Lurkers-Snoopers-Whatever

[notaswingeryet]

I'm not a swinger. Duh. But I like to read the threads and some times participate in the conversations. Ok rarely participate. I am curios how the long term swingers view people like me. I'm not a picture collector or a troll but since I can't play does that put people off? I must say so far the people on this board seem to be mellow, polite and truly caring abought their fellow posters.

[avid]

I'll chime in. It doesn't bother me at all that you're here. The fact that you registered, presumably introduced yourself, are being honest about your swinging "status", says to me you make an excellent addition to an online community.

As for being a "lurker", sometimes people who have to respond to everything, often aren't saying anything at all. (Of course, I'm not directing this to anyone here!)

[iapr]

Hmmm, interesting question and one I have not heard posed before. I am not a long term swinger so you can anything I say with a grain of salt there. I guess my own feelings are since you are up front and honest about it and don't try to pass yourself off as something you are not, I really don't have an issue with it.

Sites where lurkers and such really get a bad rap are sites where people try to meet and hook up. since this is primarily a forum for people to share information and advice and ideas and such it probably isn't that big of a deal. There are probably even times when input from someone not active in the lifestyle would come in handy now and then.

[Chip_n_Muffy]

Originally Posted by notaswingeryet

I'm not a swinger. Duh. But I like to read the threads and some times participate in the conversations. Ok rarely participate. I am curios how the long term swingers view people like me. I'm not a picture collector or a troll but since I can't play does that put people off? I must say so far the people on this board seem to be mellow, polite and truly caring abought their fellow posters.

Honesty carries weight around here. You're off to a good start.

Chip

[Alura]

Notaswinger wrote:

I'm not a swinger. ...since I can't play...

On both counts, why not?

Basically, we have no problem with folks adding to our discussion if they aren't swingers. We are curious, however, on why you'd spend the time here.

As long as you don't try to "convert us," we have no problem with your participation.

Mr. Alura

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by avid

I'll chime in. It doesn't bother me at all that you're here. The fact that you registered, presumably introduced yourself, are being honest about your swinging "status", says to me you make an excellent addition to an online community.

Dito

Personally, I'd love to see non-swingers pop in more. I'd be interested in their perspective on some of the things they discuss. Just like Alura said, as long as they are not here to convert us, welcome.

At the very least, I can't think of any harm a lurker like yourself would cause.

Spoomonkey

[The Fuse]

You're welcome here as far as I'm concerned!

If you like to read discussions and participate as much as you feel comfortable, while being honest as I hope the rest of us are, then the more the merrier. I won't say your experience level doesn't matter at all, but it's not all-important by any means.

Another thing is that swingers can only benefit by accepting non-swingers being in the discussions. The more people discuss it, the more acceptance our hobby will attain in the mainstream.

[neilgayle]

This is actually my first response here. Does that make me a lurker. I don't think so. Very new to this entire lifestyle and interested in learning more about it. Have found some very good info here that my SO and I have discussed and it has certainly helped to guide the direction we are going while also reassuring us that the overall experience is quite normal. In fact it was another couple, who we have met and played with, for the very first time (our first time playing that is) that put us onto the site. Lurkers/trolls do not concern me - after all - we only post that which we want to share. If it brings pleasure or enables someone to live vicariously through out enjoyment/experiences - such is life.

[notaswingeryet]

Alura
We have talked abought it alot but it seems to fit more into a fantasy sort of thing than into an actual hobby. After the kid is out of the house I will probably bring it up again. Also the missus has one of those careers where they expect you to be a little miss goody two shoes. I personally prefer her in stripper shoes.

[lovinher]

We have talked abought it alot but it seems to fit more into a fantasy sort of thing than into an actual hobby.

Hey, it's a start! The more you talk about it the less weird it seems and before you know it..........

[msfunlady]

Okay, I have only posted like 3 times. I have been "lurking" on this board for a while, over a year. I love reading and getting a feel for things on here. I am really wanting to take the plunge and see if my hubby is into it also. We have some friends in the lifestyle. I am not on here "lurking" for pleasure or anything, I mainly come for information. I want to be as fully informed as I can on as much as I can before I come in to it. I hope I am not offending anyone by lurking, and I will try and participate more.

[JustAskJulie]

We have all sorts here, long term swingers and many who are just curious and trying to find out what it's all about. We like them all. There are topics here on just about everything under the sun and personally, I think anyone should be able to find SOMETHING they can participate in. It looks like you've found one or two and that's great.

We've had a few posts in the past (and one really long thread) wondering where all the lurkers are and why they lurk - why they never post when there are topics here that anyone could participate in. Even many of the swinging related topics don't take swinging experience to give an opinion on, many times it just takes a little common sense and an perspective from outside the situation.

That said, we are glad you are here, and glad that you've found a few places you feel comfortable participating, and I hope you will continue to participate as you feel comfortable.

[deanncat]

We have been coming to this site of one year and still havn't swing, we do talk about swing alot and the talk and conversation has made or sex life more fun, but do i know if we really will swing, not sure, but i know that i like coming to this site and I have felt very welcome, have responded to some of the posting, and I think swinging is a possiblity, just not sure when, so we can also fit under the catogory snoopers, LOL

[want2knowmore]

I have enjoyed the conversation and threads I have been a part of. There is respect for opinions and guidence and sometimes some great advice. Honesty reins Supreme and really mean something here on this forum. I wish the "vanilla" world was more that way.

My opinions are heard, my questions are anwered, and when I ask for advice I get it.

I may never get the oppertunity (sp) to swing, but I will always respect this forum.

I have never had a SLS member tell me to get out because I don't swing.

Sorry I may have side tracked a bit, please continue