Senior swingers

[IVcents]

I am a 60+ senior male. I am widowed, my wife died of cancer several years ago. Unfortunatelt it took us too long to discover we both wanted to try swinging. We had only one full swap, our firsr time with another couple. It was a fantastically hot first experience. But before we could really enter the lifestyle and make acquaintances she passed awy.
I still have the sexual desires of any young man and love Swingers Board and would become a swinger if I could find a female companion with the same interest. But I realize those in the lifestyle are much younger. That is the problem, having the sexual desires and no way of finding such a woman. Meeting on a pesonal ad looking for a woman who wants to have sex with others is wishful thinking. So is meeting any younger couples who want to have swinger sex with a 60+ couple.
With the population growing older and 50 becoming the new 30 and a recent study that women 60+ and into their 80's have a more satisfying orgasm than younger women there are no swingers clubs, social groups or on line sex sites that are for seniors.
I wish Julie would consider a catagory for seniors on Swingers Board. I wish other sex clubs, groups and websites would start up for seniors. Our desires are still there with no outlet especially for singles. Remember you are going to grow old too! Seems all we can do is get turned on by pictures and videos and masturbate. I want to be able to find a woman and other couples to actually have sex with. Where can a senior do that? As seniors become more a part of America doing things, enjouying adventures and living a younger style of life than ever before, sex is not a part of that social realignment accommodating the new generation of seniors in our population.

[JustAskJulie]

Help me out a little here... since this site isn't about hooking up, what would be the purpose of a forum just for senior swingers? How is swinging as a senior that much different than swinging at any other stage of life? Each stage of life has different (but very similar) complications.

Young swingers (under 30) complain that there aren't other young swingers for them (yet there are plenty of other young swingers voicing the same complaint).

Swingers in their 30s with kids complain about the difficulty of finding other swingers like them who get that they have kids and have a life and therefore it's hard to make time to swing.

Swingers in their 40s with kids have the same issues (as the 40's are now the new 30's with more and more 40-somethings having young kids).

Swingers over 50 then complain that all the other swingers are too young and they can't mix it up with other older swingers...and again we find plenty more voicing the same complaint.

I'm not saying there may not value in the idea, I'm just having trouble seeing it, so help me out. If there's a forum for Senior Swingers, then why not a forum for every other stage of life (see above)?

[rdante]

A Poem for Senior Swingers.

you're too young
you're too old
you're too shy
you're too bold
you're too warm
you're too cold
you're too tiny
you're two-fold

You look funny
you're too neat
you got scabies
you eat meat
you want anal
you're no fun
you're too tan
you need sun

You got fake ones
you're a louse
you're bisexual
you've no spouse
you fuck laughing
you're a machine
you're superficial
you're James Dean

You squeeze too hard
not hard enough
you are too gentle
you are too rough
you tried to swap her
for a tv
you're like a giant
you look like me

You look in mirrors
to check your gloom
you hide in alcoves
where lovers swoon
You want an answer
you want to vent
you want it straighter
you like it bent

you want a reason
you want to blame
You look for drama
you dress for rain
you dont live closer
you have no car
you want to pound her
behind the bar

A simple answer
is not for you
It's complicated
you have the flu
you bend her over
she's forty eight
she wants to do it
on roller skates
you have no problem
the problem's you
this poem is over
it's almost 2


-rdante

[ViSexual]

Julie's right! Swinging is a group that includes all ages, races, and cultures. If we start narrowing down to just one, and then one more, and then one more to find exact compatibility? Well, we'd probably just be alone and masturbating in the end!

[SW_PA_Couple]

Plenty of 60+ men around here actively participating. Have you gone out to look?

WELCOME to Swingersboard.

[Just Passing By]

It's Julie's Board , and I can see her idea of most subjects not having particular age specificness. And not wanting to become needlessly stratified.

But seeing the OP's point, while it is common enough to see people who already swing continue to keep their hand in, it would be particularily more challenging to start at those ages.

[Alura]

I don't see a "Seniors' Forum" as a hook-up medium, only another way for the board to help folks on the road to swinging.

The Swingers Board is not, nor should it be, a medium meant to help swingers meet other swingers for sex. Yet, we have both a "Personal Ads" forum and a "Traveling Swingers" forum which are used almost exclusively (if ineffectively) for hook-ups.

Many swingers consider the sport to be purely a couples' thing. Yet, we have a singles forum for those who don't.

My guess is that folks like IVCents often find their way here only to see the lack of emphasis on older people and fail to save the site to their "favorites." I agree that the population is aging. Such a forum will be even more important in the future. I think if we had a "Seniors' Forum" (I'm not sure it should be named that. Ideas, anyone?) more would become involved. Many will have a lot of years of swinging experience. The Board would benefit greatly from their presence because of those experiences and their wisdom.

Older swingers are a unique group with unique challenges that other age groups don't have. I see no reason to balance such a forum with forums for other age groups. They all fit the mainstream.

I'll volunteer to moderate the new forum. I certainly qualify as a senior.

Alura

[doug39]

Too bad you don't live here in Ohio.

My wife has a 47 year old friend who swings and regularly dates men in their 60's.

She is the chick my wife and I had the FFM with.

And you are right about age. At 48 my wife gives me the hottest sex I have ever had.

[IVcents]

Ivcents here. See Jules point, agree with Just Passing By. Liked the peom for senior swingers. Fact is when you get my age, 68, you are just not in the "swing of things" today (no pun intended). I am old but my mind doesn't know it. We are young and looking forward, then mature and participating, then old and looking back and wanting it to be back then. I guess I was looking for a way to squeeze in. Getting old sucks for some of us and then you die. You will only understand if you are old enough to remember the comic Red Buttons and his line "It's bigger than both of us". True for so many of life's inevitablities.

[doug39]

Hey, my father-in-law never gave up.

At age 80 he couldnt get his dick hard, but his tongue still worked. We once caught him with his 35 year old housekeeper sitting on his face.

He never had problems scoring women - He had a smooth rap.

[junglecouple]

at 65, and having owned/run a swingers club for 10+ year, I see the OP's point a bit. I have a 43 y.o. wife that I actually met at a party when I was about 60. And before you even ask, she was a single lady, and just attended the party on a whim... LOL
As the owner of the club, I did see quit a bit of "grouping" of the age groups at functions. The main thing that seemed to even it out was "attitude".
Look sharp, dress sharp, make clever conversation, toss in a lot of humor, and you'll be fine.
I agree it can be discouraging at clubs or parties and you "feel" older than the group, but again, that's "attitude". Ladies love to laugh.. It's a great way to meet and socialize, and you'll quickly gain the reputation for a fella that's fun to be around, and folks will gravitate to your persona.
It's hard at first if you're not normally the outgoing, gregarious type, but it's a skill that can be learned, and should be! When you make people laugh, you'll have fun too and quickly be a desired asset in any group..
I could actually see opening a place for Seasoned Adults.. (don't care too much for the word senior except pertaining to school) There's a lot of us, and a whole lot more on the way. Do things that stimulate you physically and mentally and you'll find out that age is more a state of mind that you know.

[Alura]

Originally Posted by junglecouple

...Seasoned Adults..

I like that!

Alura

[lovinher]

I never felt old until I got a GD AARP card-worthless at a club BTW.
My wife signed me up and I wasn't too happy about it.

What would be discussed in a "seasoned" forum that couldn't be posted in the general forums? You'd never see me posting in it because I'm in denial and proud of it. I'm not a senior or seasoned. I'm experienced.

[luvitall]

It's Obvious to me us Mature Swingers (Widowed/Divorced Especially) are now being Left Out! (Considering our age only! & With Today's swingers mostly younger) & so now hardly Anywhere for us Older-Mature Swingers,can have any Swingtime Fun even anymore! Reguardless of our Sex!! & Why this group Doesn't pay More Attention to us "Senior Swingers" Beats Me !!!!

[luvitall]

ps.. Anyone know just Where to find Other--Older-Mature Swingers-State by State??