Why Do you Post?

[des1re06]

Because we felt it was okay to voice our opinion.

No, I wouldn't use an ignore button. I may not find some things to be my cup of tea, but that doesn't mean hubby doesn't want to read about it (and vice versa).

Mrs. D

[tscpl]

Why do I open a thread if the apparent subject doesnt interest us? Maybe I am just nosy.But seriously tho,when reading posts, there is always more than a nugget of wisdom embedded in them.There is always something new to learn or discover.We always read the contributions of certain posters who we liketo knowtheir views.Of course some threads start with one specific issue but may make many twists and turns and other issues are raised,which then provoke the entry of other contributors.Threads on race for example or interracial matters seem a popular stepping stone which inevitably bring in new posters with very varied perceptions and other popular or unpopular views.Perhaps where time permits it is good to read as many threads as it helps one to atleast keep pace with the many and varied themes of concern to SB posters.

[tribbles]

I must be in the minority and wish people would not post their 'not my cup of tea' on subjects that are not their cup of tea. Maybe I'm wrong and need to go post on threads that are not our thing that isn't not our thing.

I can understand where Spoo is coming from...when posts on shaving appear to me to be saying 'shave or no one will like you and want you' then I jump in. But if it's just a bunch of shavers discussing the best ways to remove unwanted hair, I leave them alone. I have no helpful hints on how to remove hair.

[Pensacolapair]

Originally Posted by tribbles

I must be in the minority and wish people would not post their 'not my cup of tea' on subjects that are not their cup of tea....

If that puts you in the minority, we are right there with you. Although there are some who feel that everyone is entitled to freely express their opinion despite any relevance to the issue at hand, we disagree. The way we see it, actually reading the question can go a long way towards guiding whether or not one should respond...

If someone states a question as: "What do you think about body piercings?", then they are asking for views/opinions both for or against.. and should expect both. But if the question is: "Of those of you with body piercings, what does it do for you?", following the logic that someone whose 'cup of tea' wasn't body piercing wouldn't have any - that should be a thread they have nothing to contribute to.

Personally,we tend to see those type of responses more as an attempt to change someone's view on the subject than an attempt to answer the question posed.

[it'sso]

I will post to threads where I think I may have something to add to that which has already been expressed.
Besides, I often tire of only being able to talk to myself, when it comes to various relationship issues.

[rt829]

I only reply to threads that I hope that I have something significant to offer or a least concur witht the post of another person just so they will know that their comment was read and appreciated.

[JustAskJulie]

Personally, I do think people should be able to post their thoughts on any topic regardless of what they are. Forums aren't about a whole bunch of people saying "me too" or "I agree" but adult discussions where everyone can express their views. That said, I do get annoyed at times when the "nay sayers" virtually take over a thread that thier POV really had nothing to do with inthe beginning.

It's one thing when someone is asking opinions on a subject and they get POVs from all side... it's another thing when someone is asking a question to a specific subset of people and an entirely different group feels the need to voice their opinion on why the question should be invalid to start with. It's not an invalid question to those it applies to.

Personally, if I read a thread (or even a thread title) and it obviously is of no interest to me, I might go ahead and read the thread and see if there is SOMETHING there that I might be able to relate to (and sometimes even post if there is) but typically if it is no interest to me once I've read the original post I'll move on.

To each their own. This site is not about censorship (it never has been). We don't shut down threads because they disagree with swinging as a whole, nor do I feel that someone should be censored from expressing their POV on any topic... so long as they do so in a way that is respectful of the original post.

The reason I posted this thread to begin with was because I did run across a mod that would allow users to "ignore a thread" if they decided it wasn't of interest to them, therefore it wouldn't pop up in "new posts" for them, etc. and I wanted to know members here would actually find such a mod useful, or would it be a waste of my time to install. I decided on the latter... but I still like hearing everyone's opinions

[WillieWonders]

If I come here to share my views and thoughts, I appreciate not being slammed. For example, if I start a thread about having sex with a frog , the last thing I want or need is someone to reply, "ewww, I have no interest in that." Good for you, but what is your point in telling me that? Sometimes I think posting replies like that makes the replier feel 'righter' than the OP.

I like that most members here have an accepting attitude of most posts, whether they agree with their views or not. And they help out where they can and stay out of where they can't. In my mind, that's respect.

[TNT]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

So my question is this... if you see a thread posted and the topic is obviously something that does not interest you, why do you open it?

Because I've read all the other threads that are of interest to me and in looking for something new to read, I open the ones that aren't....and, sometimes the title of the thread has little to do with the topic so, I'm pleasantly surprised at times.

And once you open it and confirm that the topic is not of interest to you, why do you keep reading and more importantly why do you feel the need to post only to say that you are not remotely interested ?

If it's not of interest I usually only read the OP and then close it out and rarely ever go back to that thread. If it's something I know nothing about, my opinion on it is of no use and unless I'm wanting to ask a question, for curiosities sake, there's no reason for me to post on it.

And one last night, as it relates to this site. If you could "ignore" threads (turn them off so you can't see them) that don't remotely interest you, would you choose to do so?

Nope, sometimes I do learn things from threads that I'm not interest in...so having them on ignore would prevent me from possibly learning something new.


Teresa