Building on my threadjack

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by lovinher

Prettylady...I like highjacking you.

Can't say I mind. highjack away
Your friend,
Prettylady

[sweet_tna]

I'm not a moderator, and I have very little experience in the ls to share. So why the heck would I open threads that don't pertain to me? Because I'm curious (ok, nosy) and want to see what's going on. I enjoy several of the other posters here and enjoy reading their take on things. Oh, and once in awhile, I will share my opinion on things, because that's what I naively understood bulletin boards like this to be about.

=)

[tribbles]

A poll just for those who prefer separate room play. This thread/poll does not have people who don't play separate posting about how it's not for them.

Granted, they OP requested it be only for people who DO play separate.

I suspect the other subjects, like condoms and male bisexuality need to be noted in the same way. If the OP does not make it specific to those who share their likes/dislikes...then it is "fair game".

But since that is not how many newbies are going to see it...the fair game part...maybe we need to work on helping someone who posts for what should be bimales or only shaved people (or whatever) and let them know, be specific on who you want input from, unless you want the fire that goes with some responses.

If the OP can't modify titles, can't the mods do it for them, if asked?

[good times]

Tribbles,

I think the reason no one responded in that way to the play separately post has more to do with the way the question is worded than trying to exclude people from answering by the title. For example, in the bi-male thread someone will often say something like, "try it you don't know what you are missing". If they say something like that I don't care if they say, "no responses from non-bi-males", they are still going to get a response from guys that don't need to try it to know what they are missing.

As far as the Mods changing the titles, yes, we probably could, but as a a general rule, we most likely wouldn't. As Mods all we care we are mainly interested that people participate and that they play nice. Personally, my own opinion is, if you feel like posting to a thread, whether you are into the topic or not, go for it. As long as you aren't attacking another member in the process, it is cool with me.

[ShellyM]

Play nice, does that mean I can't even bite?
Awwww you are no fun.
LOL

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by ShellyM

Play nice, does that mean I can't even bite?
Awwww you are no fun.
LOL

Oh alright Shelly
All physical altercations are permitted.
Your friend,
Prettylady

[ShellyM]

LOL, you are the BEST!

[JustAskJulie]

This is one of the main reasons I have mods here... one there's just too damn many threads for me to read them all and 2, there are some threads I just don't want to read (AGAIN)... and after almost 8 years of this, it's rare to see a NEW thread. I typically choose which threads to read in 3 ways...
1. The thread title - if it looks interesting I'll open it.
2. The mouse-over - if you haven't noticed you can mouse-over a thread title and a popup will come up that shows you the first few sentances in the thread. If I do this and based on the first few sentances the thread looks interesting I'll open it.
3. Someone pointed me to the thread (a mod or someone else has asked me to take a look at a thread for some reason).

Those of you who find time to read EVERY thread on this site, are either speed readers or need to get a hobby.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by tribbles

A poll just for those who prefer separate room play. This thread/poll does not have people who don't play separate posting about how it's not for them.

Granted, they OP requested it be only for people who DO play separate.

I suspect the other subjects, like condoms and male bisexuality need to be noted in the same way. If the OP does not make it specific to those who share their likes/dislikes...then it is "fair game".

It doesn't make a difference. I've seen tons of threads that are questions for one particular group and every other group answers. Questions to guys being answered by women, vice versa. Questions to straight couples being answered by couples with a bi-wife. Questions to bi-males being answered by straight males. The only way to exclude people from answering would be to have forums set up for individual sub-groups that you would have to prove you belong to before being able to post.... and that's just not going to happen.

As for changing thread titles. I'm pretty sure that anyone can change the title of their thread at any time. Unlike the post itself there is not a time limit set for editing a thread title. Personally, I encourage people to change their thread titles if they decide they are not clear enough, and even more so if they realize it's got a major typo. While typos in regular posts don't bother me that much (as long as it's not the entire post), typos in thread titles seem to stand out to me more.

[tribbles]

Thanks for the answers. This site runs really well and I seldom see things that need a mod to jump into, so I guess I thought herding the cats here was easier than other sites I go to.

[ShellyM]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Those of you who find time to read EVERY thread on this site, are either speed readers or need to get a hobby.

Are you saying I have no life or what

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

Those of you who find time to read EVERY thread on this site, are either speed readers or need to get a hobby.

Every once in awhile I will find I spend way too much time reading the threads. When I was first here, I was literally not going to bed until WAY past my normal bed time.
Only just got back to active posting after a small mini vacation from computer land.
There are a few places I just don't go. I have visited the poly forum to ask a few questions just to gain an understanding of yet another aspect of this lifestyle. When I came to the conclusion that it is not for me I don't go there anymore simply because I have nothing to say that is of any contribution.
I sneak peeks every now and again because I like some of the members that post there and they have a way of putting a smile on my face, but by and large I stay in the general swingers area and the lounge.

Some threads I have read and saw that they life forever but never seem to go anywere. So I don't go there anymore, based on either I am board of the subject or I find it offencive.

Thank you all for keeping this exacly what I asked for. Just plain and simple explaination of why you do something.
It has been great.
You guys are the best
Your friend,
Prettylady

[ncmd_couple]

Sometimes I wish for the good old days… back in the mid 80s before the Internet was available to the public and FIDONET was king. Late in the evening I might post something, and then get up at 5:00am before the system tossed mail, and then re-read it. It was not unusual for me to go “Whoa!” and either edit or delete something I wrote before it went out to the world. With the Internet, you hit send/save, and “shazam!” it is gone. It is out there for the world to see. And no amount of shaking my head or trying to explain will clean up the mess.

After being on BBSs for… 24 years? There are some things that you just can’t prevent. The moderators here do a fantastic job in my opinion. This is the politest, nicest, and friendliest board I have ever been on. I also have to give a lot of credit to the users here, because one of the things that I am coming to learn is that most of the folks who are in the lifestyle have a better grip on who they are, what they want in life, or are exploring with their eyes open. It makes for a very pleasant experience. At least it does for me. That is why I spend a lot of time here.

Unfortunately, even with the best of user bases, there are going to be times when our filters kick in and we stop reading what someone actually writes, but starts interpreting what we think they are saying. There is nothing more frustrating to me than to write something very carefully, and then have someone jump all over me and in the process they demonstrate by their response that they didn’t even read what I wrote. They read what they wanted to read into it. That is why I retired from BBSs a couple of years ago. This is the first board that I have found a desire to read and post on in a very long time.

This is our biggest challenge as posters on any board. To turn the filters off and read what the actual words are, not what we think that they mean.

Besides, I warned you folks up front that I like to write….

S

[lovinher]

Originally Posted by mcnd couple

Unfortunately, even with the best of user bases, there are going to be times when our filters kick in and we stop reading what someone actually writes, but starts interpreting what we think they are saying. There is nothing more frustrating to me than to write something very carefully, and then have someone jump all over me and in the process they demonstrate by their response that they didn’t even read what I wrote. They read what they wanted to read into it. That is why I retired from BBSs a couple of years ago. This is the first board that I have found a desire to read and post on in a very long time.

This is our biggest challenge as posters on any board. To turn the filters off and read what the actual words are, not what we think that they mean.

Sooooo..............you are saying we are a bunch of illiterate boneheads?

Just kidding.
Very well put! Many times posters get their panties in a bunch because of exactly what you are describing. In their defense (and mine), true meanings and/or attitudes are hard to convey in print in a forum like this.

[prettylady]

Originally Posted by ncmd_couple

This is our biggest challenge as posters on any board. To turn the filters off and read what the actual words are, not what we think that they mean.

Besides, I warned you folks up front that I like to write….

S

With me it isn't so much a filter thing, is I have trouble keeping my focus. (ADD) and I quite often don't read the entire thread or if it is a long post, I don't read it correctly, I may look at all the words in the post, but they don't always sink in.
I have been guilty of responding incorrectly, then when I am more attentive or someone calls me out I see that what I thought I read was not what was written....does that make sence?

Your friend,
Prettylady