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[Sweet_Candy]

I've read most of the archived stuff please post a question new or old. I may be able to direct you to similar threads or even better answer your question with my take on the topic.

[sexyshelby]

I do agree with Spoo and Amanda, anyone should be able to ask any question. However, I must say, it gets old to see the same questions posted month after month. I don't see any reason why one cant do a quick search for their question. I don't expect people to read through the whole archives, I haven't and probably never will. But if I have a question, I will do a simple search and look at a the first page of results that pop up. If the topic doesn't come up, then a new one should be created. To me, this is reasonable.

That said, I do encourage others to ask questions that they have (as long you don't ask if women like big dicks). As others have mentioned, it's good to bring up new opinions. So post away all you lurkers (or just lurk, whatever makes you comfortable).

Ok. I rambled way more than I wanted to...sorry.

~SS

[WesternSwing]

The advantage to what sexyshelby said is that sometimes you will find a thread about the exact subject you are wondering about (jealousy issues and ED are frequent subjects) that can be read through then commented on or an additional question asked. This helps to keep the number of threads on a particular subject down and brings older discussions to the forefront again.

The problem is that to the novice some of the terminology used in the thread that would easily locate their answer is unknown to them. We have experienced swinger friends that have never heard the word vanilla used to describe non-swingers, but they know what a Muggle is.

Mr. WS

[uandusforfun]

ok You got mt attention.... I love the board and all the advice me and my hubby are from NC and are going to the ECC swingers party for the first time. Had it not been for all the reading I have done here I may not have been able to get him to go.
THANK-YOU! and we hope to meet new friends here also.

[bigjoehd]

were not lurkers! were new members.

hi guy's(and girls)

[WesternSwing]

Woohoo! Welcome officially to the Board!

Mr. WS

[Spoomonkey]

Originally Posted by sexyshelby

I do agree with Spoo and Amanda, anyone should be able to ask any question. However, I must say, it gets old to see the same questions posted month after month. I don't see any reason why one cant do a quick search for their question.

I have probably been guilty of posting redundant questions or plain old rants... My problem is, I always think I have a unique angle to the question. Right or wrong, I will read an old post and think, "that's not exactly my question".

So I'll rephrase it...

Or so I think...

The fresh responses are to MY question - not a similar question from five years ago. I feel like the answers are a bit more personal and applicable to the situation I am asking about. So - for me - even if I do the research, I may still end up starting a new thread.

Besides - this place thrives on questions and discussion. The minute that stops, we'll all be sitting around waiting for the banner ads to change...

Spoomonkey

[two4youinswva]

Originally Posted by Spoomonkey

Besides - this place thrives on questions and discussion. The minute that stops, we'll all be sitting around waiting for the banner ads to change...

Mmmmm....... Banner Ads..... facelick
(Love the one where the girl is in the bed looking back and forth at the two dudes, one of which looks a bit like Belushi)

I think there's only a couple repeat subjects that seem to get folks fired up: "Religion & Swinging" and the old "Male on Male" thing (which always seems to create some "tension") come to mind right off.

My thoughts? Ask the question. You'll get some good answers, maybe some not-so-good answers, and you'll probably be given a few links to archived threads touching on the same topic. Everyone wins!

Mr two4you
-----Now where's that banner?

[sexyshelby]

Mr. WS brings up a good point that I hadn't thought of. Searching for the right term or phrase is always a problem, in academic research as well as on here. So this could result in some repostings. But I still think that most of the people just don't use the search feature at all - maybe they don't know that it's there.

Spoo mentions another thing that is probably more true to people on this board. Everyone thinks their problem is unique. "Well, that's kinda like me, but not really, so let me ask again." I can relate to this and understand why people think it. And yes, it is always nice to get answers to "your" question rather than read what other people told Joe Blow.

So in conclusion, I've decided that people should post away. I wont bite your head off for asking questions (unless you ask me if penis size matters, then I will bite both heads off )

~SS

[JustAskJulie]

Originally Posted by sexyshelby

Mr. WS brings up a good point that I hadn't thought of. Searching for the right term or phrase is always a problem, in academic research as well as on here. So this could result in some repostings. But I still think that most of the people just don't use the search feature at all - maybe they don't know that it's there.

Search functions (IMO) are a pain in the butt. I've seen EVERY thread that's ever hit this board. If a new thread comes up that's just like an old one usually I will remember the old and I know it's there, BUT even knowing it's there I could spend an hour trying to find THAT thread and still fail. If you search for a term within a thread chances are there will be more than 500 threads that match that term (in which case the results will only show 500) so you may not find the one that actually does match the question. And 99% of the time the title of the thread doesn't have the actual topic in it (although I do TRY to change the titles when I send things to the archives to make that a little easier), again making it difficult to find threads even when you KNOW they exist - let alone trying to find a thread on a particular topic when you are brand new here and have no idea that that question has been asked before.

So in conclusion, I've decided that people should post away. I wont bite your head off for asking questions (unless you ask me if penis size matters, then I will bite both heads off )
~SS

My bf had a wet dream once that I bit his head off

[JustAskJulie]

Had to come back and add a couple more thoughts to those that feel that any new thoughts on old topics should be added to the old topics (instead of new ones started).

When you came to the board did you go search through every old topic?
If you did, did you add your own thoughts to those old topics?
If you didn't do it then because you didn't feel you had anything to add at the time, have you taken the time since to go back and add your thoughts?

probably not.

However, those who have joined us since an old thread on a particular topic died down are much more likely to add their thoughts to a NEW thread on an old subject than to an old thread. Every time an old topic is brought back up in a new thread, a few more of those lurkers come out of the closet and add their two cents taking them out of lurker status.

I've posted this before after visiting other boards on other topics. One thing I (usually) love about this board is that we don't constantly bite people's heads off for asking a question that someone has answered once in the past a long time ago. I've spent hours on other boards looking for an answer to a question only to give up and post my question then have my head bitten off, thread closed and given one reply redirecting me to the one thread from 3 years ago that answered the question (and half the time it didn't answer MY question, so I have to start all over and hope that this time I phrase my question correctly so that the same thing doesn't repeat itself). Every time I visit other boards (for any topic) I am reminded of why this place is great and why the people here rule. Occasionally we all need a reminder of this.

And as I said in another thread. If you are bothered by the fact that someone is asking a question AGAIN that you've already answered before, feel free to redirect them to an old thread in a nice way or just don't reply to the new thread at all, but DON'T BASH THEM. You were new once too... and I bet that for everyone of you who now say how much you hate seeing the same questions over and over again I can go back and find where you asked a question that had already been asked before. So put yourself in their shoes.

END RANT (please return to your normally scheduled request for lurkers to come out of the closet).

[beaverz]

Easy on the “Biting heads off” it brings back bad memories. I dated a girl once that wore braces and I was her first. Let’s just say it didn’t turn out well.

Come on Shelby, you can tell us; does size matter?

Sorry, I Couldn’t resist.

[want2knowmore]

"So, while this may be the most fuitless post ever written, lurkers sign in here, what brings you to the board? What makes you stay and log on but not post?"

I am interested in learning more about the lifestyle, what keeps me coming back is some of the information. I enjoy how open and honest the answers are.

It took me a long time to post as I was never sure I had a better prospective or unique point to make. Thus spending time in "lurk" mode. Not to mention my lousy spelling and bad grammar.

[DBL D]

I didn't see ONE spelling error...fuitcake anyone? Really, thanks for that. Don't worry about spelling...we'll return the favor.

Julie, you are so right. This board rocks. Even with my being here...

And Julie, it is very true that you can spend hours searching for some particular item. Just try using a search engine that you can only use two words in and you keep getting the reply that "no info was found"...Not here.

I believe that someone (in the past) may have addressed any issue in question very well and you would like that person to read that...so we should just PM them about it or kindly mention it. Otherwise, everyone should be free to ask anything, regardless. If this board becomes too predictable for some, then they are jaded. This board always has something posted on it every day or so that is very interesting and has probably been covered in another way but the poster had different personality.

And so it goes...

Male D

[fun4Ds]

now see thats what i like about this board. ya all know im not the brightest bulb in the package and im still learning how to use all the features. but it is nice when someone offers a link to something and its never in a head biteing way. and even so, if the meaning is the same from past post the feed back is all .... hmmm how do i say it... more gooder.