how many are addicted to ..... this board

[Roxysbayou]

LOL! I just noticed mine! If the shoe fits...!

[Nymph an' Satyr]

Congratulations on the new handel Roxy

This really is an excellent forum, and I find that it relaxes me Accordingly I'll check it at work periodically- but generally have my serious read in the evening with a beer in my hand

I have recommended this site to many people- it really is top gun.

[teknurse]

I agree NymphanSatyr, I have recommended this site now to a few 'new' couples recently. I've had queries from www.swingscape.com new members asking if we could help them. I tell them that we certainly aren't 'veterans', and give them this site in answer to the inevitable questions that come up for newbies. Swinging is so much like dating, it's tragic. Every date, good or bad, lends you bit of experience and helps shape your future choices. I hope the novelty never wears off!

Allen&Tami

[LikeMinds321]

I have checked in with the board every day (when I'm home) since joining early this year. There are days I may spend only an hour online, other times eight hours seem to zoom by!

Mr LM has concerns about me, and I think they are justified. I wonder about myself...am I spending too much time on the board?

Those couples who share in posting may not have this concern. But how about those of you who are the predominant--if not only, like me--spouse who posts or reads the board. Do you wonder if you're giving too much time to the board and not enough to your spouse?

Does your spouse worry about you sitting in front of the "peach and mauve" monitor for hours in a far away gaze?

You laugh now and then; you busily type away with a serious look on your face; the "you've got mail" voice calls out when someone has posted to one of your threads...then you feel exicted every time another click is heard and the numbers rise as the activity grows on the board!

While you're seated in front of the monitor does your spouse ask you a question, you answer it, later forgetting the whole conversation because you were more into what you were reading on the board than what he/she was saying to you?

I have found ways to better handle my attachment to the board and give deserved attention to Mr LM. But it can be challenging.

Anyone else have this challenge? How are you handling your love for the board and your spouse at the same time?



LM

[Spoomonkey]

Well - we are usually here together... BUT if you check our number of posts, you'll quickly figure out who is the more addicted. I sometimes have to pull myself away. Of course, I do spend a lot of time reading old threads and archives - going back to interesting stuff - etc. But I do like being here.

I guess the thing for us is to plan stuff together... Running helps - we get out, we are together, no computer anywhere. Or we have a movie coming on and I don't want to miss a second... Or we just hang out on the porch.

Mrs Spoomonkey has a way of pulling me away from the boards that is pretty effective... She offers me sex...

Just a few minutes ago, when I was starting the thread about tops and bottoms, she walked in the office with her new outfit on - black leather boots, black bra, black leather skirt, red rubber jacket, black leather studded mask and told me that if I knew what was good for me, I'd come with her... My attention was successfully averted...

Spoomonkey

[midnight hour]

I hit the board about once a week or so. Usually I can get caught up on posts unless someone has posted to a post I have. Mr. Midnight knows about the board, am not sure if he reads or not. He is not a board person unless it involves motorcycles
I am however addicted to another non sex board where I do think I spend too much time, but with him working nights, well I can indulge.

midnight hour

[hotblonde47]

Well Mr Hotblonde appeared to me to be well addicted to the couple of sites he was on. So .... I figured I should check it out too and found this one ... I guess now I'm pretty much as addicted as he is but to different things. He's checking out the various pics. I'm checking out the various info. It's the Venus and Mars thing I think.!

[newmajor00]

We have a similar situation, but not with this board. My wife started a website for the families of my deployed unit. She spends the majority of her free time there, not writing long emails to me. At first I was a little annoyed, but I think now it's an excellent outlet for her frustration at being separated by distance. I know that's probably a very different "reason" than why Mrs. LM spends so much time on this board, but the point is, she has an interest in something. Swinging is about sharing and communicating, so it makes sense that Mrs. LM is also sharing and communicating with the board. If I could be home right now, I'd pull up a chair next to my wife and participate in something she finds so interesting and entertaining.

Well, I would, just as soon as we finish catching up for the past 14 months...

[GTIs]

I had a similar problem. I have 2 websites that I maintain. Alot of my free time went into creating and maintaining those sites. I just got sick of it and started doing things I enjoy away from the computer. I mountain bike at least 4 times a week now, dropped 15 pounds and just plain had more fun than when I was online. I still go on alot, but it's AFTER dark and BEFORE playtime with the mrs. And I still seem to get what needs to be done to the sites finished with less time devoted to them.

[good times]

Like the Spoomonkey's, my wife and I often read the board together as we normally go on the internet in our office where we have facing desks and seperate computers. I do tend to check it more often that she does because she also works for somebody else during the day where she can't come here. The only time it kind of got out of hand was when we were on the spotlight interview, we couldn't help but check the board many times during the day. I thought we were a little obsessed then but we got over it, I think.

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by GTIs

I had a similar problem. I have 2 websites that I maintain. Alot of my free time went into creating and maintaining those sites. I just got sick of it and started doing things I enjoy away from the computer. I mountain bike at least 4 times a week now, dropped 15 pounds and just plain had more fun than when I was online. I still go on alot, but it's AFTER dark and BEFORE playtime with the mrs. And I still seem to get what needs to be done to the sites finished with less time devoted to them.

I think that's the advantage of only creating and maintaining sites about topics that you enjoy. But even then you can get to a point where too much is too much and you need a break.

[BradAndJanet]

I do spend a fair amount of time here each day, about 2 hours. J's usually reading or playing computer games for that long every day, so I guess we have achieved balance in what we do separately and together. I think the important thing is that we're not neglecting each other or our other responsibilities in order to have this leisure time. If we were then we might have to correct that and it might be considered an 'addiction'.

-B

[ALilOEverything]

I probably spend my fair share of time here, but it just depends on the day. I bought a new pair of roller blades a couple weeks ago and now my obsession has moved to those...probably healthier in the long run Now that I'm more at ease about the whole thing and most of my questions and concerns have been addressed I don't think I'll spent quite as much time here, but I'm sure I'll check in daily regardless.

[GTIs]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

I think that's the advantage of only creating and maintaining sites about topics that you enjoy. But even then you can get to a point where too much is too much and you need a break.

I can't really take a break from the sites though lol. One has over 700 users and the other over 1,000 users. Plus I organize offline events for both sites. I wish I could organize an event for this type of site.

[LikeMinds321]

Originally Posted by good times

The only time it kind of got out of hand was when we were on the spotlight interview, we couldn't help but check the board many times during the day. I thought we were a little obsessed then but we got over it, I think.

When you're being interviewed, you're involved with posting every day. Even now that your interview time has passed, you post every day from what I've noticed.

Posting is what keeps me very close to the Swingers Board. If I never posted, I'd likely only check in a couple times a week.

I think if I was reading this board, without the knowledge of my spouse, it would be impossible to keep my "secret."

I could not have become so active here without Mr LM's approval and interest in swinging.

LM