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L&K · 10-30-2002, 06:19 PM

I think i may have missed what Julie was driving at here , i still would avoid lust feelings , but i have been a very commited man for many years, a swinger for a very short time .

I do understand about the chase being more fun then catch , i am a flirt and all ways have been for just that reason . I still dont see just how lust fits in but hey im only a man . For me to flirt and have fun with it i keep lust out of the way . Im looking to have fun not injury from a wife .

M

incommunicado · 10-30-2002, 07:36 PM

quote:
[/QB]I have to disagree here. I think it can be more dangerous if that lust isn't taken care of. IE. if they don't fuck their brains out and get it out of their system.

I have dealt with many a guy who has had a major jones for me that only screwing me would cure.[/QB]

I gotta respecfully, vehemently, disagree right back atcha! [Wink]

To quote Mick Jagger "You can't always get what you want."

I don't believe for one minute that, if those guys didn't have sex with you or you didn't have sex with them, life was simply just not going to move forward. That's exactly the level of lust/attraction that I believe is meant to be denied permanently.

Saying, basically, "sometimes lust is so strong you just gotta fuck and get it out of your system" is wrong, because you can't temper that kind of total indulgence with circumstantial boundaries. You can't say "Sometimes lust is so strong you just gotta fuck, unless...(insert reason here);. You either see the danger in that level of lust/attraction, and you reject it, or you accept it as undeniable, regardless of circumstance. Then you would have an easy time explaining to my philandering friend's wife that he simply HAD to screw all those women and get it out of his system.

Plain and simple there's such a thing as being "too into it."

[ October 31, 2002, 12:22 AM: Message edited by: incommunicado ]

***JustAskJulie*** · 10-31-2002, 01:35 PM

quote:
I don't believe for one minute that, if those guys didn't have sex with you or you didn't have sex with them, life was simply just not going to move forward.

At what point did I say that life would not move forward?

incommunicado · 11-01-2002, 12:47 AM

"At what point did I say that life would not move forward?"

Actually, you kind of did when you said:

"I have to disagree here. I think it can be more dangerous if that lust isn't taken care of. IE. if they don't fuck their brains out and get it out of their system."

and

"I have dealt with many a guy who has had a major jones for me that only screwing me would cure."

This alludes very strongly to the idea that nothing can move forward until this is taken care of.

Perhaps that's not what you were suggesting.

[ November 01, 2002, 12:50 AM: Message edited by: incommunicado ]

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10-30-2002, 07:36 PM	#17 (permalink)
incommunicado Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 198 Location: Baltimore, MD	quote: [/QB]I have to disagree here. I think it can be more dangerous if that lust isn't taken care of. IE. if they don't fuck their brains out and get it out of their system. I have dealt with many a guy who has had a major jones for me that only screwing me would cure.[/QB] I gotta respecfully, vehemently, disagree right back atcha! To quote Mick Jagger "You can't always get what you want." I don't believe for one minute that, if those guys didn't have sex with you or you didn't have sex with them, life was simply just not going to move forward. That's exactly the level of lust/attraction that I believe is meant to be denied permanently. Saying, basically, "sometimes lust is so strong you just gotta fuck and get it out of your system" is wrong, because you can't temper that kind of total indulgence with circumstantial boundaries. You can't say "Sometimes lust is so strong you just gotta fuck, unless...(insert reason here);. You either see the danger in that level of lust/attraction, and you reject it, or you accept it as undeniable, regardless of circumstance. Then you would have an easy time explaining to my philandering friend's wife that he simply HAD to screw all those women and get it out of his system. Plain and simple there's such a thing as being "too into it." [ October 31, 2002, 12:22 AM: Message edited by: incommunicado ]

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10-30-2002, 06:19 PM	#16 (permalink)
L&K Join Date: Jul 2002 Posts: 197 Location: michigan Status: couple	I think i may have missed what Julie was driving at here , i still would avoid lust feelings , but i have been a very commited man for many years, a swinger for a very short time . I do understand about the chase being more fun then catch , i am a flirt and all ways have been for just that reason . I still dont see just how lust fits in but hey im only a man . For me to flirt and have fun with it i keep lust out of the way . Im looking to have fun not injury from a wife . M

11-01-2002, 12:47 AM	#19 (permalink)
incommunicado Swingers Board Addict Join Date: May 2002 Posts: 198 Location: Baltimore, MD	"At what point did I say that life would not move forward?" Actually, you kind of did when you said: "I have to disagree here. I think it can be more dangerous if that lust isn't taken care of. IE. if they don't fuck their brains out and get it out of their system." and "I have dealt with many a guy who has had a major jones for me that only screwing me would cure." This alludes very strongly to the idea that nothing can move forward until this is taken care of. Perhaps that's not what you were suggesting. [ November 01, 2002, 12:50 AM: Message edited by: incommunicado ]