Swinging with Girlfriend not Wife

08-03-2003, 05:44 PM

I am married and my current girlfriend who is also married is interested in swinging. The idea really turns both of us on.

Would it be wrong for us to swing though we are really cheating on our partners already but not cheating on each other by swinging?

sexypairca · 08-03-2003, 06:27 PM

Well lets see

, the foundation of swinging is centered around open communication and honesty. Your current relationship already compromises both.

I would go out on a limb and guess that not only would it be wrong for the two of you to present yourselves as a commited couple to potential swing partners but also would not be well recieved as such unless you intend on deceiving everyone else also.

Annette

nikkilynn74 · 08-03-2003, 06:50 PM

I completely agree with the previous post. We would stay far away from that situation...too much drama!

Nikki

Mich149 · 08-03-2003, 07:02 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Unregistered
I am married and my current girlfriend who is also married is interested in swinging. The idea really turns both of us on.

Would it be wrong for us to swing though we are really cheating on our partners already but not cheating on each other by swinging?

since you are cheating on your wife & husband I doubt you really care that you two are cheating on each other as well. Is it WRONG? No more so the cheating in the first place. Sounds like you two can't make up your minds on what & who you want to do.

thump29 · 08-03-2003, 11:18 PM

I have to agree with the others on this one. Communication and Honestly is the two main things you need in swinging and you dont have either one.

It is wrong that you both are cheating on your spouses seems to me that neither of u know what you want. I feel really sorry for your spouses who are getting hurt because you two dont know what u want.

jncswing2003 · 08-03-2003, 11:19 PM

We feel swinging is about honesty. If you are cheating on your wife you are not being honest with her. Just our 2cents worth. (or is it four now.) *Hugs* JNC

**Alura** · 08-04-2003, 12:07 AM

My guess would be that it won't be easy. You could possible go to clubs and find someone to play with for the night but most swingers want to know the people they play with. You could lie and get away with it for awhile but eventually your partners would wonder why you never invite them to your home and other irregularities would probably put an end to the play.

If y'all are both married, why don't you talk with your spouses and see if they'd be interested in swinging? It'd be a whole lot better that living as constant liars.

Mr. Alura

***JustAskJulie*** · 08-04-2003, 04:56 PM

Sorry but two wrongs don't make a right. Just cuz you are already cheating on your spouses doesn't mean you won't still be cheating if you attempt to swing. I doubt seriously that any swinging couples will even consider swinging with you if you are honest about your status.

Handyman69 · 08-04-2003, 07:02 PM

We agree with Julie and the others. Cheating is cheating and we would not want to be in the situation. Cheating is not looked on very well in this lifestyle as you have seen written here.

Rhonda

St. Augustine · 08-04-2003, 07:07 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Unregistered
I am married and my current girlfriend who is also married is interested in swinging. The idea really turns both of us on.

Would it be wrong for us to swing though we are really cheating on our partners already but not cheating on each other by swinging?

Does your wife know about the girlfriend???

Brit_Pair · 08-05-2003, 05:46 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by nikkilynn74
I completely agree with the previous post. We would stay far away from that situation...too much drama!

Nikki

Drama? You're not kidding. Those guys should write a novel or a screenplay. There's money in their situation!

Michcouple · 08-07-2003, 11:49 AM

Ask yourself this question.....

How would feeling if your wife and her boyfriend started swinging?

I'll go out on a limb and say that you wouldn't like it. If thats the case, you might want to listen to your own advice. I know that me and my girlfriend wouldn't want swing with you, nor would most swinging couples.

windsor4fun2 · 08-07-2003, 12:11 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Unregistered
I am married and my current girlfriend who is also married is interested in swinging. The idea really turns both of us on.

Would it be wrong for us to swing though we are really cheating on our partners already but not cheating on each other by swinging?

I think it funny that you and your girlfriend try to justify swinging by saying you wouldn't be cheating on each other. Who cares! Your already cheating on your spouses and by swinging you would just be adding to the number of people you have cheated with.

It is unlikely there will be many swingers that would be interested in getting involved with you two.

Jesse

alabamafuntonig · 08-07-2003, 01:06 PM

oh my what a dilema

no wait its not a dilema its a crutch you are seeking, sort of moral support for a action you 2 really want to do! huh not happy at home ..so you cheat..now it appairs you are not satisfied with hte person you are cheating with so you seek a nother couple to share there fantisies with...sounds like a sickness in the making...do us a favor and find some support from a licenced theripist ! your problems go beyond should i swing or not there a little deeper .........

pammyjgcurious · 08-07-2003, 02:39 PM

We almost had our first meeting with a couple. It would only be with the guy, his partner is sick. However, he says he is married but his partner is not his wife. I don't know. I guess at least he is honest about that. He had to cancel at the last minute which is fine. I guess it does bother me a bit. We (the three of us) were going to meet but I felt pressured from him wanting to go as far as he could and this would be the first time I even saw him. I'd love to try

a 3some but I think we should at least meet the people who we are intersted in first, we are talking to a few other couples and that has been going great!
I don't know I really felt pressured on the phone with him. Hes going to call next week, I don't like feeling pressured, but I didn't feel this way till I got off the phone. What anyone think?
It is really none of my business if he is married and cheating, I don't even know if his wife knows about this.

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08-03-2003, 05:44 PM	#1 (permalink)
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08-03-2003, 06:27 PM	#2 (permalink)
sexypairca Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Mar 2002 Posts: 671 Location: Windsor, Ontario Status: married couple Swing Lifestyle Name:sexypairca	Well lets see , the foundation of swinging is centered around open communication and honesty. Your current relationship already compromises both. I would go out on a limb and guess that not only would it be wrong for the two of you to present yourselves as a commited couple to potential swing partners but also would not be well recieved as such unless you intend on deceiving everyone else also. Annette
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08-04-2003, 04:56 PM	#8 (permalink)
*JustAskJulie* Your Hostess Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 29,288 Location: In my House Status: Female Swing Lifestyle Name:swingersboard	Sorry but two wrongs don't make a right. Just cuz you are already cheating on your spouses doesn't mean you won't still be cheating if you attempt to swing. I doubt seriously that any swinging couples will even consider swinging with you if you are honest about your status.
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08-07-2003, 11:49 AM	#12 (permalink)
Michcouple Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Dec 2002 Posts: 845 Location: Michigan Status: couple	What do you think Ask yourself this question..... How would feeling if your wife and her boyfriend started swinging? I'll go out on a limb and say that you wouldn't like it. If thats the case, you might want to listen to your own advice. I know that me and my girlfriend wouldn't want swing with you, nor would most swinging couples.

08-03-2003, 06:50 PM	#3 (permalink)
nikkilynn74 Active Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 31 Location: Abilene, TX Status: Married Female	I completely agree with the previous post. We would stay far away from that situation...too much drama! Nikki

08-03-2003, 11:18 PM	#5 (permalink)
thump29 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Apr 2003 Posts: 333 Location: okeechobee, fl Status: couple	I have to agree with the others on this one. Communication and Honestly is the two main things you need in swinging and you dont have either one. It is wrong that you both are cheating on your spouses seems to me that neither of u know what you want. I feel really sorry for your spouses who are getting hurt because you two dont know what u want.

08-03-2003, 11:19 PM	#6 (permalink)
jncswing2003 Registered User Join Date: Mar 2003 Posts: 2 Location: Houston, Texas Status: Couple	We feel swinging is about honesty. If you are cheating on your wife you are not being honest with her. Just our 2cents worth. (or is it four now.) Hugs JNC

08-04-2003, 12:07 AM	#7 (permalink)
Alura Just a hick Okie Join Date: May 2001 Posts: 8,136 Location: Tulsa, Oklahoma Status: Widower	My guess would be that it won't be easy. You could possible go to clubs and find someone to play with for the night but most swingers want to know the people they play with. You could lie and get away with it for awhile but eventually your partners would wonder why you never invite them to your home and other irregularities would probably put an end to the play. If y'all are both married, why don't you talk with your spouses and see if they'd be interested in swinging? It'd be a whole lot better that living as constant liars. Mr. Alura

08-04-2003, 07:02 PM	#9 (permalink)
Handyman69 Here to Stay Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 553 Location: MI..God's country.so we thought. Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:handyman69	We agree with Julie and the others. Cheating is cheating and we would not want to be in the situation. Cheating is not looked on very well in this lifestyle as you have seen written here. Rhonda

08-07-2003, 01:06 PM	#14 (permalink)
alabamafuntonig Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2003 Posts: 1,357 Location: alabama Status: couple	oh my what a dilema no wait its not a dilema its a crutch you are seeking, sort of moral support for a action you 2 really want to do! huh not happy at home ..so you cheat..now it appairs you are not satisfied with hte person you are cheating with so you seek a nother couple to share there fantisies with...sounds like a sickness in the making...do us a favor and find some support from a licenced theripist ! your problems go beyond should i swing or not there a little deeper .........

08-07-2003, 02:39 PM	#15 (permalink)
pammyjgcurious Active Member Join Date: Jul 2003 Posts: 38 Location: IL Status: F1/2couple	We almost had our first meeting with a couple. It would only be with the guy, his partner is sick. However, he says he is married but his partner is not his wife. I don't know. I guess at least he is honest about that. He had to cancel at the last minute which is fine. I guess it does bother me a bit. We (the three of us) were going to meet but I felt pressured from him wanting to go as far as he could and this would be the first time I even saw him. I'd love to try a 3some but I think we should at least meet the people who we are intersted in first, we are talking to a few other couples and that has been going great! I don't know I really felt pressured on the phone with him. Hes going to call next week, I don't like feeling pressured, but I didn't feel this way till I got off the phone. What anyone think? It is really none of my business if he is married and cheating, I don't even know if his wife knows about this.
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