help - female cheater...

[WildFlower]

If it was me personally I would chalk it as a lesson learned. Next time ask the person there marital status and situation before giving out advice. Because I am sure if you had known she was going to the club with a guy who wasn't her husband and that her husband didn't have a clue about this you would of told her that clubs frown upon this behavior.
I have done the same thing before myself tryin to be helpful and given out advice only to have it backfire on me.
I hope the rant made you feel better.

[naughty A]

Thanks to those that helped. I was pretty sure I knew how I wanted to handle things but the way the situation snuck up on me just threw me for a loop.

I did email her back... I did feel obligated to do so because... I HAD offered to help her and answer questions about this club and the lifestyle. I have done so with many other people and many of the clubs I have attended... I do this as a sort of thank you to the mentor couple that initially made US feel comfortable and welcome in the lifestyle... it is the LEAST I can do.

She had initially posed as a couple and she IS... just not the conventional sort...

I explained that most people in the lifestyle are committed couples looking for friends among other committed couples that they would be able to see socially as well as sexually and her situation may not be welcomed and left it at that. have not heard back - don't expect to... if she still decides to show up at a dance... well that's her business...

I contacted one of the club owners without naming names and asked what the club policy was... "provided they don't break any of the rules... they are welcome to attend... how well received they are by the member couples/potential playmates is another story" but it did clarify things FOR ME.

and this I hope is the END.