How often do you get hit on from people here?

MoonLightKiss · 10-31-2006, 01:40 PM

I got a question that has been buggin me here lately. Regardless of what stage, whether we are still looking for that first couple/single, or been in it for years, we can pretty much agree that we are all swingers. And let's face it, we flirt on occasion with each other, send cute/sexy messages back and forth on threads, and so on. My question is, do any of you get hit on from people here? Not from those that are regulars here and post frequently but from the lurkers. They message you on YM that you have in your profile here. They come up to you and say "Hey seen you at Swingersboard...wanna hook up?" kinda hits. Does that happen normally to anyone else? Is it considered appropriate? (cause if it is I got a list of people here I could hit on

) How do you deal with it?

Beaverbumper · 10-31-2006, 01:44 PM

Personally the wife and I have been with Swingersboard for a few years and never once have we been approached...So darn it approach us..lol facelick

Pinmonkey · 10-31-2006, 01:44 PM

I have gotten that from lurkers, and politely tell them that I'm not sure who they are, and we can speak on the board as much as they would like. After that, they usually give a polite ok, and that's that.

Chicup · 10-31-2006, 01:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MoonLightKiss

I got a question that has been buggin me here lately. Regardless of what stage, whether we are still looking for that first couple/single, or been in it for years, we can pretty much agree that we are all swingers. And let's face it, we flirt on occasion with each other, send cute/sexy messages back and forth on threads, and so on. My question is, do any of you get hit on from people here? Not from those that are regulars here and post frequently but from the lurkers. They message you on YM that you have in your profile here. They come up to you and say "Hey seen you at Swingersboard...wanna hook up?" kinda hits. Does that happen normally to anyone else? Is it considered appropriate? (cause if it is I got a list of people here I could hit on

) How do you deal with it?

Never by anyone close enough to hook up, which is too bad.

On the other hand I enjoy that the usual flirt crap is pretty minor here. People are a lot less likely to voice a true opinon if they think it will keep them from getting laid. This is why the LL message board is so completely useless. No one wants to offend anyone, no one wants to say something out of the norm.

Also due to the geographic issue, its nice that you can avoid the whole 'we like you as friends but not to play with' issue.

***JustAskJulie*** · 10-31-2006, 01:48 PM

It happens, even to me. I don't have my YM posted here so I get it strictly via email or via private message on here.

As for whether or not it's appropriate, I'd say it depends on you. If you are ok with it, great - no problem. If not and it seems to be a problem say so.

I will say that in the case of lurkers (this is one of the reasons we don't let users with less than 3 posts even see the member list), if their only purpose in being here is to "hook up" then a) they are in the wrong place and b) we don't want them here - there are sites that exist for that purpose. So if you are finding that to be the case feel free to report their username to me and that can be easily fixed.

Darkblue · 10-31-2006, 01:49 PM

We dont have that problem we are to far away!! so no point in hitting on us!!

Steve

Dynamar · 10-31-2006, 01:53 PM

I have had a few "hits" from people who are geographically-compatible to me. My position is that I don't really want to meet people from this board in person. This is a place for me to come to learn and ask questions. What if I have personal issues with people I've met from here, or elsewhere in my swinging adventures? I want a place where I can come for unbiased advice, and be otherwise "anonymous."

VanHlebar · 10-31-2006, 01:55 PM

We haven't had this problem from here. Yea we occasionally send out a PM to someone, just to say Wow! we really thought your post was great or your avatar is hot or the like. We too have received a few PMs from folks, but usually ones that are too far away.

We come to this board for the folks that are here and the friendships we have made. With that said, we wouldn't turn down a meetup request from a couple/single just because they PM'd us from here and not a site like SLS/Swapper or whatever.

-Van

Chip_n_Muffy · 10-31-2006, 01:55 PM

Yes, we have the occasional "hit" from here, and we have hooked up from here before. Sometimes Saturn and Jupiter come into alignment ...... Hey, we keep an open mind because ya just never know!

Chip

MrsVan · 10-31-2006, 02:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MoonLightKiss

My question is, do any of you get hit on from people here? Not from those that are regulars here and post frequently but from the lurkers. They message you on YM that you have in your profile here. They come up to you and say "Hey seen you at Swingersboard...wanna hook up?" kinda hits. Does that happen normally to anyone else?

I have had this happen more than MrVan...I get PM's from singles on the board and honestly have never seen their name around on posts except for when I get a PM from them. Some are just messages to say they checked out our profile while others want to know if we want to chat. Some of them are down right annoying because they will continue to bug you over and over again. The only PM's that I like are those from those on the board who we do occasionally flirt with, etc.

Quote:

Is it considered appropriate? (cause if it is I got a list of people here I could hit on

) How do you deal with it?

I will be waiting for the PM then

JK...I do not think it is inappropriate to send a PM and get to know others on the board whom you might be interested in.. What better way to find people than on the board sometimes. Going to the Meet ups are great because you actually get to put faces with names and that just adds to the fun while on the board.

MrsVan

Beaverbumper · 10-31-2006, 02:11 PM

My wife and I would rather (because we thing you all are really great) be hit on here than a swinger site..

Darkblue · 10-31-2006, 02:22 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Beaverbumper

My wife and I would rather (because we thing you all are really great) be hit on here than a swinger site..

Isnt this a swinger site then

I know what you mean though!!!

Steve

Beaverbumper · 10-31-2006, 02:26 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Darkblue

Isnt this a swinger site then

I know what you mean though!!!

Steve

Well I wish someone would create a swinger site and for all of us to join. Then we'd really be in the real lifestyle.. :surrender

Beaverbumper · 10-31-2006, 02:27 PM

I meant all the people on this site...

MoonLightKiss · 10-31-2006, 02:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dynamar

I have had a few "hits" from people who are geographically-compatible to me. My position is that I don't really want to meet people from this board in person. This is a place for me to come to learn and ask questions. What if I have personal issues with people I've met from here, or elsewhere in my swinging adventures? I want a place where I can come for unbiased advice, and be otherwise "anonymous."

This was my main concern, I just couldn't seem to find the words for it. Of course, don't get me wrong. Recieving a PM from here saying WOW cool post, or hey, lets chat, i like your posts is one thing and that is cool. But my main reason for being here is to ask questions, get em answered, and along the way, perhaps help others. But when (And this is a strictly FOR EXAMPLE) let's say someone posts asking for advice about their first MFM. They indeed have questions about what is polite or not, what to expect, and all that. And a week later someone hits them up on YM saying "So, did you ever get your hook up? If not, what about me? I could fill your expectations." I am all for flirting on here, most of its harmless anyway due to geography. I am all for getting to know people better, chat with em on other programs because they have made an impact here. Hell, I would even meet a few from here just because they seem to be genuinly nice. But basically, I come here for the honesty. And really, how honest could I be about a situation that happened with another couple from here? It might turn into a bash fest, he said, she said drama filled problem. So thanks Dynamar for having the words I didn't. And thanks Julie for the recourse if someone does get out of hand.

Kisses All,
MLK

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10-31-2006, 01:40 PM	#1 (permalink)
MoonLightKiss Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 406 Location: Kentucky Status: Couple	How often do you get hit on from people here? I got a question that has been buggin me here lately. Regardless of what stage, whether we are still looking for that first couple/single, or been in it for years, we can pretty much agree that we are all swingers. And let's face it, we flirt on occasion with each other, send cute/sexy messages back and forth on threads, and so on. My question is, do any of you get hit on from people here? Not from those that are regulars here and post frequently but from the lurkers. They message you on YM that you have in your profile here. They come up to you and say "Hey seen you at Swingersboard...wanna hook up?" kinda hits. Does that happen normally to anyone else? Is it considered appropriate? (cause if it is I got a list of people here I could hit on ) How do you deal with it? __________________ Our greatest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. - Marianne Wilson

10-31-2006, 01:44 PM	#2 (permalink)
Beaverbumper Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 155 Location: Union City, Mi Status: Couple SLS Name:Beaverbumper	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? Personally the wife and I have been with Swingersboard for a few years and never once have we been approached...So darn it approach us..lol facelick __________________ Diane & Allen

10-31-2006, 01:44 PM	#3 (permalink)
Pinmonkey Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Nov 2003 Posts: 634 Location: Buffalo, NY Status: M. Male	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? I have gotten that from lurkers, and politely tell them that I'm not sure who they are, and we can speak on the board as much as they would like. After that, they usually give a polite ok, and that's that. __________________ Success is not final. Failure is not fatal. It's the courage to continue that counts.

10-31-2006, 01:48 PM	#5 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 22,307 Location: Alabama Status: Female SLS Name:swingersboard Blog Entries: 59	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? It happens, even to me. I don't have my YM posted here so I get it strictly via email or via private message on here. As for whether or not it's appropriate, I'd say it depends on you. If you are ok with it, great - no problem. If not and it seems to be a problem say so. I will say that in the case of lurkers (this is one of the reasons we don't let users with less than 3 posts even see the member list), if their only purpose in being here is to "hook up" then a) they are in the wrong place and b) we don't want them here - there are sites that exist for that purpose. So if you are finding that to be the case feel free to report their username to me and that can be easily fixed. __________________ Julie Owner/ Admin http://www.swingersboard.com

10-31-2006, 01:49 PM	#6 (permalink)
Darkblue Steve and Susanne Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 227 Location: Germany Status: Couple SLS Name:darkblue	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? We dont have that problem we are to far away!! so no point in hitting on us!! Steve

10-31-2006, 01:53 PM	#7 (permalink)
Dynamar Ready-Willing-Able Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 722 Location: A flyover state Status: Single SLS Name:Dynamar	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? I have had a few "hits" from people who are geographically-compatible to me. My position is that I don't really want to meet people from this board in person. This is a place for me to come to learn and ask questions. What if I have personal issues with people I've met from here, or elsewhere in my swinging adventures? I want a place where I can come for unbiased advice, and be otherwise "anonymous." __________________ ~Dynamar

10-31-2006, 01:55 PM	#8 (permalink)
VanHlebar a.k.a. Stifler Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 550 Location: Cincinnati Status: Married Male SLS Name:MrMrsVanHlebar	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? We haven't had this problem from here. Yea we occasionally send out a PM to someone, just to say Wow! we really thought your post was great or your avatar is hot or the like. We too have received a few PMs from folks, but usually ones that are too far away. We come to this board for the folks that are here and the friendships we have made. With that said, we wouldn't turn down a meetup request from a couple/single just because they PM'd us from here and not a site like SLS/Swapper or whatever. -Van

10-31-2006, 01:55 PM	#9 (permalink)
Chip_n_Muffy Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 218 Location: inactive Status: inactive	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? Yes, we have the occasional "hit" from here, and we have hooked up from here before. Sometimes Saturn and Jupiter come into alignment ...... Hey, we keep an open mind because ya just never know! Chip __________________ "I realized then that the wages of sin was a bad reputation and too many friends" The Rainmakers

10-31-2006, 02:11 PM	#11 (permalink)
Beaverbumper Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 155 Location: Union City, Mi Status: Couple SLS Name:Beaverbumper	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? My wife and I would rather (because we thing you all are really great) be hit on here than a swinger site.. __________________ Diane & Allen

10-31-2006, 02:27 PM	#14 (permalink)
Beaverbumper Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2004 Posts: 155 Location: Union City, Mi Status: Couple SLS Name:Beaverbumper	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? I meant all the people on this site... __________________ Diane & Allen

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