Swinging or Cheating??

billygoat4u · 11-04-2006, 06:20 AM

We are finding more n more married people that are playing in the name of swinging without the knowledge of their spouse.
To us that is CHEATING...not swinging.
What's your opinion?

Darkblue · 11-04-2006, 06:24 AM

Of course thats cheating!! if the spouse doesnt know then thats not swinging at all!!

Swinging = all spouse know and are present(mostly)

Cheaters = spouses do not know whats going on behind their back..

Anyone disagree??

**rpu3** · 11-04-2006, 06:27 AM

It's cheating IMO and cheating is the antithesis to swinging.

This topic is regularly discussed or debated on the boards, especially when a married man poses or admits to being single. There are very nicely written opinions already out there.

This one was a paticular favorite of mine:
My own opinion on cheating husbands

flkeyscouple · 11-04-2006, 07:19 AM

I can't imagine anyone will disagree - spouse not knowing is cheating! No question about it.

Sarah

telly2 · 11-04-2006, 07:45 AM

If it is done behind ones back then it is cheating and that is that. I don't think any of us would disagree with that.
Chantal

pumpkins1970 · 11-04-2006, 10:00 AM

Cheating, plain and simple.ANYone that says it's not, hasn't a clue as to what the lifestyle is about.

oddcouple2841 · 11-04-2006, 10:07 AM

This is K (the male)

It is definately cheating and any couple or single that meets someone who is cheating is definately setting themselves up to be dragged into a mess. I can attest first hand to how bad it hurts when you find the other is cheating on you. My ex wife did that and that is why we are "ex's". believe me it is almost like your spouse died. It hurts that bad for the one left out of the loop and the trust is almost impossible to ever rebuild. I just don't want to ever be the cause of that kind of hurt to anyone.

Remember what goes around comes around. That is why we screen so hard to make sure we don't end up with a cheater!

If they really want to be swingers they need to let their partner know and if the partner does not want to participate or give them their blessing to go it alone then they need to get divorced or forget the whole thing.

ShellyM · 11-04-2006, 10:09 AM

Yep, put me down for cheating.
I did see one profile where the guy actually had the balls to admit that he was cheating on his wife. We didn't respond of course, but I thought at least he is honest. Other than that its the "businessman" in Austin or San Antonio who has his wife's permission....

On the other hand, though. We are friends with a married swinging couple, and she is going out of town for a week on business. Her husband actually set up her date with a man, and they are going to have sex in front of the webcam while her husband watches! So, I suppose that it does happen rarely.

oddcouple2841 · 11-04-2006, 11:15 AM

ShellyM - Please take a look at the post I just made Couples Swinging Individually My attitude is that if the other partner is aware and is "really" okay with this then it is not cheating. I can see some potential problems though.

Tybee Swing · 11-04-2006, 11:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by billygoat4u

We are finding more n more married people that are playing in the name of swinging without the knowledge of their spouse.
To us that is CHEATING...not swinging.
What's your opinion?

Yes, absolutely cheating. Why I believe cheaters like to call themselves swingers: to justify what they do, at least to themselves. I've never yet met a cheater that didn't have a million excuses and try to white-wash everything they do with BS.

Calling cheating by any other name is BS.

billygoat4u · 11-04-2006, 12:17 PM

Thanks to all for your coment.
Thats how we feel as well.

We belong to and help run a group for biker/swingers, the cpl that started the group have no trouble playing with these people or them being in the group.
We have no problem with rideing with them, just won't play with them.
So just another thing we have to keep n eye open for during group play.
If their there solo we don't play with ya (unless we know for a fact your single).

miacpl30 · 11-09-2006, 02:44 PM

How about people that are married to other people but their swing partner is not their husband or wife? I guess to each his own but how do people feel about that.

havefuninsun · 11-09-2006, 02:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by miacpl30

How about people that are married to other people but their swing partner is not their husband or wife? I guess to each his own but how do people feel about that.

Unless the spouses of both couples know, they're both cheating. Cheating Swingers!

Spoomonkey · 11-09-2006, 03:07 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by miacpl30

How about people that are married to other people but their swing partner is not their husband or wife? I guess to each his own but how do people feel about that.

I have to agree with havefuninsun - having a playmate doesn't make you less of a cheater... It simply gives you an accomplice.

Spoomonkey

oddcouple2841 · 11-09-2006, 06:33 PM

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11-04-2006, 06:20 AM	#1 (permalink)
billygoat4u Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 28 Location: NH Status: couple SLS Name:billygoat694u	Swinging or Cheating?? We are finding more n more married people that are playing in the name of swinging without the knowledge of their spouse. To us that is CHEATING...not swinging. What's your opinion?

11-04-2006, 06:24 AM	#2 (permalink)
Darkblue Steve and Susanne Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 227 Location: Germany Status: Couple SLS Name:darkblue	Re: Swinging or Cheating?? Of course thats cheating!! if the spouse doesnt know then thats not swinging at all!! Swinging = all spouse know and are present(mostly) Cheaters = spouses do not know whats going on behind their back.. Anyone disagree??

11-04-2006, 06:27 AM	#3 (permalink)
rpu3 Doing it our way... Join Date: May 2006 Posts: 2,505 Location: Ohio Status: Married Female SLS Name:rpu3 Blog Entries: 2	Re: Swinging or Cheating?? It's cheating IMO and cheating is the antithesis to swinging. This topic is regularly discussed or debated on the boards, especially when a married man poses or admits to being single. There are very nicely written opinions already out there. This one was a paticular favorite of mine: My own opinion on cheating husbands __________________ I'll give up my bad habits as soon as equally satisfying good habits become available. A. Brilliant

11-04-2006, 07:19 AM	#4 (permalink)
flkeyscouple Sarah&Roger's Female Half Join Date: Sep 2006 Posts: 1,160 Location: FL Status: couple-female half SLS Name:floridakeyscouple	Re: Swinging or Cheating?? I can't imagine anyone will disagree - spouse not knowing is cheating! No question about it. Sarah

11-04-2006, 07:45 AM	#5 (permalink)
telly2 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 275 Location: copper cliff ontario canada Status: female of couple	Re: Swinging or Cheating?? If it is done behind ones back then it is cheating and that is that. I don't think any of us would disagree with that. Chantal __________________ "There's only us There's only this ...Forget regret or life is yours to miss No day but today"

11-04-2006, 10:00 AM	#6 (permalink)
pumpkins1970 Swingers Board Addict Join Date: Jun 2005 Posts: 125 Location: Sterling Heights, MI Status: couple	Re: Swinging or Cheating?? Cheating, plain and simple.ANYone that says it's not, hasn't a clue as to what the lifestyle is about.

11-04-2006, 10:07 AM	#7 (permalink)
oddcouple2841 Here to Stay Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 75 Location: Linton, IN Status: Couple SLS Name:lntncpl	Re: Swinging or Cheating?? This is K (the male) It is definately cheating and any couple or single that meets someone who is cheating is definately setting themselves up to be dragged into a mess. I can attest first hand to how bad it hurts when you find the other is cheating on you. My ex wife did that and that is why we are "ex's". believe me it is almost like your spouse died. It hurts that bad for the one left out of the loop and the trust is almost impossible to ever rebuild. I just don't want to ever be the cause of that kind of hurt to anyone. Remember what goes around comes around. That is why we screen so hard to make sure we don't end up with a cheater! If they really want to be swingers they need to let their partner know and if the partner does not want to participate or give them their blessing to go it alone then they need to get divorced or forget the whole thing.

11-04-2006, 10:09 AM	#8 (permalink)
ShellyM Jay's Bumper Buddy Join Date: Jun 2006 Posts: 2,299 Location: San Marcos, TEXAS Status: On the prowl for man meat SLS Name:lost_j1	Re: Swinging or Cheating?? Yep, put me down for cheating. I did see one profile where the guy actually had the balls to admit that he was cheating on his wife. We didn't respond of course, but I thought at least he is honest. Other than that its the "businessman" in Austin or San Antonio who has his wife's permission.... On the other hand, though. We are friends with a married swinging couple, and she is going out of town for a week on business. Her husband actually set up her date with a man, and they are going to have sex in front of the webcam while her husband watches! So, I suppose that it does happen rarely. __________________ Merry Christmas and a Ho Ho Ho Shelly

11-04-2006, 11:15 AM	#9 (permalink)
oddcouple2841 Here to Stay Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 75 Location: Linton, IN Status: Couple SLS Name:lntncpl	Re: Swinging or Cheating?? ShellyM - Please take a look at the post I just made Couples Swinging Individually My attitude is that if the other partner is aware and is "really" okay with this then it is not cheating. I can see some potential problems though. __________________ What's good for the goose is good for the gander

11-04-2006, 12:17 PM	#11 (permalink)
billygoat4u Here to Stay Join Date: Sep 2005 Posts: 28 Location: NH Status: couple SLS Name:billygoat694u	Re: Swinging or Cheating?? Thanks to all for your coment. Thats how we feel as well. We belong to and help run a group for biker/swingers, the cpl that started the group have no trouble playing with these people or them being in the group. We have no problem with rideing with them, just won't play with them. So just another thing we have to keep n eye open for during group play. If their there solo we don't play with ya (unless we know for a fact your single).

11-09-2006, 02:44 PM	#12 (permalink)
miacpl30 Here to Stay Join Date: Jul 2004 Posts: 13 Location: South Florida Status: Couple	Re: Swinging or Cheating?? How about people that are married to other people but their swing partner is not their husband or wife? I guess to each his own but how do people feel about that.

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