How Far Have You Come since you joined the Swingers Board?

[Carol_Danny]

Originally Posted by JustAskJulie

You really gotta work on that! LOL

Yep, too much time spent talking about sex than actually doing it.

I just realized, I turned into my father!

[trublujo]

Joined: Feb 2005 though i did read through the boards for about a year before actually joining.


Status at the time: Taking a break, not out there looking but holding onto 1 special couple for friends and fun.

Status now: We are in the life again hitting the clubs. Holding onto 2 couples for friends plus benefits. Willing to play if the right folks come along not really looking to meet more close friends, get too many and theres no time to get together with them all.

Hubby and i have revamped all our rules about what play is allowed and we looking to try out our first house party soon. its never been better..... in fact we attended our first all weekend swinger event this summer and i was very surprised at how much fun we had looking forward to next year.

[BradAndJanet]

When I first saw the title of this thread, I thought, "Well, there was that one time I hit myself in the eye..."

Anyway...

I (we) joined on 7/31/2001. At the time we were total noobs, except for one botched attempt with a friend of mine.

In the time we have been here we have learned a lot, met a whole bunch of great people, swung a little and had too much fun.

-B

[kittycat11]

Well, We are still "where we started", just joined this board very recently and only been swinging since summer. So, after just a couple of experiences, not alot has changed; I consider us still "newbies" and we are finding our way. Like new guys, we have some rules and although some may think they are silly, they help us to navigate this crazy world of swinging and the feelings that go with it as you explore. We probably will drop alot of them as we get comfortable and more experienced. But we are not willing to do that too quickly; we don't want to crash and burn due to impatience. I want to tell all of you that this board has been a great help to me. Not only is it informative and educational but it has validated some of my feelings so I know that I am totally normal having them as we go along. So thank you to all and I hope to post more often as there are things to tell and probably things to ask!!

[hilltop]

On the board since March o' this year

Swinging off and on since the late 70's

Inactive in the lifestyle for about a year and a half due to my recent move and having a vanilla GF for a bit.

Not much has changed since I came here except I've had a chance to "meet" some super people on this board!!!!

[Miss_Piggy]

Joined on October 8, 2003 - time really flies, eh? I still feel new and realised the other day that our Swing Lifestyle profile still lists us a newbies. I thought of changing it but to tell the truth I really do still feel relatively new. I definitely still feel young.

We were in the researching phase when we joined. I'd just started opening up about being bisexual at that point. We didn't know anything about the swinger world. All of our initial information came from this site. Really, my original motivation to join the site was based on the fact that it was the one place I had found that seemed to have a pretty high concentration of bisexual women. I was more interested in learning about bisexuality than about swinging... I just kind of accidentally learned about swinging along the way.

Today, we're had more than a couple of experiences and changed more than a couple of rules. Eventually our relationship status was redefined as an "open relationship." We've both had the opportunity to pick up a few FBs. And we've also met some couples. All of our experiences have been valuable and I can't thank the members of this board enough for your knowledge, wisdom, and encouragment. You've all brought us a long way in the past couple of years and I know we're much better for it.

[destin-ez]

Wow, this thread is moving fast.....

Gee, seems like we should re-introduce ourselves. Life really is TOO busy

Anyway, my (Mr. D's) best friend just spent the night with us last night and, finally, wallah!! A great MFM!! This was the 4th time we've been together. The 1st 3 romps were so-so, lots or oral, but he had problems getting/staying hard. Not so with me of course This really concerned us, it even gave the Mrs. a slight swinging complex.

(Maybe this will help the lurkers and newbies here, not sure.) Anyway, the situation last night was totally different. Believe it or not, because of what we've learned here, I finally asked a couple of key questions to help him relax. It was simple, really. I asked him if there was anything I could do to get him in the mood or help him relax and finally relax, have fun and have sex with my wife. He said, "Yeah, I want you two to start things off". So, we did in a heartbeat, kicked things in gear, and before we knew it, he joined in.

SO, to all of you experineced swingers who post here, well, because of you, we had a great MFM and look forward to many more great "experiences".

Later

Mr. D

P.S. CA & ES and the other single males here, your threads/thoughts really opened my eyes. Thanks a bunch.

[JustAskJulie]

[socolais]

I really enjoyed reading through this old thread and seeing the stories unfold before my eyes.

Status upon joining: thoroughly confused!!! The kids were beginning to leave home, bedrooms were becomming available for alternative functions (crafting room, and we now have a guest room). We noticed that we were beginning to have more time available for ourselves - but had almost forgotten how to have real fun. We, or rather I, noticed there was something missing in our sex lives. We had become so accustomed to "leading by example" and living the strait laced life that there was little adventure left in our activities. The urge for something exciting grew stronger in my imagination. She appeared still stuck in the "Disney" reality wondering what she would do as the kids left the nest. The intensity of our passion we shared as newly-weds nearly thirty years ago had moderated to a very predictable pattern of once or twice a week and the same old activities that we knew so well.

A blogging acquantance mentioned how swinging had intensified their passion for each other and made life exciting for them again. At first, I couldn't accept how having sex with someone else could do anything positive. Even if it could somehow work, she'd NEVER go for something sinful like that!!! I began to explore. It did sound adventurous. I stumbled upon this board in my searches and read the posts for about a week before I joined. The folks here sounded pretty intelligent and mostly level headed. They appeared to be enjoying their activities and preserving a somewhat normal life. Hell, if they can do it, maybe we can too.

More reading and some mostly unintelligable posts from me. The pillow talk was getting exciting in the evenings. We both began to see ourselves in a different light. It took some guts to build our profile and contact some swingers just to talk.

Current status: We've been swinging just barely a year and loving the hell out of the way we feel about each other. We've got that honeymoon feeling again and we're closer than we ever imagined possible. We're regulars at one local recurring house party and attend a few others on occasion. Full swap, soft swap, threesomes, same room, separate room (hell, I even went to a party when she was out of state). We don't regulate our activities by rules and boundaries, we know what activities each other are comfortable with and we wouldn't want to cause any discomfort.

We've come a long way baby!!!

[sweet_tna]

Join Date: October 2007

Status then: Newbies, but we'd jumped in feet first and were loving it!

Status now: Not as new, and have found a home at our local meet & greet. We've had some amazing sex, and made some great friends. Mr. Sweet and I encountered our first stumbling block, which involved him learning how to actually deal with his feelings. We're not actively seeking new couples at the moment, but if we meet someone really great, we won't pass them by, either. Yeah, life is good.

=)

[Chris&Amelia]

Join Date: 08-02-2001 (Almost seven years ago... guess that makes me an "old man"!)

Status Then: Complete newbies. Total noobs. Utter nublets.

Status Now: Well, it's been a strange, but fun trip. We slowly made our way into the swinging world and had some fun, but around late 2003 decided, due to several factors, that we needed to take a break. We then went vanilla until deciding earlier this year that we wanted to test the waters and try again.

So we started back up and we've had a metric buttload of fun. The second try has been much, much better then our first one. We've met some incredible people and made some really great friends. The sex with our playmates have been awe-inspiring (makes me want to cry with joy just thinking about it... ), but nowhere near as good as time with Amelia. It really has jump-started our love-life.

There has been ups, and there has been some downs. But we're working through it and also improving both of our social skills.

To quote Sweet... yeah, life is good. Damn good.

[des1re06]

Joined Feb 07
Status then: talked about it for 8 years (the option was always on the table), and had a few swaps

You could call us fast or slow depending on how you look at it. We talked about it for years before jumping into full swap.

Status now: We're enjoying ourselves! Whether we soft or full swap, we always have fun. You could say we live the lifestyle, since we have a place full-time at a swinger's resort.

Mrs. D

[TNT]

Originally Posted by TNT

That's a hard question. We are very relaxed and experienced after almost six years of swinging, we've been there done that on just about any scenario you can think of. About the only thing we have not experienced is swinging separately...we have done this in house party type settings. Separate rooms with each of us totally alone with someone else still does not hold much appeal to either of us at this time....although it has been discussed and we feel that it might come to pass at some point. The one thing we have learned throughout the years is never say never as that is the first thing that you will find yourself doing and in our case liking it a lot . We are very at ease with things, we don't take things seriously and we just go with the flow and enjoy whatever might come to pass.

Teresa

Almost three years since we made the above post...not much has changed. Playing separately (either of us going out on our own) still doesn't hold much appeal for me, although I have played with a single male friend of ours alone and Ted really got off on it, so it's holding some appeal for him...playing separately at house parties has become more common. We're still going with the flow and playing as often as we can.


Teresa

[MIbbwcpl]

Date You joined the Swingers Board:1/02
Your Swinging status at the time (how long had you been swinging? Or were you a newbie?) We were newish to the lifestyle, had only been swinging for about a year or so.

Then, post where you are today in regards to swinger status. Have you had any major changes in the time you've been a member here? We've been swinging for 8 years or so. Still full swap. Do allow one partner to not wear a condom with me. We've also recently decided that whereas it would be nice to be friends first, it's not a mandate for partners. We're also realizing that meeting mates online is less likely, and clubs would be better for us. Funny, we met each other online and that's worked out great.

[two42lovers]

Joined in Feb 2008 - so we are still SB newbees. Started playing in Oct 2006.

Not a lot has changed since we joined, although we are playing more and more frequently, and have become convinced that fee-for-entry parties and clubs are not our cup of tea. The cover charge at our local bar is $5 each -lol- and the chances of actually finding someone to play with at the local bar has proven to be MUCH better (for us) than going to a fee-for-entry event. For us it's a waste of time & money. Turns out there are a lot of "swingers" that don't really go to fee-for-entry events to swing, and that's just fine! (but there it is.)

We have met and played with a lot of couples and singles at our local beach bar. We often tell new-to-us couples to meet us there for drinks. Works the same as telling people to meet you at a swinger club, but we don't need to pay the club for the privilege.

We are really feeling like we have reached our stride in the lifestyle. We have plenty of very cool, on-going play friends, we're meeting lots of new-to-us couples and singles via the swing sites (AFF & Swing Lifestyle), and we are playing every weekend. Life is good.