Swinger Stories & Honesty

[Chicup]

I don't recall the exact odds but only 1- 100,000 are over 10 inches. I'd have to guess that only 1-1,000,000 would be 12+.

So thats why people would have a hard time believing, its quite rare, but still possible. Really if I had the choice of keeping my current length or getting 12.5 I'd keep me where I'm at. Sure 12.5 would be fun in the locker room and nude beach, and would get a lot of stares but would be very uncomfortable for most women.

Now as for how you measure, the only measurement that I think would matter would be how much of it you can 'use'. I'd gain a few inches going from the pubic bone or whatever some like to use, but that itself is not useful length.

In our adventures in the lifestyle almost all the men have been about my size in length, except for one who was quite tiny.

Which brings me to this question I asked a friend lately.

If porn is made for mostly men, why do they always seem to use men with above average penis length?

[ohash01]

If porn is made for mostly men, why do they always seem to use men with above average penis length?

Perhaps for those men who like to fantasize that they have a great big giant weapon in their pants? This way they know what one looks like and can picture it much more accurately.

[clutch]

Other than porn, I've never personally encountered at 12"; but my wife does enjoys extra size in length and girth and has, in fact, experienced a couple of 10 ". (No we didn't actually measure it, but he told us it was, and we believed him).

What's really weird is that so much more happens in swinging than most people ever write about. And most swingers never write anything. They just swing.

It's like the people who write these weird, critical letters are so out of it they don't even realize how out of it they are--Bless Their Hearts. (I live in the south, now).

[jcrow]

Great Story. On length I read that the average man's size is 3 time the length of his thumb measured from the frist joint out from his palm. I tried this out and it was very close.

[JustMrJ]

I'm pretty average... about 5.5 or 6 inches when erect. I have never had any complaints during my life before my wife or after, so I must be doing something right with it.

I do 'bottom out' in certain positions and my wife will say "Ouch!, gotta change this around here... "

That being said, she is not the least bit turned off by larger or smaller 'members'. She has simply agreed to make sure to have good communication so as not to get more pain than pleasure.

As to measuring, I measure from the top with the ruler firmly pushed against my pelvic bone.

Remember men always guess bigger than it actually is... women, slightly opposite. Just look at the way they exaggerate the fish they caught...

[incommunicado]

When I first joined, one of the fringe benefits was the great library of swinger stories. With lot's of titles like, "My first threesome" "First Time Swing" "My Wife, My Slut" (sorry, made that one up), there was a plethora of "real life" fantasy material to help me "visualize" what would happen when I finally went through with it. For the most part (maybe it was just wishful thinking), the stories seemed at least somewhat plausible. After all, how hard is it to find a single guy in a bar in Vegas, Tahoe, Singapore, or Kuala Lumpur, who would say no to sex with a guys hot wife. And, SURE his friends will come along. How hard is it to meet people and play at a swingers club? I suck at it, but other people do quite well. So, those stories are certainly plausible. What I'm getting at here, is that the stories were the right combination of naughty and believable. Real is sexy.

But, YEARS have gone by. And the incredibly disproportionate number of couples that

1) come home to find the horny baby sitter using the wife's vibrator, or
2) the best buddy home on leave from the Navy (always the Navy, why is that?), makes it with the wife
3) wives who love to blow strange guys in movie theaters,
4) Wives who get set up by their husbands to cheat, so the husband can watch her, and then "get his revenge" by setting her up so ANOTHER guy can fuck her ( can I SAY fuck here, or is it rude?) (who the hell comes up with that logic?)
4) wives who make it with the buff neighbor while hubby is A) away B) watching C) hiding in the closet watching or D) All of the Above, etc.
5) And show of hands, how many pool boys/pool repair men do you know that made it with the wife who happened to be sunbathing naked when he showed up?

Anyway, you get that I've read too many of this stories and probably wonder if I have more sex with myself, than with my wife. (The answer is, it depends upon kids, work, etc.)

But, what I would like to get out of this, besides the fun of writing this diatribe, is ARE ANY OF THESE STORIES REAL? Can any of you (and I am sincerely asking, not being rude or mean) direct me to stories that YOU wrote, about stuff that REALLY HAPPENED? Because that's what I really want to read.

I know it's impossible to truly police, and I'm offering this up as a suggestion, not a criticism. But, what if EVEN MORE stringent guidelines were implemented, such as:

1) No fantasies. If it didn't really happen, don't write about it. (no offense)

2) Must be true, or, AT LEAST highly plausible. Example A: You went away on a trip and met a great couple? Sure. Example B: Wife paid for car repair by making it with the 6 mechanics? Not buyin' it.

3) Added bonus... When one of us writes a true story, we can go on the general forum and say, "wrote a new story, check it out". We could be like a writing club of swinger stories.

I don't want to hear about the time a couple climbed Mount Everest and the wife made it with the Sherpa guide while riding on the back of a Yak. I want the real thing. No matter how many times it happens. Real never gets boring.

Hope I didn't step on a hornets nest, or knock over a sacred cow with this one. I'm gonna duck and cover now

[Coupleerotic22]

I kind of see your point.

But frankly, most of the encounters we have are not much different from what most people here have, or at least I would assume so. So given the audience that makes up this forum, I would expect that our stories would not be all that titillating. Now, if I told one of my vanilla friends the same story I would have to help him scrape his jaw off the floor, or perhaps even give him CPR. The context of the reader changes the dynamic completely.

If I were to have a story that I felt worth writing, then it would likely be one of those that sounded to crazy/wild//good to be true. And I have come to the conclusion, evidenced by they fact that we are even in the lifestyle, that those too good to be true stories DO exist. I mean, had you told me 3 years ago that my wife would be leading me into the life style I probably would have ruptured a spleen from laughing to hard. Yet here we are

[ViSexual]

That's why there are two categories for the stories. But, they sometimes get in the wrong category.

If you look at the thread of 'experiences' you'll find more real ones. But, they're not as lengthy and sometimes not as detailed for your viewing pleasure. But, I agree with you, a short, less descriptive, but true encounter by real people is so much more sexy!

[fun4Ds]

Sex is a powerful thing, wouldn't you say. It's inspiring as well to many also. Who's to say whats real or not in a story, but the author themselves ? Some are nothing but fictional fantasy, and some are nonfictional experiences as well.

When I came here in the beginning with writing dyslexia and a lack of good education in grammar, literature (I can read and comprehend My interpretations) One of the things my wife encouraged me to do, was learn to improve myself by communicating through the instrument of the typed word. My hand writing still sucks by the way, but thats the thing. Writing, is an art ! Its an expression of ones thoughts and feelings as well as factual sometimes. Really no different than music or painting if you think about it in what you hear or see. It should be studied and practiced by those who are inspired to improve themselves. Sometimes, that doesn't come until later in life. What I have said by the way now, is in fact truthful. I'm not ashamed any more than someone who tries to step out of any confinements they have about the arts in life. Could I write a good story ? No, not now. I'm still trying to improve, so as not to take away from my true experiences. My fantasies are not inspiring enough to anyone but myself. I am however trying my hand at a fictional book that has nothing to do with swinging or sex. But I couldn't have even attempted that without seeing so many of the good writers here. Even in the forums, I've been captivated and blown away by some of the forum posts ! Listening to Others ideas, and inspirations to express their interpretations to do so, inspired ME. Your writing style is very good by the way. I Hear what you are saying, not in my own voice but hopefully your own.

That being said, I applaud those who try to express themselves if its through writing a story in our story section, through their sexual ideas and inspiration. Sex is a powerful thing ! Some of the lesser stories are no different than a song or painting. Some like it, some don't. Some are believable even if just fantasy and some are horrible examples of reality. I again, applaud Julie and the moderators who do edit these stories to make them at least the best it can be. As I'm sure the authors do too. But the only way they can improve is by rating/grading the story. If you don't like the theme or plot thats a preference, but judge and rate the story in how it is written and presented, as well. Offer some constructive criticism or opinion. I think many of the writers really want that. If it gets you excited as each paragraph follows, say so, and why. If not, explain why.

I've enjoyed some of the stories. But I guess I see them differently. I think of the author and what inspires them as well.... That gets me excited too if thats what they hope for.

As you can see, I have a long way to go in typing/grammar too. LOL

fun ~

[Alura]

I've often referred to events during our swinging career to illustrate points in threads on this board. Folks have written messages asking me to expand the experience for the Stories Section. I've not done it for a couple of reasons.

When my late wife decided to do anything, whether swinging or knitting, she always put forth her best effort to do it extraordinarily well. Swinging was no exception. Since our "style" was to swing with one couple at a time, playtime could (and sometimes did) get boring. "Just like ol' married folks," she once described an evening with friends, when we had played in separate rooms. There wasn't much of a Swingers Story there.

In order to ward that off, especially when we were all four playing in the same room, Laura would say and do outrageous things, the moreso the better. I'm reminded of a time when Mr. Playmate was still between her legs, his cock deep in her well-filled pussy, when she gave Mrs. Playmate and me an impish grin and whispered, loud enough for all to hear, "I wanna suck your come off your cock."

She later explained that she was "playing to her audience" but that was one thing that added to the thrill of the forbidden fruit we were enjoying.

If I wrote stories the way things actually happened, many would think it fiction. For that reason, I give most of the stories the benefit of the doubt, and accept them as fact. There are exceptions; I seldom read them all the way through.

Alura

[two4youinswva]

I think it's up to the reader to decide what is a real story, and what isn't. Don't forget, truth is often stranger than fiction.

Incommunicado, do you take the time to rate the stories you read? I don't see a lot of ratings for the stories that are submitted, but, of the last 10 or so, the average rating is around 4 out of 5 stars, with a couple 1 star ratings mixed in. I think the more feedback the writers get, the better the submissions will be.

Of course, a lot of this comes down to perspective. Since I've been helping Julie out with editing and approving stories, I care less if they are "real", and more if they are well written with paragraph separators, are easy to read, and have been ran through a spell checker before being submitted. Those are the stories that put a smile on my face, and give me a boner.

[ALilOEverything]

Originally Posted by two4youinswva

Those are the stories that put a smile on my face, and give me a boner.

You make me want to submit a story

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by ALilOEverything

You make me want to submit a story

Well, now you're just teasing me, aren't you?

[dumbasarock10]

I'n not one normally to submit a story for just such a reason; no one would believe it. And I'm not one to boast, I keep it to all parties concerned. But now I take this as a personal challenge. I'm going to go post my most unbelievable in the "Experiences" folder. Take it for truth or not; it's up to you. Look for "I Love SUV's".

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by dumbasarock10

I'm going to go post my most unbelievable in the "Experiences" folder. Take it for truth or not; it's up to you. Look for "I Love SUV's".

The OP was talking about the stories in the Swinger Stories section of the board. It's one of the tabs at the top of each page.

But, you are welcome to post your story in the experiences section if you prefer.