How often do you get hit on from people here?

tribbles · 10-31-2006, 03:16 PM

I liked a few posts by a single guy who wasn't too far and we are now RL friends and did have fun playing a few times.

Meeting up it felt like we already knew each other and that was really nice!

S

**rpu3** · 10-31-2006, 03:20 PM

We've gotten four or five "wanna do it?" hits (like we'd get on Swappernet or SLS) from single men. Two sent PMs, two liked to bug me on Yahoo IM and were subsequently blocked. The messages never said anything worthwhile to consider them any further than a "no thanks".

I certainly PM other members regarding their posts or asking others their opinions about local clubs, etc.

**mrs good times** · 10-31-2006, 03:23 PM

I get PM'd ocassionly here by single males but generally they go away after the first "no thank you". I think I've only had two that were disrespectul and needed a good scolding to get rid of them.

We have been to several meet ups so we do know a few members here personally and have become friends but we try not to let that influence the way we post. We both are very out spoken about what we think and if you have met us in person or not the answer to a question will be very close to the same.

We also refer many people to this board so we do see a few board members on a regular basis. Again, these members know us well enough to realize that being friends or acquaintances is not going to change our view or the way we post.

**good times** · 10-31-2006, 03:25 PM

We get PM's from people on here all the time, Mrs. GT more than myself. The only ones that bother us are the crude, usually single or married/cheating male guys that mrs. GT seems to be a magnet for here, luckily we don't get those real often.

When we travel out of town and are going somewhere that someone who we admire or respect on the board lives, we will often PM them and meet for lunch or dinner, usually just to put a face to the screen name we see here every day. We also go to a few meet-ups for the same reason. We don't really consider or use this as a hook-up sight though.

ShellyM · 10-31-2006, 03:32 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VanHlebar

We haven't had this problem from here. Yea we occasionally send out a PM to someone, just to say Wow! we really thought your post was great or your avatar is hot or the like. We too have received a few PMs from folks, but usually ones that are too far away.

We come to this board for the folks that are here and the friendships we have made. With that said, we wouldn't turn down a meetup request from a couple/single just because they PM'd us from here and not a site like SLS/Swapper or whatever.

-Van

Same here....perhaps we're boring you think?

LOL

VanHlebar · 10-31-2006, 03:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by ShellyM

Same here....perhaps we're boring you think?

LOL

Well...I know I am..hell I am a CPA so I must be boring...but I find it hard to belive that you are boring.

Anything but actually!

-Van

JacobSky · 10-31-2006, 05:23 PM

On the flip side, I'm the single guy that considers PMing couples. No, I'm certainly not a lurker and I don't consider this my primary searching site. Like others, I come hear to pour out my thougths and hopefully help others understand variuos views about sex. I sometimes feel that my blunt honesty here about fetishes may put some couples off. On the other hand, the ones that seem to have something in common with me stand out when I speak up. So, I'm open to meeting some from here if the opportunity arose, I'm just not relying on it. If I did meet with someone from here, and if an issue came up, I'd just have to get advice elsewhere. Also, I don't seem to run into many problems. I'm pretty easy going and go by the couple's or the woman's rules.

So, I do consider PMing, but I havn't for concern of making a few ucomfortable with me on here. I have very lightly flirted in thread replies to people far away so they don't feel that I'm serious, but take my words as a compliment. I like to compliment on avatars and perspectives, especially like one of them on this page here.

ShellyM · 10-31-2006, 05:35 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by VanHlebar

Well...I know I am..hell I am a CPA so I must be boring...but I find it hard to belive that you are boring.

Anything but actually!

-Van

Don't count on it buddy, I work in medical insurance.
Holy crap, we need a life!

MrsVan · 10-31-2006, 05:37 PM

Jacobsky,

It is nice to hear from a single guy that is not here to lurk and uses the board to get questions answered.

However, there are singles out there that do the lurking and it is enough to drive a woman insane.

We love when we receive compliments and love to hear from others by PM, especially those whom we enjoy reading their posts. Compliments are great and we are also those that enjoy giving compliments as well.

MrsVan

Mr.T · 10-31-2006, 05:57 PM

Nope.Never been hit on from anyone here

But I agree with some other points made earlier.I live in northern ontario,canada.The closest poster location I've seen sofar is 4 hrs drive away.So,unless someone likes to travel,I'm SOL

.

Also,I work 12hr shifts,6 days on 3 off,driving a rock truck.The Mrs. maintains our home and raises our 3 children,so she works just as hard(if not harder) than I do.This severly limits our ability to travel.Again,SOL

So,It's kind of a moot point to even try,at least with the expectation of hooking up.However there is no harm in conversation,playful flirting(like we don't do that on the boards already

),etc.You never know where it will lead. facelick

nice_cpl_n_bama · 10-31-2006, 06:31 PM

If a nice local couple contacts us I don't much care where they got our contact info. Single males are never welcome. People who live 300 miles away are just time wasters.
I've had a guy from Maryland contact me. I think he just wanted pics.

Tybee Swing · 10-31-2006, 07:13 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MoonLightKiss

My question is, do any of you get hit on from people here? Not from those that are regulars here and post frequently but from the lurkers.

Yes, every now and then. It happens, and has happened even on vanilla message boards before - so I'm not surprised it happens here, at all. From lurkers, it's always from a guy who is interested in me, the wife. I don't think they're swingers, to be honest - just horny guys reading the board.

Quote:

Originally Posted by MoonLightKiss

How do you deal with it?

I just don't reply, usually. They're never in our immediate area, anyway. I don't get the impression they're trying to physically hook up. Maybe they want to cyber or get pictures (not happening).

PM's from board members - love those!

We get to feel like friends here after we've been regulars for a little while. I think that's nice. Even if it's from somebody new I'm not familiar with, but it's about a post I've written or something, that's nice.

Flirty comments in threads - How could we put this many swingers in a "room" together and not have any flirting, at least mildly? Not possible.

How can you put Thrax amongst this many horny women, and not have us wishing he was in our zipcode? There are so many sexy people here....I often find myself wishing they lived closer! facelick With this many sexy and horny swingers chatting here, it's amazing we aren't more naughty than we are. LOL

JacobSky · 10-31-2006, 07:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MrsVan

Jacobsky,

It is nice to hear from a single guy that is not here to lurk and uses the board to get questions answered.

However, there are singles out there that do the lurking and it is enough to drive a woman insane.

We love when we receive compliments and love to hear from others by PM, especially those whom we enjoy reading their posts. Compliments are great and we are also those that enjoy giving compliments as well.

MrsVan

Well, thak you MrsVan!

I actually really appreciate having a place where I can take part in open minded discusions with men, women, and couples that think outside of the box! Where else can a single guy learn about the many different prefferences that hot women have

MrsVan · 10-31-2006, 08:21 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by JacobSky

Well, thak you MrsVan!

I actually really appreciate having a place where I can take part in open minded discusions with men, women, and couples that think outside of the box! Where else can a single guy learn about the many different prefferences that hot women have

JacobSky,

Your welcome! And by the way, I have to agree with you that there are many HOT women around this board. facelick And some very hot men as well....

MrsVan

Spoomonkey · 10-31-2006, 09:08 PM

We've been hit on here - but whether or not it is appropriate usually depends on the content of the PM. Some have been - well - nasty... Others have been respectful, flirty and fun.

Typically, the good ones are quite flattering and we certainly appreciate them. Obviously, when you are a purple monkey your self-esteem needs the occasional boost.

We don't hit on others through the board first, though, as tempted as we have been at times. We flirt like crazy with people who we have slowly established friendships with, but I think we do our best to establish the atmosphere on the board as being very "non-pressure" and relaxed; welcoming to people regardless of where they are in their journey into swinging.

We've met people from the board. Almost all of the people we have met have been incredible and we tend to develop a new respect for them after meeting them face to face. So - we always look forward to meeting board folks when we get a chance! We have no regrets yet!

The board is full of swingers - so this kind of thing is bound to happen. I think we all do a great job of not flaunting it around the board and letting the board do first and foremost what it does best - and that is provide some sage wisdom from a lot of great folks. If it ever turned into a hook up and story site, it would cease to be a useful place for us.

Spoomonkey

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10-31-2006, 03:16 PM	#16 (permalink)
tribbles Fun and Pleasure Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 860 Location: SouthWest Status: Couple	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? I liked a few posts by a single guy who wasn't too far and we are now RL friends and did have fun playing a few times. Meeting up it felt like we already knew each other and that was really nice! S __________________ Evel Knievel died of natural causes.

10-31-2006, 03:20 PM	#17 (permalink)
rpu3 Doing it our way... Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 2,504 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female SLS Name:rpu3 Blog Entries: 2	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? We've gotten four or five "wanna do it?" hits (like we'd get on Swappernet or SLS) from single men. Two sent PMs, two liked to bug me on Yahoo IM and were subsequently blocked. The messages never said anything worthwhile to consider them any further than a "no thanks". I certainly PM other members regarding their posts or asking others their opinions about local clubs, etc. __________________ I'll give up my bad habits as soon as equally satisfying good habits become available. A. Brilliant Last edited by rpu3 : 10-31-2006 at 07:35 PM.

10-31-2006, 03:23 PM	#18 (permalink)
mrs good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 1,162 Location: Reno, NV Status: couple SLS Name:randp	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? I get PM'd ocassionly here by single males but generally they go away after the first "no thank you". I think I've only had two that were disrespectul and needed a good scolding to get rid of them. We have been to several meet ups so we do know a few members here personally and have become friends but we try not to let that influence the way we post. We both are very out spoken about what we think and if you have met us in person or not the answer to a question will be very close to the same. We also refer many people to this board so we do see a few board members on a regular basis. Again, these members know us well enough to realize that being friends or acquaintances is not going to change our view or the way we post. __________________ One's mind, once stretched by a new idea, never regains it original dimensions.

10-31-2006, 03:25 PM	#19 (permalink)
good times Mod Squad Member Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 6,417 Location: Reno, Nevada Status: Married to Mrs Good Times SLS Name:randp	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? We get PM's from people on here all the time, Mrs. GT more than myself. The only ones that bother us are the crude, usually single or married/cheating male guys that mrs. GT seems to be a magnet for here, luckily we don't get those real often. When we travel out of town and are going somewhere that someone who we admire or respect on the board lives, we will often PM them and meet for lunch or dinner, usually just to put a face to the screen name we see here every day. We also go to a few meet-ups for the same reason. We don't really consider or use this as a hook-up sight though. __________________ R (He is R, she is P)

10-31-2006, 05:23 PM	#22 (permalink)
JacobSky Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 254 Location: Beaver, OK Status: Single Male	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? On the flip side, I'm the single guy that considers PMing couples. No, I'm certainly not a lurker and I don't consider this my primary searching site. Like others, I come hear to pour out my thougths and hopefully help others understand variuos views about sex. I sometimes feel that my blunt honesty here about fetishes may put some couples off. On the other hand, the ones that seem to have something in common with me stand out when I speak up. So, I'm open to meeting some from here if the opportunity arose, I'm just not relying on it. If I did meet with someone from here, and if an issue came up, I'd just have to get advice elsewhere. Also, I don't seem to run into many problems. I'm pretty easy going and go by the couple's or the woman's rules. So, I do consider PMing, but I havn't for concern of making a few ucomfortable with me on here. I have very lightly flirted in thread replies to people far away so they don't feel that I'm serious, but take my words as a compliment. I like to compliment on avatars and perspectives, especially like one of them on this page here.

10-31-2006, 05:37 PM	#24 (permalink)
MrsVan Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 667 Location: Ohio Status: M.Female SLS Name:MrMrsVanHlebar	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? Jacobsky, It is nice to hear from a single guy that is not here to lurk and uses the board to get questions answered. However, there are singles out there that do the lurking and it is enough to drive a woman insane. We love when we receive compliments and love to hear from others by PM, especially those whom we enjoy reading their posts. Compliments are great and we are also those that enjoy giving compliments as well. MrsVan

10-31-2006, 05:57 PM	#25 (permalink)
Mr.T Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2006 Posts: 173 Location: The great white north. Status: Married couple,Male Half.	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? Nope.Never been hit on from anyone here But I agree with some other points made earlier.I live in northern ontario,canada.The closest poster location I've seen sofar is 4 hrs drive away.So,unless someone likes to travel,I'm SOL . Also,I work 12hr shifts,6 days on 3 off,driving a rock truck.The Mrs. maintains our home and raises our 3 children,so she works just as hard(if not harder) than I do.This severly limits our ability to travel.Again,SOL So,It's kind of a moot point to even try,at least with the expectation of hooking up.However there is no harm in conversation,playful flirting(like we don't do that on the boards already ),etc.You never know where it will lead. facelick __________________ God gave Man a penis and a brain.And only enough blood to run one at a time.

10-31-2006, 06:31 PM	#26 (permalink)
nice_cpl_n_bama Where's the party! Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 198 Location: Huntsville, AL Status: Couple SLS Name:nice_cpl_n_bama	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? If a nice local couple contacts us I don't much care where they got our contact info. Single males are never welcome. People who live 300 miles away are just time wasters. I've had a guy from Maryland contact me. I think he just wanted pics. __________________ FATAL ERROR: WITTY LINE NOT FOUND (A)bort, (R)etry, (F)ail

10-31-2006, 09:08 PM	#30 (permalink)
Spoomonkey Chimpin' Ain't Easy Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 6,563 Location: Ohio Status: Married Monkeys - will you be our vine? SLS Name:Spoomonkey	Re: How often do you get hit on from people here? We've been hit on here - but whether or not it is appropriate usually depends on the content of the PM. Some have been - well - nasty... Others have been respectful, flirty and fun. Typically, the good ones are quite flattering and we certainly appreciate them. Obviously, when you are a purple monkey your self-esteem needs the occasional boost. We don't hit on others through the board first, though, as tempted as we have been at times. We flirt like crazy with people who we have slowly established friendships with, but I think we do our best to establish the atmosphere on the board as being very "non-pressure" and relaxed; welcoming to people regardless of where they are in their journey into swinging. We've met people from the board. Almost all of the people we have met have been incredible and we tend to develop a new respect for them after meeting them face to face. So - we always look forward to meeting board folks when we get a chance! We have no regrets yet! The board is full of swingers - so this kind of thing is bound to happen. I think we all do a great job of not flaunting it around the board and letting the board do first and foremost what it does best - and that is provide some sage wisdom from a lot of great folks. If it ever turned into a hook up and story site, it would cease to be a useful place for us. Spoomonkey __________________ "Eros will have naked bodies; Friendship naked personalities." - C. S. Lewis

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