Webcam Infidelity - Page 2

03-02-2003, 06:51 PM

Only you can decide what is right or wrong for the both of you. This reply is only MY and MY husbands view on cyber-webcams. We both feel it's cool as long as we tell each other about it "no hiding". There has been many men who have wanted to jerk off to me on their cams.....I don't know why?....... This jerking off on cam seems to feel sexy to SOME men mine included. I have just recenty watched a guy do this 4 me while my hubby was on his pc next to me both of us laughing and living it up. BY NO MEANS AT ALL DID THIS HAVE TO BE PLANED WITH THE FEMALE. You just jump in a room ask who wants to watch and you will get someone to say yea any time night or day. I have no one added as a buddy or do I even remember the names of guys, who have let me watch. I think it's goofy to get angery about porn also my husband and I both have watched porns together and alone and got off. We tell each other what we do and have LEARNED a lot about each other. We are also HARDCORE swingers we full swap differnt rooms or same rooms

. The major problem here is you felt cheated on and that's wrong! I would say if you feel so hurt you are not ready to share your sex with other couples... which is FINE....swinging is not for everyone and it has a emotional impact. EACH couple needs to find what works for them. If this is a no no for you then maybe he was not aware of that. I don't see that he was hiding this "i do belive it was not a one time thing thou" He left the cam and shorts out knowing he had to unlock the door???? how fast could he have put those things away???? maybe he wanted you to see! and maybe he feels he is not WRONG at all. The only thing we think of as cheating is not being honest and seeing people that the other partener has NO KNOWLEDEGE at all of..... for sex in real life for us that's cheating. EVERYONE has there ideal of cheating so if this felt like cheating to you let him know it felt bad to you!... have the activity stoped.

FlyBiNiter · 03-03-2003, 09:09 PM

Ok.. to me it's this simple:

He did it without your consent, so it's cheating even if it was on a web cam, and not in person.

Secondly, no matter what reason he gave for taking the cam with him, he took it so he could play some more on it while he was out of your sight. If he had no intention of doing so, he could have just put the damned thing in a drawer or a closet or something.

Looks to me like you need to have a really long talk before you even consider swinging with him. He obviously (to me anyway) is willing to sneak around and cheat and lie. If he'll do all that for cybersex, how far will he go for the real thing ?

Just my opinion, but I do speak from experience. Had this same exact thing done to me once upon a time.

J & K · 03-09-2003, 08:04 AM

"J" here the male half of "K"

I travel and took our web cam with me. I took it so I can cam with my wife and kids. We have an agreement not to webcam other cpls while being apart or going on a webcam site so others can see us unless we were to give eachother permission to do so.

If I was doing in here what the thread is based on my wife would kill me. We get on cam together and that is just plain rules for us. I know that caming with a stranger and wacking off would seem ok, but doing it to someone you know too without the S/O consent would seem unfair. Is it cheating? To some they say yes and others say no. It is up to the person catching the act to determine that. All of us here can tell you it is or isn't.

What you said about getting on cam doing the same thing is a "get-back". My wife would of said the same thing----what is good for the goose is good for the gander----as she puts it.

As many folks always say--TALK---is the best advice. He said sorry, but you didn't say he would not do it again. Still have some open doors here i think. Taking the web cam seems a little weird in my book unless he gave you a good reason.

Maybe swinging might have to be put on hold until you two get things out a little more in the open and have some ground rules. Wish You the best of luck!!!!

joseph3d · 03-23-2003, 12:38 AM

We think anything sexual that is done apart from the other partner without their knowledge or consent is dishonest and therefore cheating.

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03-02-2003, 06:51 PM	#16 (permalink)
xerogirl Guest Posts: n/a	Only you can decide what is right or wrong for the both of you. This reply is only MY and MY husbands view on cyber-webcams. We both feel it's cool as long as we tell each other about it "no hiding". There has been many men who have wanted to jerk off to me on their cams.....I don't know why?....... This jerking off on cam seems to feel sexy to SOME men mine included. I have just recenty watched a guy do this 4 me while my hubby was on his pc next to me both of us laughing and living it up. BY NO MEANS AT ALL DID THIS HAVE TO BE PLANED WITH THE FEMALE. You just jump in a room ask who wants to watch and you will get someone to say yea any time night or day. I have no one added as a buddy or do I even remember the names of guys, who have let me watch. I think it's goofy to get angery about porn also my husband and I both have watched porns together and alone and got off. We tell each other what we do and have LEARNED a lot about each other. We are also HARDCORE swingers we full swap differnt rooms or same rooms . The major problem here is you felt cheated on and that's wrong! I would say if you feel so hurt you are not ready to share your sex with other couples... which is FINE....swinging is not for everyone and it has a emotional impact. EACH couple needs to find what works for them. If this is a no no for you then maybe he was not aware of that. I don't see that he was hiding this "i do belive it was not a one time thing thou" He left the cam and shorts out knowing he had to unlock the door???? how fast could he have put those things away???? maybe he wanted you to see! and maybe he feels he is not WRONG at all. The only thing we think of as cheating is not being honest and seeing people that the other partener has NO KNOWLEDEGE at all of..... for sex in real life for us that's cheating. EVERYONE has there ideal of cheating so if this felt like cheating to you let him know it felt bad to you!... have the activity stoped.
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03-03-2003, 09:09 PM	#17 (permalink)
FlyBiNiter Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 121 Location: Oregon Status: Attached Female	Ok.. to me it's this simple: He did it without your consent, so it's cheating even if it was on a web cam, and not in person. Secondly, no matter what reason he gave for taking the cam with him, he took it so he could play some more on it while he was out of your sight. If he had no intention of doing so, he could have just put the damned thing in a drawer or a closet or something. Looks to me like you need to have a really long talk before you even consider swinging with him. He obviously (to me anyway) is willing to sneak around and cheat and lie. If he'll do all that for cybersex, how far will he go for the real thing ? Just my opinion, but I do speak from experience. Had this same exact thing done to me once upon a time.

03-09-2003, 08:04 AM	#18 (permalink)
J & K Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Oct 2002 Posts: 192 Location: Middle GA Status: Couple Swing Lifestyle Name:OKC_CPL	"J" here the male half of "K" I travel and took our web cam with me. I took it so I can cam with my wife and kids. We have an agreement not to webcam other cpls while being apart or going on a webcam site so others can see us unless we were to give eachother permission to do so. If I was doing in here what the thread is based on my wife would kill me. We get on cam together and that is just plain rules for us. I know that caming with a stranger and wacking off would seem ok, but doing it to someone you know too without the S/O consent would seem unfair. Is it cheating? To some they say yes and others say no. It is up to the person catching the act to determine that. All of us here can tell you it is or isn't. What you said about getting on cam doing the same thing is a "get-back". My wife would of said the same thing----what is good for the goose is good for the gander----as she puts it. As many folks always say--TALK---is the best advice. He said sorry, but you didn't say he would not do it again. Still have some open doors here i think. Taking the web cam seems a little weird in my book unless he gave you a good reason. Maybe swinging might have to be put on hold until you two get things out a little more in the open and have some ground rules. Wish You the best of luck!!!!

03-23-2003, 12:38 AM	#19 (permalink)
joseph3d Here to Stay Join Date: Nov 2002 Posts: 57 Location: Dallas, TX Status: Couple	We think anything sexual that is done apart from the other partner without their knowledge or consent is dishonest and therefore cheating.