Husband played with female friend after I said not to

[prettylady]

I have a great sence of humor. Have you read my posts, any of them?
If you have then you would see that I am fun and wity.
Perhaps with the heat of this thread and the fact that sarcasm does not traslate well in type, you should not have made an ironic statement.
I am the first Canadian born to my family. The rest were from Kidderminster England. The midlands, being from the UK I am sure you know of the midlands. So rarely is British humor lost on me. But I did not see any there. Like I said, perhaps it is the heat of the thread.
Sorry, I said I would not show my avatar here again, but I pride myself on my quick wit and sence of humor.
Your friend,
Prettylady

peace out

[cataryna]

Originally Posted by LOL_OMG

Just read the post and all the bleh bleh's after and I would like to get back to the ORIGINAL post. I don't believe this is a swinger issue, because as you had stated you and the MR always did things together.

Okay I know I'm new here but I have been swinging and posting on our local swinger yahoo groups for a long time so I've seen and heard just about every question imaginable about things that happen in the lifestyle and I don't understand why people are saying this isn't a swinger issue. Obviously, by the OPs originally statements they have been involved in swinging, the events that happened the night in question very well may have an effect on their future participation in the lifestyle. The mere fact that she stated that they always did things together, but that he went outside of their boundaries makes it a swinger issue. Will she be able to trust him again in the future to not break their boundaries?

Whether or not this is a genuine post or not, the questions posed in it and as a result of it, are genuine and the suggestions offered very well might help someone else in a similar situation.

To the OP (or to others who may be in a similar situation) I understand why you would feel betrayed by your husband and friends actions...obviously your husband knew what he did was wrong which is why he did not tell you about it. I hope that you and your husband can work through the issues this has brought about. Continue talking to each other and sharing your feelings and remember than not only did you lose a child, but so did he. As for the child your friend might be carrying, love it as if it were your own. I saw that you mentioned that the friend is single...maybe she might be acceptable to being a surrogate mother and letting you and your husband have the child after it is born. I know it's not the same as a child from your own body, but if you and your husband want a child as bad as you say you do, than maybe it's better to accept someone else's child as your own then to not have one at all.

[transplantdbrit]

Hello everyone,

I see that it seems I am still a troll. Oh well I guess. For the member that has slammed me for using the "C" word. Honestly, shame on you. I survived 13 months of chemotherapy, and 130 rads of radiation weekly to make it. Going to the NIH here is the US was no picnic, but they did the job and I'm still kicking. If you would care to actually see the person you are slamming, I will be happy to let you. I can show you the before, during and after photos of myself if you'd like. As far as your personal take on my current situation, you have offered absolutely no help. Many other have, but you have been abusive and tasteless. By the by, the gf in question has started her monthly. I have said my part to her and have bidden her goodbye. My hubby is in the dog house, but we have come through so much during the course of our marriage, and will surely work through this too.

To everyone that offered perspective on my topic, thank you. It has been received with much gratitude. Now moderator, please close this thread as it is now pointless. Once things are worked out here, I will possibly be back to join in discussions of a much happier nature. Until then, take care of yourselves and each other.
Regards,
Transplantdbrit (Catie)

[MoonLightKiss]

I am glad things have worked out for you or at least some questions got answered. I am sure things will work out with your spouse as well.

[JustAskJulie]

Transplant, I too am glad to hear that things have worked out for you in this situation. I do apologize for the treatment that you got here from a few, but please don't let that taint you view of the whole. I do hope that once you guys work through this (and I know you will) that you will join us here and share your thoughts on many other topics.