Then, they too, become friends.

We want to know everything about the friends we play with.

Alura

[Elusive BiFem]

I agree with you, Mr. Alura. I want to know as much as I can about people. Not only those I might choose to swing with but those I choose for "lifestyle" friends, too.

I don't really care if someone doesn't agree with me, and quite frankly, enjoy a reasonably intelligent debate, but I think there are civil ways to handle disagreements. Also, I learn far more from those that do disagree than those that agree, and especially when they are civil. Differing opinions keep the conversations going and stimulating.

Thanks for posting to my first ever poll. I was so afraid nobody would reply. - EBF

[wrnakedru]

Yeah, yeah - I am coming out of my "hidey hole".

I've been sitting in my "thinking mode" for most of the last 12 hours [actually did sleep for 2 or 3 of 'em].

I retreated for a reason. I was in the midst of preparing a post for another thread. I had a lot of things I wanted to say - some of which have been building up for a while now. I wanted to stay on the topic I was addressing - and found myself unable to do so.

I realized I had too many "issues" swirling in my head to post a reply to anything - especially if I wanted it to "speak" in the manner I wanted.

I think I've gotten most of the "baggage" cleared out of the storerooms now. My vision is clearing.

I was considering just dropping out of sight - PERIOD. But you - and your damned pot roast - and others I enjoy - and feel a comradely connection to - have only yourselves to blame. I'm staying.

As to your poll, I chose the same response you did, EBF, for many of the same reasons. We human beings are multi-dimensional creatures and interact with one another on varying levels. On varying topics.

To become a "clan" of one-note johhnys would illicit less than our best - and send us scurrying frantically, seeking a sunny place for our multi-dimensional selves.

So hell yeah - keep all the topics. Every darned one of them - and more if we need 'em. Let's be ALL the things we are.

And let's become the best we are yet to be.

[OhioCouple]

Originally posted by wrnakedru
I was considering just dropping out of sight - PERIOD. But you - and your damned pot roast - and others I enjoy - and feel a comradely connection to - have only yourselves to blame. I'm staying.

Okay, hear that folks? wrnakedru, will be around to do a 'kick ass' side note for the cookbook! Ya better get those recipe's sent in, or suffer the wrath or wrnakedru... flamethrow

PS: Mr. Alura...I hope my usage of the word 'ass' didn't offend you!

PSS: I'm also wondering if the world's most disasterous cooking adventures shouldn't be included too. Everybody has one!

[BradAndJanet]

We enjoy almost all the topics, even the cute ones. The only ones we don't like are the ones that spew hateful venom, even if it is directed at no one in particular. But, we don't want them censored; we can do that ourselves by ignoring them, much as a duck lets water roll off its back. If some people need space to vent their frustrations, whatever they are, so be it.

wrnakedru, I've been sitting in my 'thinking place' as well, and have composed a dozen or so responses in my head to a particular thread. I too have worked through my feelings and I have now decided not to place another post there to perpetuate things. Instead I will simply make my opinions about the board known here.

I enjoy knowing more about people than what their sexual predilections are. I want to know them as people, to share success and failure, to commiserate and yes, even argue with them at times. And be cute with them, when I feel like it. Above all, though, I want to help others feel good about themselves. I will not apologize for that. As someone has said here, "What you see is what you get: today, tomorrow and every day after that." That is what you will get from me as well, take it or leave it. I will not compromise my values for anyone else.

We think the board is just fine the way it is.

-B

[Elusive BiFem]

Originally posted by BradAndJanet

I enjoy knowing more about people than what their sexual predilections are. I want to know them as people, to share success and failure, to commiserate and yes, even argue with them at times. And be cute with them, when I feel like it. Above all, though, I want to help others feel good about themselves. I will not apologize for that. As someone has said here, "What you see is what you get: today, tomorrow and every day after that." That is what you will get from me as well, take it or leave it. I will not compromise my values for anyone else.

-B

Can I borrow this for awhile? - EBF

[BradAndJanet]

Originally posted by Elusive BiFem
Can I borrow this for awhile? - EBF

Sure, for as long as you like

-B